Dr. Burford performed our wedding ceremony. He took the time to really get to know us and asked some important questions not only about how we saw the ceremony but also how we saw our future. We didn’t want to write our own vows, instead opti...
ng for the “I do” questions. He pointed out an important distinction for us. “I do” is in the moment whereas, “I will” is a forever statement. After his point, my then fiancé (now husband of 9 years) and I really thought about his words and decided we agreed – “I will” means today, tomorrow, when I’m sick, when you leave the cap off the toothpaste, when I’m tired, when we fight – I will is forever. We wouldn’t have thought about that and to this day, we still remind each other that “I will”. We have Dr. Burford to thank for that.
We also wanted to deviate a little from the “traditional” service and add music where there traditionally wasn’t, scripture where there traditionally wasn’t and prayers were there traditionally wasn’t. He was so gracious about the changes we wanted to make, recognizing their importance to us and never second guessing us. He saw that we had a vision (and a reason) and helped us to incorporate these items so the ceremony flowed seamlessly.
Perhaps the best part of having him perform our service though was the part that we really had no influence on – the sermon. He talked about the difference between a wedding and a marriage. He also reminded us (and all our guests) that a marriage is never 50/50. Each person is responsible for giving 100%. If you give 100% then you can make up for your partner having an “off” day. There are going to be times when life is hard and if each of you does your best to give 100% then you have the best chance to survive those difficult times. Guests of our wedding commented after the fact what a great sermon he gave and to a few of our guests, that 100% message rang truer than anyone could have known. Again, 9 years and 2 kids later, it’s a message that my husband and I remind each other of from time to time.
Anyone planning a wedding knows there are things that are going to go wrong. Choosing Dr. Burford to perform your ceremony will NEVER be something you look back on as “wrong”. He was great and we are lucky for his words in our special moment.