Q&A: Guest List: Should I Invite My Secretary?

Q:

My secretary is inviting me to her wedding. Should I invite her to mine? I'm not inviting coworkers, just my peers.

A:

By peers, do you mean professional peers, or friends? If you're not inviting any work associates, it might make your secretary uncomfortable to be at your wedding. On the other hand, since she is inviting you as a courtesy, it might be nice to do the same for her (keep in mind that she may not necessarily attend). It depends on your relationship as well: Are you friendly above and beyond work, or is it strictly professional? There's not a definitel answer on this one -- it's all about not hurting her feelings, and only you know if she'll be offended if she's not invited.

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