Q&A: Invitation Wording: What if We Eloped?

Q: My fiancé and I were originally planning a destination wedding in Greece, but now we've decided to whittle our guest list down to just the two of us and simply elope. Instead of a wedding overseas, we'd like to celebrate with a reception when we get back. How should we word our invitations so people know we're already married?

A: No matter where you married, an invitation to a reception after you've already wed would read something like this: Lucy and Douglas Stone request the honor of your presence at a celebration of their marriage. (Followed, of course, by the date, time, location, and so on.) This example is assuming you're hosting the wedding -- if one or the other sets of parents are hosting, you'd adjust accordingly. Likewise, you could make the tone a bit less formal. And of course, one sure-fire way to let people know the deal -- you could send a picture of your private ceremony (or your overjoyed "just married!" faces) with each invite.

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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot