While the venue is beautiful and the food was delicious, the owner was hostile and intentionally intimidating. Johan seemed to be looking for reasons to create conflict instead of providing support and a welcoming venue as was promised in the c...ontract. He behaved like a bully and demanded negative attention while creating unnecessary drama.
The buildings are charming and well maintained. The gardens were gorgeous and provided a beautiful backdrop for photos and the ceremony.
We used the church for the reception and meal. It is a clever use of space. The wait staff was courteous and the food was very good. They made extra efforts to accommodate menu requests.
Although pre-planning with Amanda was effortless, our first sign of trouble in The Gardens came during rehearsal in 90-degree heat. Johan created a scene by yelling disrespectfully in the face of one of our guests in front of the entire party saying that the guest had disregarded the rules and was not welcome on the property for the wedding. Johan then pulled the bride aside and disrupted rehearsal again to tell her that the guest, a family member, was not allowed on his property for disobeying the rules.
The rule that had been broken was that this guest had brought water to several people attending rehearsal on an extremely warm day. According to Johan, the guest showed disrespect by not taking Johan’s warning seriously the first time, and brought another bottle of water to an elderly grandmother after he had been told of the venue’s strict “no carry in” policy. There was an implication that the guest had been disrespectful in his response.
While I did not hear the guest’s response, I did hear the loud and disrespectful manner that Johan intentionally addressed our guest in front of the entire rehearsal party. I did see how he singled out this individual and caused quite a scene in the middle of what was supposed to be a happy event. I believe that Johan had several other options in how to respectfully address this situation, instead he chose rudeness and intimidation.
After learning the details that caused the scene, myself and another family member spoke to Amanda and offered a sincere apology. The rules were clarified and we assured her that we were looking forward to making wonderful memories the following day. She agreed, saying they were looking forward to a good day with our entire guest list.
While I was talking to Amanda, Johan spoke to the bride and groom in an escalated and intentionally intimidating manner regarding “the contract expectations”. The manner which he spoke was disrespectful and brought the bride to tears.
The day of the wedding came and things were running smoothly until family began arriving for photos. The “water offender” guest arrived and Johan demanded he leave the venue. I shared that I had spoken to Amanda and felt we had come to an agreement that he was cleared to attend. Myself and a few other family members including the “water offender” offered another sincere apology and the “water offender” extended his hand to Johan. Johan refused to shake his hand initially, then begrudgingly accepted the handshake and allowed the guest to attend the wedding.
Meanwhile a different guest was standing by a waste can when Johan tossed his soda can from across the room. The can splattered soda all down the front of the guest’s dress, permanently staining it. When the guest looked at him in distress, he casually said “oops”.
During photos, I was surprised when Amanda pulled me aside and privately but assertively denied having given permission for our “water offender” guest to attend the wedding. I apologized again for any misunderstanding or miscommunication and asked if I would simply attend my daughter’s wedding. At this point the continued confrontations felt like bullying and harassment from our hosts.
Some of our guests commented on signage that they felt was offensive and unwelcoming. One sign indicated that all children should be within arms’ reach of their parents. If the child was found to be in violation of this rule, the child and the parents would be asked to leave the venue.
Several guests told me that Johan made them feel uncomfortable. They described him as “the lurking hippie” and felt that he was eavesdropping on conversations. They felt he was especially targeting the “water offender” throughout the event.
So, is the venue beautiful? Absolutely! I have no complaints about the food, service, pre-event coordination or pricing. It would be a perfect place for a small event with no children and docile, well hydrated adults.
I find it rude and disrespectful that Johan would burden the bride and groom with such trivial grievances and add drama to an otherwise happy event. Continued confrontations over a single, minor issue was harassment on a special day that had been paid for in advance. I have a big problem inviting guests to a celebration where the host lacks communication skills, is intimidating, dramatic, rude and a bully.
Apologies have been a one-way street. We are still waiting for ours.