Aljo’s Perspective

My family, especially my mom, had been praying for God to show me a suitable woman to be my spouse. She prayed many rosaries so that Mother Mary would intercede for this intention and that by August 15, the Feast of the Assumption of Mary, something will be shown.

A few days before this date, Minnu’s aunt, warmly called Ekku aunty, was told about me by a friend of hers living in the US. She reached out to my parents and they spoke for a long time. Ekku aunty said she has a niece in Kerala that she thought would be a good match for me. A few days later, as my mom was leaving the Church, Minnu’s aunty sent a picture of Minnu to her and my mom knew at that moment that she was going to be my spouse. The day was August 15th and she knew that Mother Mary heard her prayers.

I needed a little bit more convincing. A couple days later, I spoke with Minnu over video call. The conversation went well, but I needed some more time. We called for around 2 weeks when Ekku aunty told me that they would like to know if I wanted to move forward and fix the marriage because Minnu’s original plans would not work out if this relationship were to work out and she was ready to make that adjustment if I was ready. By this point, Minnu prayed and knew this was in God's plan. So I said I need one more day to pray about it and spent the evening in adoration. In prayer, God gave me a lot of peace in moving forward with Minnu and getting married to her.

After saying yes, I was still unsure. There were many things that I didn't share with Minnu and thought maybe things would end if I didn’t share my story and heart with her. We primarily speak in Malayalam, but I asked if I can share some tougher things in English. After that time, when I shared, I knew God had provided the right woman to journey with to heaven. Minnu received me with an open heart and I knew I was extremely blessed to be with her.

According to Minnu's perspective:

"𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭, 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐝. 𝐈𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐞𝐧𝐯𝐲, 𝐢𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐛𝐨𝐚𝐬𝐭, 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐝. 𝐈𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬, 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝, 𝐢𝐭 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐬 𝐧𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐫𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐬. 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐝𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐥 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐣𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡. 𝐈𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐬, 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐬, 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐡𝐨𝐩𝐞𝐬, 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐬. 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐬".

𝟏 𝐂𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝟏𝟑:𝟒-𝟖

Marriage is a journey that often begins with the convergence of two families from different corners of the world. As the stars aligned, my beloved Ekku aunty, with her heart brimming with hope and anticipation, had a momentous meeting with my loving Dessy aunty . In that serendipitous encounter, bonds were formed, and dreams were shared, laying the foundation for a future filled with love and unity.

Then Ekku Aunty with her harbinger of joy, proudly introduced me( her niece) , to the esteemed and the most loving members of the groom's family, weaving threads of connection that transcended distance and cultural divides.

Though at first I was a bit hesitant about this whole thing but then through the magic of modern technology we used to engage with each other through calls , engaging in heartfelt conversations and forging connections and opening up to each other that bridged the miles between us. As days turned into weeks, and our conversations deepened, I came to understand the strength of the groom's family's faith, their unwavering belief in God serving as a beacon of hope and inspiration.

In those moments of clarity and understanding, amidst the warmth of familial bonds and shared values, I found myself compelled to say yes, knowing that our union was not just a joining of hearts but a testament to the divine intervention of fate.