Wedding Family Matters: Don't Want Fiance's Brother to be Best Man in Wedding?
My fiance and I have been together for eight years, and just recently set a wedding date. His 23-year-old brother is always rude to me when we are in the same room, and has twice even referred to me using a racial slur. This has been going on about 2 1/2 years, and I've never done anything to antagonize him. My fiance excuses his brother's behavior, saying he doesn't mean those things, or that he was "only joking". This weekend the brother asked if he could be the best man in our wedding, and my fiance said yes. I am livid. I feel that giving him this honor is condoning the lack of respect his brother has shown me. I have explained all of this to my fiance and he has agreed to consider "un-asking" his brother. Am I being unreasonable? And if not, how can he do this without starting a major battle? His brother is a spoiled brat, and we are worried about how he'll take the news.
Best Man: Can I Have More Than One Best Man?
I want to have two girlfriends stand up with me at my wedding -- a maid of honor, as well as a matron of honor. Since I like symmetry, there needs to be two men on the groom's side, but what would their titles be? We don't want to designate one as more important than the other.