President Lincoln's Cottage

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Jonathan Chaffin and Jonathan Hafner met in March 2013 when Hafner* joined the Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington, DC. Hafner thought the organization would be a good way to make new connections while Chaffin had already been a seasoned member for a year. While a bit overwhelmed following that first rehearsal, Hafner joined the group in their tradition of socializing at a local watering hole called Green Lantern, where he spotted Chaffin at the bar. Noticing Chaffin’s nametag, Hafner delivered his legendary pick up line: “That’s the correct way to spell Jonathan!” A short conversation followed and a smitten Hafner began to plot on how to see Chaffin again. The brilliant scheme he concocted? A trivia league! Through some resourceful&nbsp;cyberstalking in the Chorus database, Hafner found Chaffin’s number and texted him and a few others an invite. Fate intervened as the rest of the group was not able to make it and the pair shifted plans to grabbing drinks at the 2-for-1 happy hour at Number 9. Over a few Stoli blueberry and sodas, they discovered common bonds beyond their first names, notably an appreciation of musicals and the importance of family. As the evening was getting late, Chaffin invited Hafner to spend the night as he lived within walking distance and the couple shared their first kiss. Hafner dropped out of the Chorus before the concert that June due to a conflict for another event (though also because he found it just wasn’t his “thing”... or perhaps because he accomplished his actual mission in joining). They continued to chat, though, and soon had their first formal date at Woodward Table, a sister restaurant of where Hafner worked at the time. Like many new relationships, there were a few bugs to work out early on, but they increasingly spent more time together and began to cohabitate in 2015. Over the years, they have conquered a number of trivia nights, enjoyed many evenings at the theater, and, of course, continue to champion J-O-N-A-T-H-A-N as the definitive spelling of their name. Chaffin proposed to Hafner in October 2018 at the top of the Shard, the tallest building in London, following a trip to Oktoberfest with the Chaffin family. While there were a few delays in their wedding planning due to COVID and Chaffin’s grad school, they are honored to (finally) be surrounded by many family and friends in affirming their commitment to one another for the future. * Yes, both typically use their full first names and, while not confusing to them, we’ll differentiate between the two by henceforth using their last names.

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Wedding Party

Our Wedding Q&amp;AWe're so excited to celebrate with you! Here's some information to help you plan. If you have any other questions, please don't hesitate to reach out to us directly. Attire &amp; Venue Details Q: What is the dress code?A: We'd love for you to get dressed up with us! The attire is semi-formal or cocktail attire. Think suits, cocktail dresses, or elegant jumpsuits/separates. No tuxedos or gowns are necessary. Q: Will the wedding be indoors or outdoors?A: Our ceremony and reception will all take place outdoors at President Lincoln's Cottage, weather permitting. Indoor space will Q: What will the weather be like in Washington D.C. in October?A: October in D.C. is generally beautiful and mild! You can typically expect daytime highs around the mid-to-upper 60s Fahrenheit (around 18-21°C) and cooler evenings with lows in the low 50s Fahrenheit (around 10-12°C). It can sometimes be a bit breezy, and while we're hoping for sunshine, there's always a chance of rain. We recommend checking the forecast closer to the date and perhaps bringing a light jacket or wrap for the evening. As all events are outdoors, please dress comfortably for the expected temperature. Q: Is everything happening at one location?A: Yes! To make things easy for everyone, our ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception will all be held at the beautiful President Lincoln's Cottage, located at 140 Rock Creek Church Rd NW, Washington, DC 20011. RSVPs &amp; Our Guests Q: When should I RSVP by?A: Please RSVP by Friday, September 5th, 2025, via the "RSVP" section of our website. Q: Can I bring a date or plus one?A: Due to venue capacity, we're only able to accommodate those guests formally named on your wedding invitation. If you received a plus one, it will be indicated on your invitation and when you RSVP. Thank you for your understanding! Q: Are children welcome?A: We adore all of your little ones and are looking forward to bringing families together. While the Welcome Party will be inclusive of all ages, the Ceremony and Reception will primarily be an adult crowd with a few exceptions. As we would like attendees to be fully present in celebrating this event, please be mindful if you think your teenager may be distracted by their phone most of the evening or if you might enjoy the event less by also having to attend to parenting duties. Q: What if I have dietary restrictions or allergies?A: Please let us know about any dietary restrictions or allergies when you RSVP. There will be a section for you to include this information so we can pass it along to our caterer. Travel &amp; Accommodation Q: Will there be hotel blocks?A: Yes, we have reserved blocks of rooms at special rates at a few hotels for our out-of-town guests. Please visit the "Travel &amp; Accommodations" page on our website for details on hotels, booking links/codes, and reservation deadlines. We recommend booking early! Q: Will transportation be provided?A: Yes, shuttle transportation will be provided for guests staying within our hotel blocks to and from President Lincoln's Cottage. Please check the "Travel &amp; Accommodations" page closer to the wedding date for shuttle schedules and pickup locations. Q: What's the best way to get to Washington D.C. and President Lincoln's Cottage?A: For those flying in, the closest airports are Ronald Reagan Washington National Airport (DCA), Dulles International Airport (IAD), and Baltimore/Washington International Thurgood Marshall Airport (BWI). From there, ride-sharing services, taxis, and public transportation are available. President Lincoln's Cottage is located at 140 Rock Creek Church Rd NW, Washington, DC 20011. If you're driving, it is easily accessible, and you can find more detailed directions on our "Travel &amp; Accommodations" page. Q: Is there parking available at President Lincoln's Cottage?A: Yes, there is complimentary parking available on-site at President Lincoln's Cottage. Staff will direct you upon arrival. Q: What are some fun things to do in the D.C. area?A: We love D.C.! If you have some extra time, we recommend visiting the Smithsonian Museums (they're free!), strolling the National Mall, exploring the historic Georgetown neighborhood, or [mention a couple of your personal favorite local spots/restaurants]. President Lincoln's Cottage itself offers historic tours if you're interested in arriving early or visiting on another day! Check out our "Things to Do" page for more suggestions! (Optional: create this page) Gifts Q: What about gifts?A: Your presence at our wedding to celebrate with us is truly the only gift we need, and we are so grateful for the effort you're making to be there! We've been fortunate to live together for a while now and have happily filled our cozy home with most of the things we need. As we embark on this new chapter and continue to build our lives together, we've set up a "General Future Fund." If you feel inclined to give a gift, contributions to this fund would be incredibly meaningful and help us with future adventures, projects, or simply building our nest egg as a married couple. Above all, please know that your love and support are what we cherish most. You'll be able to find details on how to contribute, should you wish, on the "Registry" page of our website. The Big Day &amp; Afterwards Q: What time should I arrive for the ceremony?A: We recommend arriving by 4 PM to allow time to park (if driving), find a seat, and mingle before the ceremony begins at President Lincoln's Cottage. Q: Can I take pictures and videos during the ceremony?A: We are having an "unplugged" ceremony. This means we kindly ask that all phones and cameras be put away and silenced during the ceremony. We've hired an amazing photographer and videographer to capture this special moment for us, and we promise to share the photos with you! Afterwards, feel free to take as many pictures as you like during the cocktail hour and reception. Q: Can I post wedding photos on social media?A: Yes, please do! We'd love for you to share your photos from the cocktail hour and reception. If you do, please use our wedding hashtag: #TheJonathansathon Q: Will there be an open bar?A: Yes, we will be hosting an open bar with a selection of beer, wine, and spirits. Q: What kind of food will be served?A: TBD Q: What time will the reception end?A: The reception will conclude at 11PM

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Washington D.C. offers a vast array of activities and attractions, catering to diverse interests. Whether you're interested in history, art, politics, nature, or food, there's something for everyone. Here's a rundown of things to do in the nation's capital: Museums &amp; Galleries (Many are Free!):Smithsonian Museums: D.C. is home to numerous world-class Smithsonian museums, most of which offer free admission. Popular choices include:National Museum of Natural History: Famous for its dinosaur exhibits, Hope Diamond, and ocean hall.National Air and Space Museum: Showcases the history of aviation and space exploration (check for ongoing renovations and timed pass requirements).National Museum of American History: Explores the social, political, cultural, scientific, and military history of the United States.National Gallery of Art: Features a vast collection of Western art from the Middle Ages to the present, as well as a sculpture garden.National Museum of African American History and Culture: A powerful and essential museum dedicated to documenting African American life, history, and culture (timed passes are often required).Hirshhorn Museum and Sculpture Garden: Focuses on contemporary and modern art.National Portrait Gallery: Houses portraits of prominent Americans who have shaped the nation.American Art Museum &amp; Renwick Gallery: Showcasing American art from colonial times to the present, and American craft and decorative arts, respectively.National Museum of the American Indian: Highlights the history, culture, and arts of Native Americans of the Western Hemisphere.National Postal Museum: Explores the history of the American mail service. Other Notable Museums:United States Holocaust Memorial Museum: A sobering and important museum dedicated to the history of the Holocaust (free timed passes often required).International Spy Museum: Offers an interactive experience into the world of espionage (paid admission).The Phillips Collection: An intimate museum featuring Impressionist and modern American and European art (paid admission).National Museum of Women in the Arts: The only major museum in the world solely dedicated to celebrating women's achievements in the visual, performing, and literary arts (paid admission).Planet Word: An interactive museum dedicated to language and words (paid admission). Monuments &amp; Memorials (Mostly Free and Open 24/7):National Mall: The iconic stretch of green space home to many of D.C.'s most famous landmarks.Lincoln Memorial: A tribute to President Abraham Lincoln, offering panoramic views.Washington Monument: The towering obelisk honoring George Washington (tickets required to go to the top).World War II Memorial: Commemorates the sacrifice and victory of Americans during WWII.Jefferson Memorial: A classical-style memorial dedicated to Thomas Jefferson, located on the Tidal Basin.Martin Luther King, Jr. Memorial: Honors the civil rights leader.Franklin Delano Roosevelt Memorial: A sprawling memorial depicting the era of FDR.Vietnam Veterans Memorial: A poignant wall listing the names of service members who died or remain missing in the Vietnam War.Korean War Veterans Memorial: Features striking statues of soldiers.Tidal Basin: Beautiful year-round, especially during cherry blossom season (late March/early April), with paddle boats available seasonally. Government &amp; Historical Buildings:U.S. Capitol Building: Home of the U.S. Congress. Tours are free but typically require advance booking.The White House: The official residence and principal workplace of the President of the United States. Exterior views are common; tours are limited and must be arranged well in advance through congressional offices or embassies for foreign nationals.Supreme Court: The highest federal court in the United States. Visitors can tour public portions of the building and, when court is in session, may be able to view oral arguments.Library of Congress: The largest library in the world, with stunning architecture and exhibitions (timed passes may be required).National Archives Museum: Home to the Declaration of Independence, the Constitution, and the Bill of Rights.Ford's Theatre and Petersen House: The site of President Lincoln's assassination and the house where he died. Parks &amp; Outdoor Activities:Rock Creek Park: A large urban park offering hiking and biking trails, picnic areas, a nature center, and a planetarium.U.S. National Arboretum: Features extensive collections of trees, shrubs, and plants, including the National Capitol Columns and the National Bonsai &amp; Penjing Museum.Theodore Roosevelt Island: A memorial island in the Potomac River with wooded trails and a statue honoring President Roosevelt.Georgetown Waterfront Park: Offers scenic views of the Potomac River, walking paths, and space for recreation.Kenilworth Park &amp; Aquatic Gardens: Known for its beautiful water lilies and lotus flowers, especially in summer.C&amp;O Canal National Historical Park: Offers opportunities for walking, biking, and learning about the canal's history. Runs from Georgetown into Maryland.Bike and Roll DC / Unlimited Biking: Rent bikes to explore the city and its many trails. Neighborhoods to Explore:Georgetown: D.C.'s oldest neighborhood, known for its historic architecture, cobblestone streets, upscale shopping, fine dining, and the C&amp;O Canal.Dupont Circle: A vibrant area with art galleries, bookstores, boutiques, and diverse restaurants, centered around a historic fountain.Adams Morgan: Known for its eclectic mix of international cuisine, lively nightlife, and colorful rowhouses.U Street Corridor: A historic African American neighborhood, famous for its jazz history (Ben's Chili Bowl is an institution), theaters, and vibrant music scene.Capitol Hill: A charming residential neighborhood surrounding the U.S. Capitol, with tree-lined streets, historic homes, and Eastern Market.The Wharf: A revitalized waterfront area with restaurants, shops, concert venues (The Anthem), a fish market, and recreational piers.Penn Quarter &amp; Chinatown: Offers a mix of theaters, museums, restaurants, and nightlife, along with the iconic Friendship Archway in Chinatown. Performing Arts &amp; Entertainment:John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts: Hosts a wide range of performances, including the National Symphony Orchestra, Washington National Opera, ballet, theater, and contemporary music. Offers free daily performances on the Millennium Stage.Arena Stage: A leading American theater company.Shakespeare Theatre Company: Focuses on classical theater.Warner Theatre &amp; National Theatre: Host Broadway shows, concerts, and other live events.9:30 Club &amp; Black Cat: Popular venues for live music.DC Improv: Features stand-up comedy acts.Food &amp; Drink:Diverse Culinary Scene: D.C. has a rapidly growing and acclaimed food scene, with everything from Michelin-starred restaurants to casual eateries and international cuisine. Explore different neighborhoods for varied options. Food Markets:Eastern Market: A historic market on Capitol Hill with fresh food, crafts, and community events.Union Market: A bustling indoor food hall with a variety of local artisans and eateries.Craft Breweries &amp; Distilleries: The D.C. area has a growing number of craft breweries and distilleries offering tours and tastings. Tours:Hop-On Hop-Off Bus Tours: A convenient way to see the major sights and get an overview of the city.Walking Tours: Explore specific neighborhoods or themes (history, food, ghosts) on foot.Boat Tours on the Potomac: See the city skyline and monuments from the water. Options range from sightseeing cruises to dinner cruises.Segway Tours: A fun way to cover ground while seeing the sights. This list provides a great starting point for planning your visit to Washington D.C. Enjoy your time in the capital!

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