I had been on eHarmony for about 3 months. I went on a few first dates and never any second ones. On non-date nights my friends and I would go out to bars, go dancing, and get into mischief. Though I was going thru the dating motions, my heart was not open for business. When I realized I wanted to love again I decided to get a puppy. Something I knew had to love me back. I was in communication with a guy on eHarmony for a little while and we were planning a date for the Friday following "puppy day." He wanted to meet the puppy so he had us meet at Rock Bottom for their dog friendly patio.

I got there a little early (as always). I was sitting in my car making sure I was looking good, re-applying my lip gloss, fluffing my hair, etc. it felt like forever. Finally, I picked up little 20 pound Stella and started walking in. As we are walking thru the parking lot I notice a silver Subaru with a guy in it. That started my day dreaming about how cute it would be if that was my date, and we would both be Subaru people, and so adorable.

I sat myself on the bench across from Rock Bottom and waited. As I saw him walk up to me I realized that He Was the Subaru guy! And more attractive than I remembered from the pictures. The date itself was good. There were some highs and lows. And moments when I didn't think he was even having a good time. I was worried that I was the only one excited to have another date. So, like I always do in awkward moments, I made it worse and asked, "So, are you interested?" He seemed a bit shocked to hear that come out of my mouth but it worked. He told me that he was and from there I realized his personality. Not too high, and not too low. Grounded and stable.

After dinner, he walked me to my car (the first time a guy had done that in my dating history) and we had our first kiss. It was a great first kiss. Not too long, not just a peck, just right. I was excited to see him again...

I'd been single for quite some time. As an introvert engineer there just wasn't anything happening… "naturally". Joined eHarmony and decided to just get out there and make it happen. Went on a few first dates, but even after a year there just wasn't any second dates.

One day I stumbled across Lisa's profile. Now she was much cuter than the women I was normally going out with, but she had this interesting line in her profile about quantum physics. Well, I had a joke about quantum physics! That was going to be my icebreaker. So with a lame quantum physics joke sent, if nothing else I was going to stand out.

The next day I got a reply! But with nothing in the reply said of the joke, I figured it had fallen flat. I had another date lined up later that week, and Lisa was just so much more good looking than the rest of the girls going on dates with me so I convinced myself this was a dead-end and let the conversation die out.

Well a few weeks go by, the date I had previously didn't go anywhere, and I was back to square one. I log on to eHarmony and see that Lisa had browsed my profile the previous night. What was she doing on there? Was she interested? I sent her another message and from there a conversation sprang up. With just a few more messages, we decided to meet up at a local brewery and the rest was history.

Eventually she asked me why I let the conversation die out the first time from my end. I told her that I had another date lined up and couldn't deal with more than one conversation at a time, which was totally true; multi-tasking is not my forte. But it took me a while to tell her the other reason, that I just thought she was too cute for me.