Town of Cape Vincent Recreation Park

Bridal Shower

Bachelorette

Bachelor Party

Captain Jerry's Tiki Bar

Rehearsal Dinner

Absolute Breeze Event Center 

Wedding Day

Ceremony

Absolute Breeze Event Center

Reception

Our Wedding

Registry

Our&nbsp;love&nbsp;story&nbsp;began&nbsp;like&nbsp;many&nbsp;others,&nbsp;at&nbsp;daycare.&nbsp;During&nbsp;that&nbsp;time,&nbsp;Ben&nbsp;eagerly&nbsp;anticipated&nbsp;naptime&nbsp;while&nbsp;Stacy&nbsp;infamously&nbsp;screamed&nbsp;through&nbsp;the&nbsp;crib&nbsp;bars,&nbsp;terrorizing&nbsp;other&nbsp;children.&nbsp;It&nbsp;was&nbsp;clear&nbsp;even&nbsp;then&nbsp;that&nbsp;we&nbsp;were&nbsp;a&nbsp;perfect&nbsp;match.&nbsp; In&nbsp;2017,&nbsp;our&nbsp;paths&nbsp;crossed&nbsp;once&nbsp;more&nbsp;at&nbsp;the&nbsp;Jefferson&nbsp;County&nbsp;Correctional&nbsp;Facility.&nbsp;Ben&nbsp;generously&nbsp;volunteered&nbsp;to&nbsp;train&nbsp;Stacy&nbsp;in&nbsp;exchange&nbsp;for&nbsp;extra&nbsp;pay.&nbsp;Although&nbsp;Ben's&nbsp;intentions&nbsp;were&nbsp;questionable,&nbsp;our&nbsp;friendship&nbsp;began&nbsp;to&nbsp;grow,&nbsp;especially&nbsp;when&nbsp;Stacy&nbsp;would&nbsp;call&nbsp;in&nbsp;sick,&nbsp;leading&nbsp;to&nbsp;overtime&nbsp;opportunities&nbsp;for&nbsp;Ben,&nbsp;that&nbsp;he&nbsp;did&nbsp;not&nbsp;want.&nbsp;Our&nbsp;time&nbsp;together&nbsp;was&nbsp;brief&nbsp;because&nbsp;Stacy&nbsp;chose&nbsp;to&nbsp;leave&nbsp;NY&nbsp;in&nbsp;search&nbsp;of&nbsp;happiness,&nbsp;unknowingly&nbsp;leaving&nbsp;behind&nbsp;the&nbsp;love&nbsp;of&nbsp;her&nbsp;life. In&nbsp;2020,&nbsp;we&nbsp;reconnected&nbsp;after&nbsp;Stacy&nbsp;realized&nbsp;she&nbsp;had&nbsp;made&nbsp;a&nbsp;serious&nbsp;mistake&nbsp;and&nbsp;moved&nbsp;back&nbsp;home.&nbsp;During&nbsp;this&nbsp;time,&nbsp;Ben&nbsp;received&nbsp;his&nbsp;promotion&nbsp;to&nbsp;Sergeant,&nbsp;and&nbsp;we&nbsp;got&nbsp;together&nbsp;for&nbsp;drinks&nbsp;to&nbsp;celebrate&nbsp;his&nbsp;achievements&nbsp;and&nbsp;catch&nbsp;up&nbsp;on&nbsp;lost&nbsp;time.&nbsp;Our&nbsp;first&nbsp;"not&nbsp;date"&nbsp;quickly&nbsp;turned&nbsp;into&nbsp;a&nbsp;fun&nbsp;adventure&nbsp;filled&nbsp;with&nbsp;munching&nbsp;on&nbsp;biscuits,&nbsp;leaving&nbsp;a&nbsp;pile&nbsp;of&nbsp;crumbs&nbsp;behind,&nbsp;tearing&nbsp;into&nbsp;a&nbsp;box&nbsp;of&nbsp;Krispy&nbsp;Kreme&nbsp;donuts&nbsp;like&nbsp;a&nbsp;rabid&nbsp;raccoon,&nbsp;peeling&nbsp;shrimp,&nbsp;and&nbsp;feeding&nbsp;them&nbsp;to&nbsp;Stacy,&nbsp;all&nbsp;while&nbsp;doing&nbsp;"cute&nbsp;shit"&nbsp;together.&nbsp;Little&nbsp;did&nbsp;Stacy&nbsp;know,&nbsp;she&nbsp;was&nbsp;gradually&nbsp;falling&nbsp;into&nbsp;Ben's&nbsp;master&nbsp;plan&nbsp;to&nbsp;make&nbsp;her&nbsp;fall&nbsp;in&nbsp;love&nbsp;with&nbsp;him&nbsp;through&nbsp;endless&nbsp;amounts&nbsp;of&nbsp;wine&nbsp;and&nbsp;food. After&nbsp;months&nbsp;of&nbsp;courting&nbsp;Stacy,&nbsp;Ben&nbsp;chose&nbsp;the&nbsp;perfect&nbsp;moment&nbsp;to&nbsp;say,&nbsp;"I&nbsp;love&nbsp;you,"&nbsp;during&nbsp;the&nbsp;French&nbsp;Festival&nbsp;fireworks&nbsp;while&nbsp;Stacy&nbsp;was&nbsp;preoccupied&nbsp;with&nbsp;a&nbsp;full&nbsp;order&nbsp;of&nbsp;bone-in&nbsp;chicken&nbsp;wings.&nbsp;This&nbsp;moment&nbsp;perfectly&nbsp;captured&nbsp;our&nbsp;relationship.&nbsp;We&nbsp;gradually&nbsp;fell&nbsp;deeply&nbsp;in&nbsp;love&nbsp;with&nbsp;each&nbsp;other&nbsp;during&nbsp;our&nbsp;adventurous&nbsp;dates,&nbsp;which&nbsp;included&nbsp;hiking&nbsp;Watkins&nbsp;Glen&nbsp;during&nbsp;a&nbsp;thunderstorm,&nbsp;late-night&nbsp;swims&nbsp;in&nbsp;the&nbsp;river,&nbsp;and&nbsp;romantic&nbsp;drives&nbsp;to&nbsp;the&nbsp;lighthouse. At&nbsp;the&nbsp;lighthouse&nbsp;July&nbsp;6,&nbsp;2024,&nbsp;around&nbsp;sunset,&nbsp;despite&nbsp;Stacy's&nbsp;best&nbsp;efforts&nbsp;to&nbsp;ruin&nbsp;the&nbsp;surprise,&nbsp;Ben&nbsp;proposed&nbsp;to&nbsp;Stacy&nbsp;after&nbsp;three&nbsp;unforgettable&nbsp;years&nbsp;together.&nbsp;Ben&nbsp;had&nbsp;dedicated&nbsp;months&nbsp;to&nbsp;creating&nbsp;the&nbsp;perfect&nbsp;symbol&nbsp;of&nbsp;our&nbsp;love.&nbsp;The&nbsp;ring&nbsp;is&nbsp;a&nbsp;stunning&nbsp;pear-cut&nbsp;diamond&nbsp;set&nbsp;in&nbsp;a&nbsp;halo&nbsp;of&nbsp;sparkling&nbsp;diamonds&nbsp;on&nbsp;a&nbsp;twisted&nbsp;band.&nbsp;It&nbsp;was&nbsp;a&nbsp;moment&nbsp;celebrating&nbsp;our&nbsp;journey&nbsp;together&nbsp;and&nbsp;the&nbsp;love&nbsp;we&nbsp;share.

Our Love Story

Our Story

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I’m Dallas, Stacy’s Made of Honor, and life-long platonic wife. Some tid-bits about me: I have two cats named Marvin and Caroline that light up my world alongside my partner Zach. My favorite activities include rewatching Law & Order with a side of older Adam Sandler productions. I enjoy game nights, bonfires and spending quality time with the people I love, which likely speaks to most of the memories I have with the lovebirds and some of the other guests! Stacy and I met as freshmen on our college rugby team and became rookie sisters. 
Four years of late-night studying, laughter, traveling, wine nights, working out and far too many domino’s lava cakes cemented our unbreakable bond. Fourteen years later, she’s still my platonic wife and confidant in this thing we call life. One of my favorite memories is Stacy showing up to my dorm freshly getting to know one another, in a Yoshi T-shirt, ready for a night out with a bottle of butterscotch schnapps in hand. No words, speeches or memories lived to date can explain what a privilege it is to witness your love grow and honor you in these next chapters of your life together! So excited to celebrate the soon-to-be Golden’s! Cheers! 


Dallas Emrich

So, appropriately put, I worked with Ben and convinced him I wasn’t a douchebag, and we slowly became best friends. 
A talent of mine is being able to hold an entire dialogue with you and forgetting everything we talked about 30 seconds later. I have a lot of funny stories, most of which have alcohol involved, like the day I puked at the Roxy, then in your bushes. Or when I was sitting comfortably on your porch, both my legs locked up, and I face planted on the driveway. Some of the best nights of my life start with a walk to the brewery and end with us wrapping cheese around air-fried ravioli at 2 am. I understand your marriage is between you two, but don’t forget about me. I’m looking forward to watching you guys take this next step in your journey of life. 
Whenever you’re wrong, admit it; whenever you’re right, shut up.

Travis Metheney 

Hey everyone! I’m Sarah (Wallace/Rehley). Facts about me are that I’m a ER nurse, a mom of 3 kiddos who are 10, 8 & 7, a wife, and a dog mom to my handsome golden Cooper. My free time consist of watching my kiddos soccer, gymnastics, and swim! 

I’ve known Stacy since we were 7, when we hated each other lol. We became friends in 7th grade and have since made many memories. I can’t really pick one of my favorite memories; one where we attempted to find a way to sneak out of my house from my second-story window. We tied blankets/sheets together to the post of my queen-size bed. After I jumped up, I tried to climb back up, and needless to say, my mother came into the room. 

The other one is when we went to the mall. Then rode with some friends to the old train tracks, decided to jump into the river off them. That was a fun time attempting to come up with a believable story to tell my grandpa how our clothes got soaked from being at the mall.

I’m excited to meet and talk again with you all and experience giving Stacy all she needs while planning and preparing for the wedding! 🩷

Sarah Rehley

Thomas Golden

Hello everyone! My name is Taylor, Stacy’s long-distance southern belle bestie and bridesmaid. 🫶🏼

I live in Georgia and am currently a police officer. I am married with one 7-year-old son, whom Stacy nicknamed Monster when he was a baby. I also have 3 fur babies of the canine variety. There is a good possibility I will be pregnant or have a new little one by the time the wedding gets here. Me and my husband will be starting that journey sometime this year. In my free time I usually have my nose stuck in a book or I’m spending money I don’t need to. 🙈

I’m not sure of a favorite memory, but I will say the first time we me,t she threatened to punch me and steal my wedding ring at work, so there’s that, it’s been love ever since. 

Taylor Hudson 

I met Benjamin back in high school when I was hobbling around on crutches. He heroically carried my books purely out of kindness, of course, and definitely not because it got him out of class early. We’ve been besties ever since. A few of my favorite memories with Ben starts with the legendary thunder-punch that shattered my mom’s glass, the unforgettable overflowing-toilet incident, and of course our Hawaii trip. A fun fact is I once lost a bet to Ben; he hasn't claimed it yet...which honestly worries me a little. 
I'm so happy for you both and can't wait to celebrate your beautiful day. 

Jacob Waterman

The bride is my aunt, and some of my favorite memories together are all the times we spent at the lake house and the French festivals. Aunt Stacy, you’ve always been more like a sister to me, so seeing you this happy means a lot. Ben, it takes a special kind of strength (and patience) to keep up with her, and you do it so effortlessly. You two are such a great match, and it’s obvious how well you balance each other. I couldn’t be happier for you both and can’t wait to see what this next chapter brings. 

Abigail Bourn 

The groom and I met during the joining of the Cape Vincent and the Clayton clans to reap the benefits of the public education system.  One of my favorite memories is of us shredding up the dancefloor to the enchanting sounds of the bard Sia, singing her masterpiece, "Chandelier."
An interesting fact about me is that, by the circumstances of my life, I have become known as the Japan guy and can say very unhinged things in the language.
I'm glad you found the Expansion Pak to your N64!

Kevin Bachman

I’m Stacy’s sister, and some of my favorite memories with Stacy and Ben are from the French Festival in Cape Vincent — spending the whole day together, wandering around, and enjoying the parade at Ben’s parents’ house. And a fun fact about me: I absolutely love horses!

Congratulations to you both. May your life together be filled with joy, love, and countless beautiful memories ahead!

 Nicole Warner

I’ve known Ben for 15 years, we were those cool kids that would alternate weekends at our parents houses playing video games in their basements. How we are married, let alone to women, I will never understand. 

My favorite memory of Golden is our “Who the fuck is Pete?” Moment where I woke up from a drunken stupor at the Golden House looking for a coworker from the job I just quit. Couldn’t find him, so I fell back asleep, and poor Benny got to witness that whole debacle, my shining moment.

Fun fact about me is I make an amazing flower girl.

It’s good to see an assertive girl is able to pull the happiness from my big quiet teddy bear. I love how happy Stacy makes him, and I can’t wait to be there for them on their big day!

Adam Thompson

It's my first time being asked to be a bridesmaid and I am so excited to share the experience with all of you!
I am currently working at Top Golf. I have a background in outdoor education and recreation therapy, so I am pretty obsessed with being outside and on the water. In my free time, you can usually catch me out in the sun with my giant fluff monster, Voodoo. 
My favorite memories with Stacy include carrying out our Rookie list for rugby and hosting her here in Charleston for a month ♡

Cynthia Humphrey

Hey, I'm Sean...as I'm sure you already knew from the name under my picture. I met Benji through my younger sister, who graduated from high school with him. We started hanging out at Aubrey's bar, and we've been good friends ever since. I've had too many great times with Ben to pick just one, but I will say that we probably bonded the most on our golf trips to Tremblant. An interesting fact about me is that I knew Stacy's grandpa, Sonny, long before I ever met her. Also, this is my 7th time being a groomsman. Not for Benji, I have other friends too. I guess they think I look good in a suit. Anyway, I'm so happy that Ben found the person who makes him feel complete. I am honored to stand with him at his wedding.

Sean Flanigan

I’m Stacy’s niece, and one of my favorite memories with her is from my mom’s and Chris’ wedding. It was fun dancing and laughing with her. A fun fact about me is that I love riding horses. Congratulations, Ben and Aunt Stacy!

Addison Bourn

Brian Coombs

Hi all, Sabrina here, beer bearer for the beautiful Stacy!  Stacy and I met in college playing rugby together and I've loved her ever since. A little bit about me: I played rugby, was in the Army, and my partner and I have a pack of animals in our beautiful home. 

Sabrina Gleason

I met Ben at the mall when our group went to see Star Wars, and I met Stacy years later at French Fest. Some of my favorite memories include us running through the Destiny 2 campaign together—RIP Clyde—and watching the first season of Castlevania in an Xbox party. Honestly, every hangout over the years has been great, and I truly cherish all of them. A fun fact about me is that I can recognize voice actors across tons of shows and anime. Thank you for letting me be a part of your wonderful day; even though we don’t chat all the time, I think about you both often. Wishing you a happy, beautiful, and lasting marriage.

Jaylyn Raglin

Hi, everyone! I’m Sarah, Stacy’s cousin, and co-flower girl with my sister, Ally!!
Fun facts about me: I’m currently in grad school for Landscape Architecture, and during my free time I enjoy playing video games and cuddling up with my dogs, cats, rabbits, snake, chicken, & quail!
My favorite memory with the bride: getting spontaneous flash tattoos during the total solar eclipse!

Sarah Gaffney

I’ve known Ben for at least ten years and eventually met Stacy through him. One of my favorite memories is when Jake’s sister Aleasha hit Ben with a “kamehamaha fart attack”. And of course, Stacy trying to convince me she was on this planet first even though we share a birthday. As for a fun fact… I guess my hidden talent is making people say “god dammit, Hizen.”

I’m so glad you two make each other feel happy and cherished. I can’t wait to celebrate your special day. Cheers to many more years together!

Ben Hierholzer

I’m Ally (Wilbert / Gaffney), Stacy’s cousin. I am co-flower girl with my sister sarah!! 

A little about me, I am a recruiter in Chicago but live outside of Syracuse with my husband and our 6 fur babies… lol four cats and two dogs. I just had a baby girl September 2025 so adjusting to motherhood! 

Fun fact - along with my 6 fur babies I have chickens and ducks and am babysitting my friends goose. My hobbies are trying new recipes, reading, walking, swimming and adventures outside. 

My favorite memories with Stacy have sushi dates, touring her garden, sending each other daily animal pictures, recipe swaps, book talks, and playing games/swimming and adventuring outside in the summer and just Stacy as a whole she is always down to do something fun and adventurous!

Ally Wilbert

Friends with the groom for 16 years, met the bride during one of many legendary bar‑hopping adventures, and has survived more than a few shenanigans at the Waterman stronghold. Fun fact: I can do over 250 different voices.

Darran Raglin

Wedding Party

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We kindly ask guests to wear autumn-inspired semi-formal attire, suits, dresses, dressy separates. Please wear your best autumn colors for a group photo with the Bride and Groom!Western boots are also acceptable.Footwear: Please note that the ceremony will be held in a grassy/woodsy area.

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Cost: $10 per ride - day of wedding. 
Distance: Cape Vincent to Clayton. 
Please also utilize throughout the weekend.

Chug Wagon 

Angel Rock Waterfront Cottages & Vacation Homes

2 bedroom 1 bath locally owned Airbnb.

Riverview Cottage

2 bedrooms and 2 bath locally owned Airbnb with a river view.

Golden View

4 bedrooms (8 beds) 1.5 bath. Locally owned Airbnb by our close friends! We highly recommend staying here for a nice wedding weekend getaway on the water.

The Waterfront Cottage

Capeway Cottages

1000 Islands Harbor Hotel

Watertown International Airport

Syracuse Hancock International Airport

Kingston Airport

Travel

O'Briens Restaurant & Bar

Cape Vincent Brewing Company

Laker's Eats Diner

https://www.facebook.com/BayDriveIn/

Bay Drive-In Theatre

Wellesley Island State Park

Coyote Moon Vineyards

Thousand Islands Winery

1000 Islands River Rat Cheese

Cape Vincent Breakwater Lighthouse

Boldt Castle & Boldt Yacht House

1000 Islands Helicopter Tours

Ferry to Wolfe Island Canada. Check facebook for transportation times and bring cash. Don't forget your documentation!!

Stacy & Benjamin