The Best Relationship Advice From Real Uber Drivers

Their wisdom knows no bounds.
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The Knot
Updated Apr 12, 2019

Uber drivers have seen (and heard) some things—they get an oddly intimate glimpse into all kinds of relationships and conversations, even if it's only for a few blocks. (We've all had a late-night heart-to-heart with an Uber driver—it's nothing to be ashamed of.) So, it's no surprise tons of drivers say they've given love and relationship advice to their riders, and basically double as love gurus. Get ready for the wisest, sweetest, funniest and realest marriage advice straight from Uber drivers.

"The best advice I would have for Uber riders would be to disconnect from their phones and pick their heads up. Too many times I see couples glued to their phones, and I would recommend putting down your phone, sitting close to one another, sharing what's going on in your day and being present for your partner." —Janessa, San Francisco, California

"My biggest piece of advice I give to everyone is that premarital counseling is a must! After all, you wouldn't put a new driver behind the wheel and tell them they don't need to take driver's ed until they get into an accident—so why would we do that in our marriages? People who participate in premarital counseling and continue counseling in some form throughout their marriage have a significantly higher success rate than couples that don't." —Sarah, Houston, Texas

"One scenario I've seen more than once was seeing someone headed to a first date, and they're often a bit nervous. I've tried to do my best to put them at ease and wish them the best of luck. I try to encourage them to be yourself!" —Zachary, Minneapolis, Minnesota

"I've picked up many passengers who speak to their loved ones on the phone in the car, oftentimes in an angry tone. You can do real damage if you aren't careful with your words. I recommend stepping back, calming down, turning around, and trying again. Don't argue when you're angry." —Sam, New York, New York

"I would say the romantic problem I see most often is a lack of communication and honesty within a relationship. My advice would be to attack all relationships, romantic or not, with open communication and honesty. Both will take you a long way in life!" — Ann, St. Louis, Missouri

"I would say this: If men would just learn to listen—and sometimes shut up—they'd be better off. I hear lots of stuff in the car, and ultimately men need to realize how much smarter women are than they are. Seriously, I think that women are so much more in tune to relationships than men are." —Fred, Potomac, Maryland

"I've had riders who have just been broken up with or ended their relationships, and they're in that limbo phase where they don't know if they should wait around for their ex to come back to them or try to move on. I always tell my riders to get dressed, go out, take up new activities, and keep busy. That's always better than staying home and crying. Maybe they'll get back together, maybe not, but they'll definitely feel better if they're proactive and out there." —Kate, San Francisco, California

"It's always great being able to help riders who need advice. I tell them to do their best to keep their partner happy, try to give their partner honest feedback and always keep an open line of communication." —Roberta, Chicago, Illinois

"Sometimes my riders share with me that they feel like they aren't doing their best in a relationship. I tell them to try and be the best person they can be—and to work hard at it. Their partner will notice the effort and that will mean the most." —Nicole, Hartford, Connecticut

"Some passengers have shared the challenge of finding a mate who's ready to commit. They claim that many individuals are so focused on pursuing their dreams that they don't have time for a serious relationship. I tell them that's okay—the right person for them will come along." —Amanda, Los Angeles, California

"I see a lot of rudeness. The chivalry is dead. A lot of people don't open doors anymore and I see guys jumping in the car first in pouring rain. Not cool." —Junis, New York, New York

"Everyone should be treated with respect, understanding and compassion. The advice I frequently give riders is simply to listen. More often than not, there's a message being sent indirectly, through someone's actions, and that can only be received once you're truly listening." —Althea, Bridgeport, Connecticut

"I'm divorced, and I get a lot of women in my car who are also divorced—I want to help them feel proud and get out there to reinvent themselves. I share my story with them and then emphasize that we women are strong and can do this—[and to] never give up." —Miss T, Los Angeles, California

"Many of my riders use their time in the car to catch up with their significant other. After hearing these conversations, my advice is to do your best to trust your partner. Life is busy, work is tough, but trusting your partner makes all the difference." —Sammy, St. Louis, Missouri

"During my two years with Uber, I have noticed riders growing more friendly in UberPools. I have seen many connections blossom. I encourage riders to open their hearts, because you never know what can happen." —Miguel, Brooklyn, New York

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