Wedding Guest List: Invite Bridesmaid's Boyfriend to the Wedding?

Q: One of my bridesmaids is in an on-again, off-again relationship. I know the guy's name, but I don't consider him a friend. Assuming they're still together by the time the wedding rolls around, I realize he should be invited, since she definitely considers him to be her significant other when they're together. But if they break up, I don't want to have sent him his own invite and have him show up! (They don't live together, so they'd each have their own.) Would it be way too tacky to invite my bridesmaid "and guest"?

A: You're already trying to do the right thing, so just run it by your friend to ensure no feelings are hurt. Bridesmaids are used to brides confiding in them, so broach the topic by bringing up guest-list gripes. Then, without hinting at the rocky nature of their relationship, say, "Hey, should I invite you plus a guest or send Jake his own invitation?" Her response will tell you exactly how to handle it.


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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot