A Whimsical Rustic Wedding at The Barns at Wesleyan Hills in Middletown, Connecticut

For Lisa Siggie (35, a stay at home mom) and Jay Stankiewicz (37, a corporate communications professional), their relationship has always been fun and spontaneous, so it makes sense that their engagement and wedding celebrated their whimsical personalities.“We met in Stamford, Connecticut, after college through a mutual friend,” Lisa says. “We were friends for a couple of years before we ever dated. One night while we were out with friends at The Playwright Irish Pub & Restaurant, Jay handed me a coaster with his phone number on it and the words “Take a chance.” We started dating soon after that night, but only for a few months. We broke up and each took different paths for a while. We both moved around the country: Jay to Seattle and Chicago and I to New York City, Portland and back to Connecticut. We remained friends for years and then life brought us back together around 2008 while Jay was living in Chicago and I in Connecticut. We did the long distance thing for a while and then Jay moved back to Connecticut and we moved in together in November of 2011. Then, Jay proposed to me at a surprise engagement party in May of 2012. I thought we were meeting my mom for lunch, but to my surprise, when we got to the restaurant we walked into a room filled with our closest friends and family. I had no idea what was going on and was very confused to see all of these super-excited faces staring at me. I turned around to find Jay down on his knee proposing! I couldn’t stop crying.”And when they started wedding planning, Lisa and Jay only visited one venue and knew it was the one.“I had just been looking around online and found The Barns at Wesleyan Hills,” Lisa says. “We went to go check it out in August and fell in love with it. It was the only venue we looked at and when we visited, they only had two free days left for the entire year so we booked it right then and there. The Barn is an historic barn in Middletown and the environment is rustic, yet elegant. Our ceremony was held on the lawn in front of the barn surrounded by weeping willows -- although they were pretty bare in April -- and overlooked a beautiful pond and picturesque bridge.”Lisa and Jay’s self-described “laid back, fun and rustic-chic” wedding didn’t have a specific theme or style, because they wanted their wedding day to truly reflect who they are as a couple. However, they ended up having a color palette of neutral colors, soft, romantic purples, light pinks and mint green accents. “I think the entire day really reflected both Jay and I, our love for each other and our quirky personalities,” Lisa says. “We wanted the day to be fun for everyone and it was. All of our guests stayed at the same hotel and we did have quite a bit of out-of-town guests attending. We made welcome bags for everyone with plenty of snacks and an itinerary of the weekend’s events. After the reception, we had a late night snack of pizza and wings arranged back at the hotel and the next day we had a breakfast for everyone.”