Q&A: Save-the-Dates: Proper Wording?

Q: I'm getting married next spring. It will be a large wedding, and we are inviting many out-of-town guests. To allow them to make travel plans early, we would like to send out save-the-dates a few months prior to the formal invitations. Because we are inviting so many guests, the wording will be preprinted on the cards. Can you give me some appropriate wording ideas?

A: For save-the-dates, the wording doesn't have to be anything exceptionally formal. Something like "Save the weekend: Jane and John are getting married (or just, “We are getting married") on Saturday, April 24th in Chicago. Invitations and hotel information will be sent in early March." This way, your guests know what to expect, and they'll be able to get in touch with you if they have questions. Include the year after the date, if you'd like. Just make sure that everyone who gets this card is someone who will definitely be on your final guest list: Once you tell them to save your wedding date, they're as good as invited, and there's no turning back.

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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot