Can We Ask for Money as a Wedding Gift?

Q: Is it rude to ask for monetary wedding gifts? We already have a blender (and pretty much everything else!).

A: Well, you should never ask for specific gifts, monetary or otherwise. What you can do is set up a cash registry with us on The Newlywed Fund, where you can add non-traditional items and experiences to your registry. It works just like a traditional registry and feels more buttoned-up than just collecting checks from your loved ones. Make sure to let your parents, siblings, wedding party and close friends know that this is your preferred registry, if guests ask. You'll also want to add it to your wedding website too. But like any registry and gift preference, don't announce it in a formal way to your guests, and whatever you do, don't mention it on the invitation. Still, some guests will want to buy you material gifts, so it's a good idea to register at a store for a few items. And of course, be sure to accept and acknowledge every gift gracefully (that means send out thank-you notes).


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My partner and I didn’t register at any stores because I own my home and it’s fully furnished. We’re expecting we'll receive some cash gifts at the wedding and plan to use them on several home improvement projects, such as building a bar in our partially finished basement and doing some remodeling in our bathroom. Is it acceptable or appropriate to write about the use of the money in our wedding thank you notes?

by The Knot