Q&A: Invitation Wording: How to Address Inner Envelopes?

Q: Recently I received two wedding invitations. The inside envelope was addressed differently on each one. One to Mr. and Mrs. and one to John and Jane Smith. Now that I'm sending out wedding invitations, I'd like to know which is correct. Or are both acceptable?

A: The correct way to address inside envelopes is to just use titles: Mr. and Mrs., Ms., or Miss, whichever is appropriate. First names only go on the outer envelope (Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, or Mr. John Smith and Mrs. Jane Smith). Having first names on the inner envelope doesn't confuse the issue at all, so it wouldn't be an egregious faux pas. But titles only is the traditional way to do it.

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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot