Q&A: Invitation Wording: Include a Dress Code?

Q:

Is it considered rude to write "black-tie" on the wedding invitations? My mom says guests won't come if they have to wear a tux.

A:

It might be a hassle for some of your guests to rent a tux (especially if you don't run with the opera-benefit crowd), and good hostesses don't hassle their guests. A simple solution is to use the wording "black-tie invited" or "black-tie optional." That way, those who own tuxes or don't mind renting one will go ahead and wear them, and other male guests will know they should wear a nice dark suit. Mentioning the formality of your wedding will also help female guests know what they should wear. Do it that way and everyone will know that your wedding will be formal, and that they should dress appropriately -- tux or no tux.


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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot