Q&A: Invitations: Who Gets a Formal Invite?

Q: When it comes to local people, who gets invitations? I've been told that it is proper for local people to receive invites, and I've also been told that it is up to me. I want to do what's right for my wedding, but I don't want to go overboard and spend way too much money on locally sent invitations.

A: Traditionally, all wedding guests get invitations, whether they live next door or across the country. If you're having a relatively small celebration and feel it's enough to let everyone know with a simple note or phone call, that's fine. But if you're having a relatively big (or even medium-sized) wedding -- and it sounds like you are if you're differentiating between local guests and out-of-towners -- it makes sense to "officially" invite everyone. That way they'll have all the info they need in writing. If you're concerned about invitation costs, choose a simple invite and go with a printing process other than engraving, or buy ready-made invites at a stationery store and fill in your information by hand.

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Q&A: Invitations: Destination Wedding Etiquette?

My fiance and I are getting married in Maui and know that not all the 200 guests we would like to invite will make it. When we come back home, we are going to have a reception for everyone not able to make the trip. I've read that when getting married away and returning home to a reception, you should only send out wedding invitations to those you know can and will attend the wedding, then send out separate invitations for the reception. We both feel very strongly about sending invitations to everyone and then including (at the bottom) that a reception will be held in our honor when we return. We are afraid that if we follow etiquette, we will hurt people's feelings. Do we follow the rules or do what we feel is right?

by The Knot