Remarriage: How to Write Names on Wedding Invitations for the Third-Time Bride?

Q: My friend is getting married for the third time. She needs to get her wedding invitations printed ASAP. What name should she use -- her maiden name or her last husband's name?

A: The bride would probably want to use the name by which most people know her, right? If she has kept her second husband's last name and many guests know her by that name, it makes sense to put that name on the invite so people know it's her wedding! But it's also understandable that she might not want to put her former hubby's last name on the invites, even if it is hers legally. If guests will recognize her maiden name, then it's fine to use it on the invitations. She should decide what's most practical -- and what's most comfortable for everyone involved.


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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot