Wedding Processional: Can't Have Dad Father Walk Me Down the Aisle!


My father was going to give me away, but now he won't do it because he thinks it's a sexist wedding tradition. What should I do?


It all depends on how important it is to you to have your dad in the procession. If you really don't want to walk down the aisle alone, there's nothing wrong with telling your father that if you don't think it's sexist for him to walk you down the aisle, you don't understand why he does -- and thus try to coax him into his traditional role. Remind him that if he's worried about offending you, he needn't be. Remember, in this day and age your wedding can be as traditional or nontraditional as you like. There are several options for today's bride and groom as to how and with whom they walk down the aisle:

  • The bride can give herself away, walking alone.

  • The bride's mother can give her away (she did give birth to her, after all).

  • Both of the bride's parents can walk behind her down the aisle, giving her away together.

  • The bride and groom can proceed down the aisle together, partners before -- as well as after -- their marriage

The most important thing is that you choose something you can live with, because the walk down the aisle is a pretty solemn and significant moment. It just might be the part of the wedding you remember best.

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