Bridal Shower: Can the Sister of the Groom Host a Wedding Shower?

Q: Is it appropriate for the groom's sister to give the bridal shower?

A: Why not? Many etiquette books will tell you it's completely inappropriate for the bride's relatives to host a shower, because it looks like they're trying to get gifts for the bride. (Of course, that is the entire purpose of a shower, but what can you do.) This attitude sometimes extends to the groom's relatives, too (he'll get to use the gifts, after all). In the real world, however, the shower is more ofthen than not hosted by bride's mother or sister, even though the honor attendant is the 'traditional' hostess. Following from that, it's absolutely fine for the groom's sister to host a shower. In fact, it's more than fine -- it's a wonderful, affectionate gesture toward a soon-to-be sister-in-law.

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We are being pressured by the mother of the groom to have an engagement party for our newly engaged daughter and future son-in-law. The wedding is a ways away, after college graduation and jobs are secured. I say throwing a wedding engagement party now is precipitous, and I would like to wait. Also, which side of the family is responsible for such a party, or can either side initiate it?

by The Knot