After the recessional, guests enjoyed wine and hors d'oeuvres on a terrace, and beneath a white tent, where candles flickered on tables scattered with rose petals. A guitarist played classical music and later, a jazz trio performed standards. Our guests treated us to some very sweet toasts, says Gillian. It seemed as if almost all of the guests took a turn at the microphone. Their toasting flutes, she adds, needed repeated refills.