A Vintage Winter Wedding at Flanagan Farm in Buxton, Maine

Lexie (29 and a massage therapist) and Shane Diamond (29 and a nonprofit executive director) fused New England romanticism with rustic charm for an in

Lexie (29 and a massage therapist) and Shane Diamond (29 and a nonprofit executive director) fused New England romanticism with rustic charm for an intimate winter wedding in Maine’s countryside. Flanagan Farm in Buxton, Maine, offered the ideal backdrop for the personality-packed fete, with its tranquil natural setting and quaint white barn. “Because of the unpredictable New England weather in December, we wanted to keep folks in one location,” Lexie says. “The space at the Barn at Flanagan Farm was the perfect size and canvas. We were able to take advantage of the entire property, including having first looks in the woods, the ceremony and reception in the main barn and the house for ourselves and guests as a getaway for the weekend.” Capturing the essence of the season, Shane and Lexie worked a palette of natural hues, such as gray, navy, ivory and sage and sprinkled lush, wintery greens (including pine, cedar and evergreen throughout), a tribute to Maine’s woodland landscape. Every element of the ceremony carried a distinctly Shane-and-Lexie flair. They wrote their own ceremony, complete with Jewish traditions that paid tribute to Shane’s roots, a live jazz rendition of the Beatles’ “Blackbird” and their own heartfelt vows (with a few off-the-cuff additions, of course). With both the ceremony and reception taking place in the barn, each part of the evening flowed seamlessly into the next. “The idea was that people would feel welcomed and comfortable from the moment they walked into the barn until the moment they danced out,” Shane says. Cocktail hour and dinner took guests on a culinary journey through their history, with each element of the menu reflecting a part of their story. Green chiles from New Mexico paid tribute to Shane’s Southwestern routes, French macarons served as a nod to New Orleans (where the couple’s love story unfolded), and vegetables sweetened with Maine maple syrup gave guests a taste of Shane and Lexie’s New England home. A family-style dinner and seating brought people together and encouraged conversation. The duo spent months curating the perfect playlist for the affair, and they even took dance lessons from a friend beforehand for their dance floor debut. A traditional hora was, of course, included to kick off the party. Shane offers a few tips: “Wine Wedding Wednesday for the win. It not only gave us a chance to prioritize planning but also prevented planning from taking over our lives. The chance to do homework during the week also kept us accountable." "Also, your wedding is yours," Lexie says. "Feel free to express that! Everyone and their mother and their mother’s cousin and your mother is going to have an opinion, but set your boundaries. This day is for you and your partner. It should represent your values as a couple and celebrate those who have supported you along the way. Take help when it is offered, and get creative. Enjoy the whole process. And most important, drink water and eat on the day of!” —Libby MacCarthy

Lexie’s bridal look was the picture of vintage glamour. The bride wore her long locks in a late-1930s curled updo and opted for makeup—which she did herself!—in shades of brown, copper and pink to match her vintage fur wrap and the wooden decor elements.
Just in case she needed reminding, Lexie carried this playfully embroidered handkerchief during the ceremony.
Shane rocked a custom suit from Bindle & Keep in Brooklyn, New York, for his walk down the aisle. He paired the herringbone wool suit with a custom bow tie from Portland’s own Bowline Co. and red bandana socks that spoke to his Southwestern roots.
Though Shane and Lexie included only their sisters in the ceremony, Shane asked a handful of his best bros to be present while he was getting ready, partially for company—and to keep him sober and full of carbs. He gave each of them a Bowline bow tie similar to his.
Before the day’s festivities kicked into high gear, Lexie and Shane took a moment to share a first look in the forest surrounding Flanagan Farm in Buxton, Maine, allowing them to soak up the emotion of the day before joining their family and friends.
Flanagan Farm in Buxton, Maine, offered the ideal backdrop for the personality-packed fete, with its tranquil natural setting and quaint white barn. “Because of the unpredictable New England weather in December, we wanted to keep folks in one location,” Lexie says. “The space at the Barn at Flanagan Farm was the perfect size and canvas. We were able to amortize the entire property, including having first looks in the woods, the ceremony and reception in the main barn and the house for ourselves and guests as a getaway for the weekend.”
Lexie’s veil was a gift from a close friend, who had worn it at her own wedding. Gilded embroidery and Swarovski crystal dotted the train, lending a luxe, glamorous note to the timeless piece. To complement her vintage-inspired style, Lexie had the veil customized into a Juliet cap, which she secured with a pearl-studded gold crown from Lelet NY—a surprise gift from Shane the night before the wedding.
While Shane and Lexie wrote their own ceremony, the couple incorporated a number of Jewish customs into the proceeding as a nod to Shane’s roots. Following tradition, Shane's walk down the aisle was a family affair, with both of his parents joining him at his side.
Lexie spent several months designing a soundtrack tailored for each part of the evening, from postceremony through late-night dancing. The couple put a close friend on “pause/play” duty, and after the wedding they sent guests a link for guests to download the playlist.
To help their family and friends find the way to their seats, Shane and Lexie wrote guests' names and tables on vintage-inspired gift tags that complemented the evening’s rustic-chic theme.
In lieu of a traditional guest book, Shane and Lexie thought outside the box, inviting their families and friends to share their advice and well wishes on the backs of vintage postcards.
The Barn at Flanagan Farm provided a blank canvas for Shane and Lexie to make their own. Highlighting the winter season and Maine’s natural landscape, the couple adorned the rafters of the lofty barn with dramatic garlands made with cedar, evergreen and pine that infused the room with a fresh, earthy scent.
As a nod to their respective roots, Shane and Lexie placed jars of New Hampshire honey and bundles of New Mexican sage at each place setting. In addition to thanking guests for supporting the couple on their wedding day, the favors played up the rustic flair of the tablescapes.
For their dance floor debut, Shane and Lexie took dance lessons from a friend during the months before the wedding. Their dance included a beautiful, dramatic dip halfway through. The couple chose Tommy James and the Shondells’s “Crimson and Clover” for their first-dance song. When Shane visited Lexie at her job during his first visit to New Orleans, Lexie swears this song was playing when Shane walked in.
In addition to a variety of French macarons, Shane and Lexie treated their families and friends to a slice of naked chocolate whiskey caramel cake from Tandom Coffee and Bakery in Portland, Maine, which they they topped with a Dia de los Muertos cake topper.
Each menu item spoke to Shane and Lexie’s story, including the spread of delectable delights lining the dessert table after dinner. When Shane and Lexie first crossed paths, Lexie was living in New Orleans and the pair shared a fun-filled weekend there that kick-started their long-term love affair. As a tribute to their Big Easy beginnings, the pair served a selection of French macarons for guests before everyone hit the dance floor.