Q&A: Invitations: Is Tissue Paper Necessary?

Q: A friend of ours is getting married soon -- she and her mother have a difference of opinion on how the invitations are to be mailed out, specifically the tissue paper that comes with each invitation. Please settle the dispute.

A: Tissue paper is included with invitations so the ink doesn't smudge. But most invites these days are made with ink that really isn't going to smudge -- the tissue tradition continues more out of habit than for any other reason. Traditionally, the tissue is left in, but if it's really annoying your friend (or her mom) and isn't needed to stop smudging, it's fine to remove it before sealing and sending the invites.

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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot