Wedding Family Matters: Not Inviting Gay Father's Partner to Wedding?
Q: My fiance's father is gay. Although my fiance doesn't mind, he has trouble telling our wedding guests. Is it impolite to tell his father he cannot bring his partner, so he won't be embarrassed on our wedding day?
A: Whether or not it's polite is a matter of opinion, but it would definitely be hurtful to his dad. You say your fiance doesn't mind that his dad is gay, but obviously it upsets him if he doesn't want others to know. This is a tough one, but your fiance (and you) need to ask yourselves: What's more important, his dad's feelings (and directly related to that, your fiance's relationship with his dad) or what other people think? This decision is up to you two.