Q&A: How Much Time Should We Allow for RSVPs?

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Q: How much time do you allow for guests to return reception response cards? My wedding is 11 months away. If invitations should go out six to eight weeks before the wedding, what date should I put on the response cards?

A: Your RSVP deadline should be set for no later than two weeks before your wedding day. Mark the date on your planning schedule or checklist, then, if the date passes and there are guests you still haven't heard from, pick up the phone and give them a call so that you can give your caterer and other vendors a final head count.


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My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

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