Q&A: Invitation Wording: Including Names of Deceased Parents?

Q: My father died a few years ago, and I was wondering how to word my invitations. Do I incude his name as well as my mother's?

A: Parents who have passed away are not included by name on invitations. Even though this may seem cold, there's a logical explanation: The invite is issued by the hosts of the party. But you can and should remember your dad on your wedding day. Have his favorite poem read at the ceremony, play his favorite song, light a candle for him, say a few words about how you wish he were there, or write a tribute for your program. Any of these (or a combination) is a wonderful gesture.


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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot