Bridal Shower: How Does a Couple Wedding Shower Work?

Q: My fiance and I feel many weddings focus too much on the bride. We are trying to make ours about us as a couple, and we would like to have a couple wedding shower. Our families love the idea but don't have a clue about how to plan this kind of party. How do couple wedding showers work?

A: Kudos to you for making your wedding about the two of you! A couple shower is much more like a cocktail or dinner party than a bridal shower. Both female and male relatives and close friends are invited. The party still revolves around gifts; the difference is that they are presented to both bride and groom. The party can range from an afternoon barbecue at your parents' place to a dinner at your favorite restaurant or banquet hall. There are no hard-and-fast rules about planning a couple shower, so do what feels best to all of you.

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