When you browse online, you see all kinds of things. A savvy internet denizen can spot the difference between something that’s too good to be true and a real deal. But every now and then, we see something that strikes a nerve, and despite it all – we just have to go for it. Most often, we all fall for deceptive advertising and end up with doll furniture when we really wanted a new loveseat for our living room. But sometimes, it works.

Growing up alongside the internet, I knew the ecosystem. In December 2021, as I dipped my toes back into the dating waters, I knew who and what to avoid – the humorless openers, unengaging conversations, and inappropriate requests showed me which men only wanted one thing and the men who didn’t even know what they wanted.

But then I found him. Years later, I can’t remember his answers to the prompts – but that wasn’t what drew me in. I remember his pictures: One that only showed the top half of his face. One that I nicknamed "Cool dad at a barbeque." And one with a shy, close-mouthed smile. His pictures showed what could only be described as kind eyes. Despite knowing better, knowing that looks can be deceiving on the internet – that was it for me.

In a way, his profile was deceiving. He is more than kind eyes. He is a plant dad. He is hilarious. He is an in-house DJ. He is open and communicative. He is gentle and patient. He is a great cook. He is steadfast and thoughtful. He is a sharp dresser (on occasion). He is always looking for solutions. He was (and still is) a surprise.

In the years that have followed, despite my best efforts, the rest of the internet continues to bamboozle me. But I’m grateful it led me to one thing worth keeping forever.

Wedding Day

Ceremony

Reception