Q&A: Invitations: Inviting Singles With Guests?

Q: We're having a small wedding. Do we have to invite Mr. Smith "and Guest"? One friend told me that if he's not seriously dating someone, I can just address the invite to Mr. Smith, and he'll know he's not supposed to invite someone. Is that true? What do I do if guests reply for two anyway?

A: Your friend is right. Most guests will understand that without "and Guest" or another name on the invitation, it's meant for them alone. Especially if you're having a small wedding, you probably won't invite singles to bring escorts, except for serious significant others. Technically, you're not supposed to write "and Guest" -- you should find out the significant other's name. Even so, you'll probably see a decent number of invitations addressed to "and Guest" in your life, because it's easier than asking all the single guests whom they're planning to bring (that doesn't make it right, but what can you do).What to do if some clueless souls reply for two? Call them up and explain that you are having an intimate wedding and unfortunately were not able to invite everyone with a guest. People should understand. Don't feel bad -- it's your wedding, and only the people who are explicitly invited are supposed to respond.


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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot