Wedding Party: Are Wedding Attendants Required?

Q:

For a number of reasons, we have decided not to have wedding attendants. Each of us would like to be escorted down the aisle by both of our parents. The mother of the groom says this isn't appropriate. I know it's unusual, but is there really a reason why we must have attendants? Our parents will be the marriage license witnesses.

A:

The only thing attendants must do is serve as witnesses and sign your marriage certificate, and your parents can fill those roles. So, no -- there's no other reason you need attendants. Sounds like his mom's upset or uncomfortable because you are going against tradition. You might want to point out to her that both parents escort the bride and groom in a Jewish wedding, and that you two really like that idea. Hopefully she'll realize that it's not only not a big deal but also a wonderfully personal touch.


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