Thank you for taking the time to learn more about Pronoun Etiquette! We want our wedding to be a welcoming, accepting and affirming environment for all guests. Because we and so many of our friends are members of the LGBTQIA+ community, here are a few tricks on how to do just that!

Pronoun Etiquette Tips:

- Create opportunities for people to share their pronouns with you rather than assuming you know their pronouns based on their appearance. For example, when introducing yourself share your pronouns like this:

“Hi, I’m Sally and I go by she/her. Nice to meet you.”

- If you don’t know someone’s pronouns, it’s okay to ask. Pronoun pins will be available for all guests but not required. If they are not wearing a pin, you can say, “What pronouns do you use?” or “What pronouns do you go by?” or “What pronouns would you like me to use when I refer to you?”

Always use someone’s chosen (preferred) pronouns.

Practice! Practice! Practice! It takes intention to consistently use someone’s correct pronouns if you previously used different pronouns for that person or if you’re using pronouns that are new to you. Take the time to practice referring to the person with the correct pronouns in conversation and in written communication.

If you make a mistake, apologize and move on. Help others by gently correcting them if they misgender someone.

M&J