Wedding Family Matters: Do I Have to Get a Wedding Gift for Future In-laws?
Q: One of the biggest benefits to planning my wedding has been how much closer I've gotten with my mom and dad. They've been there for me every step of the way, and it's meant so much to me. I'd love to recognize them at our wedding rehearsal dinner and honor them with a wedding gift, but will it seem like I'm snubbing my in-laws if I do?
A: It's quite the conundrum -- you want to single out your parents, but if you do, you may risk offending your new in-laws. You can't ignore your in-laws at the rehearsal dinner, so you need to figure out a way around it. If you want to give your parents a gift that's really from you personally, you should enlist your fiance to take care of his mom and dad. Simply say, "I want to give my parents a gift that's just from me at the rehearsal dinner, and I think it would be really great if you did the same for yours." Hopefully he'll think it's a great idea, and his parents will certainly appreciate the recognition from their boy -- enabling you to honor your own parents without downplaying their contributions or worrying about offending anyone else.