Rev Danzara seemed like the right fit when we first met. He responded to our email and set up a time and place to meet with him. He was friendly and made us comfortable with choosing him. Plus his price fit with our small budget. He advertises ...
unlimited emails and phone calls. What that means is you can email him as much as you like, but he won't respond. When it came time to choosing our ceremony selections I had to send him several emails just to get him to respond to me. However, once he would respond, things would go smoothly and I knew exactly what to expect for my ceremony.
Expect to plan your own ceremony. His fee is for his appearance, performance and use of his website to select and plan your ceremony. Which really didn't create too much of a problem until I had questions and he wouldn't respond to emails. I was please that we could write our own wording and he went along with everything we chose. If he tells you he has everything memorized, what he means is he has everything on his website memorized. If you choose your own wording he will fumble, but he didn't fumble so much that it was a problem during out ceremony.
His fee does not include rehearsal, but he did email me a suggestion on how to perform the rehearsal. We had a small wedding at a small venue and because he wasn't there, I used some of his suggestions but I made the wedding what I wanted it to be. We decided we did not want our backs to our guest but rather we would face them, and that is how we rehearsed. In addition, we had a sand blending ceremony with our children so facing our guests made more sense.
When he arrived, he was given instructions by my Matron of Honor and my father's wife. When he was told we would face the guests and not him, he didn't like that and told my dad's wife he would NOT marry us if that's how we wanted it. My wedding day was going absolutely perfect until they approached me to tell me what he had said. They sent him up to speak to me. He said that he had done a wedding like that and he didn't think it went well because guests had complained about his performance. Since he is the one speaking, he needs to face the guests. I simply told him that's is how we rehearsed, the kids knew what to do based on rehearsal and because of the small venue and the intimate feel, we would face the guests. He tried arguing it but I told him we would face the guests and he could stand to the side instead of his back to the guests. It was a backyard wedding with 30 guest, standing to the side wasn't an issue. He had a lapel mic anyhow and there wouldn't be an issue with hearing him. He eventually agreed to that but if he's not going to participate in rehearsals then he will need to be flexible when he arrives to the ceremony and the bride and groom have made decisions without him. I wasn't too concerned about his threat not to perform our ceremony, as I had a back up plan, however, it was extremely unprofessional for him to even speak that way.
He was very concerned with what guests would say about him and his performance. Overall, he did just fine with the ceremony, but my guests didn't comment on his performance of the ceremony. What they did comment about was his appetite and performance after the ceremony. Cocktail hour immediately followed the ceremony. I did plan to feed my vendors so I wasn't too concerned about him eating. However, according to my guests, he planted himself in the kitchen area and as our chef would load up a plat