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Our Story

We first encountered each other online in 2021 (I know, kinda sketchy if you ask me). We both were in the Civil Air Patrol cadet program as teens and joined the same online Discord forum for cadets in MN. Lydia’s last name (Wilson) was her identifying feature on this platform. Therefore, Ben was under the impression that she was a man for about a month before she got a chance to correct him. He realized Lydia was a woman after he mistakenly used the male gender to address her. He was subsequently heckled for over a year about his mistake. Consequently, he has never forgotten that Lydia is a woman since the incident. We first met in person at Lydia’s CAP squadron meeting in Blaine MN. Benjamin just got back from Air Force Tech School in Arkansas and was working at Joint Reserve Station St. Paul at the time. He showed up to the CAP squadron meeting to try to stay social with some other friends he knew from high school. The first thing Lydia remembers about him was that he was tall and kinda nerdy. The first thing Benjamin remembers about Lydia is that she was short, a charmingly awkward, and had the most beautiful red hair he had ever seen. Ben may or may not have a thing for gingers… Not too long after first meeting, they saw each other at a formal CAP conference in May of 2022. Lydia was a bit of an introvert during the dance–tending to stick closely with one of Ben’s squadron mates in Alexandria. As a result, Benjamin used his ambivert skills of adaptability to be outgoing towards Lydia. During the dance, and after some energetic dance moves, Benjamin was able to convince Lydia and the other girl from Alexandria to join in on the fun. The budding relationship started to blossom after Lydia was taught the Macarena, Cha-Cha Slide and the Cupid Shuffle by Benjamin. After the conference, Benjamin and Lydia learned that they were going to go the University of North Dakota together in the Fall of 2022 and share a minor in the AFROTC program. As a result, as soon as they got to college, Benjamin and Lydia started hanging out and working on AFROTC requirements together. We called this our “pseudo-dating” phase. AFROTC requires all officer candidates to pass a written exam called the AFOQT in their first two years of the program. Ben eventually got the nerve to ask Lydia to…study for the written exam together. (He didn’t ask her out at this point, I know, kinda lame). As a result of Lydia accepting the invitation, we spent a lot of time studying for this exam together, which gave us the opportunity to get to know each other more. During the first week of school, Lydia invited Ben to some events at the Newman Center. One of the most iconic stories of this pseudo-dating phase is when Lydia wanted to go canoe on the river. The problem was, she didn't have a vehicle capable of taking a canoe anywhere. So, she thought to herself "Ben has a Jeep, maybe he would go with me?". Lo and behold, Lydia convinced Ben one Saturday to rent a canoe with her and go on the river. Here is where the irony comes in: Benjamin is still convinced to this day that this was a signal to him that Lydia wanted to be asked out, however Lydia still denies this allegation to date since she was not actively looking for a romantic relationship. She was just “starving for social time”. Lydia had no idea that the main motivator to accept was because he liked her. Regardless of the jokes that come up from the missed signals, the awkward amounts of alone time we had together, and our own respectable denseness that arose from the pseudo-dating phase, it was a critical moment in our relationship where our friendship blossomed. We learned how to be good friends to each other with none of the pressures that tends to arise from the weight of dating.&nbsp;We look back fondly at the memories of feeling so lucky that we had at a solid friendship on campus so early into college life.After the accidental canoeing date, Benjamin began overanalyzing–as he usually does. He was trying to discern whether or not to ask Lydia out. Embarrassingly enough, he was fairly confident that he wanted to ask Lydia out after the first week of school. However, his mind got in the way, and he just wasn’t sure if it was a prudent decision. He went back and forth for over a month and a half on whether he would ask Lydia out or just let it be. On Sunday, October 2, 2022, Benjamin participated in the AFROTC Ruck4Recovery where he marched over 20 miles from UND to Grand Forks AFB. During that time, he was able to do a lot of thinking. He decided that Lydia had all the qualities that he would want in a wife. She was a beautiful, smart, compassionate, kind, respectful…and a ginger!&nbsp; Eventually, the dread of never knowing if he didn’t ask eventually ate at him enough during the ruck that he made up his mind to at least ask her out. Sounds like a simple task, doesn’t it? Of course, Benjamin couldn’t make it a simple task. On four separate occasions, Ben created conditions to ask Lydia out. On three of those occasions, Benjamin failed in his task. Did Lydia reject him, and he is just a persistent little butthole? No! Benjamin was just too chicken to ask this supermodel of a woman out. His first failure occurred before the ruck, documented on Discord on 09/29/2022 (see the picture), where Benjamin was sitting at Wilkerson Dining Center freaking out on if he should ask her out or not. Eventually, he “hit her up” on Discord after which Lydia invited him to her place. She thought Ben just wanted to hang out. Unfortunately, Benjamin got too nervous. As a consolation prize, he enjoyed the conversation that night. This increased his desire to ask her out even more. The other two planned times were when they were studying for the AFOQT. Eventually, Benjamin asked Lydia to meet him in at the Memorial Union on Campus. He got dressed up in his quarter zip, threw on some deodorant, memorized what he was going to say, paced up and down the halls for 30 minutes (it felt like 3 hours), and took a pregame pee. This time he did succeed in having words leave his lips.&nbsp;

Lydias perspective of the lead up to the first official date was a bit different: “In October of 2022, rumors had been started that Ben's Guard unit that might get deployed. One Friday, Ben asked me to meet him randomly at the campus Union. I remember thinking to myself, ‘I hope he isn't being deployed.’ No, he wasn't. It was on this day, Ben stood awkwardly at the top of the main staircase in the Union and asked me out on a date. The first words out of my mouth were ‘you wanna go on a date with me?’ (This was the first time any man had asked me out, I was a bit flustered).”&nbsp;Keep in mind, the words Ben used to ask Lydia out were NOT the words he had memorized. He voice-cracked and stuttered more than an awkward 15-year-old taking Public Speaking. This comedic series of events made an awkward yet unforgettable experience! Benjamin was so nervous for the first date. Unfortunately, he doesn’t remember much about the lead up. But Lydia remembers that day vividly, “I remember getting ready for our first date at the Newman house, and one of my housemates, Kasia Sikora [who happens to be part of the host couple you will meet at the reception], helping me get ready. As Ben walked to the front door to knock, 6 girls all stood at the front window, watching excitedly. Our first date was so special, and Ben was the perfect gentleman. We made things official not long after that. Dating is a process to find your spouse, and I was able to lay out my expectations on the second date to Ben. I remember being nervous that he wouldn't want to date after seeing how serious I was about it, but Ben knew what he was looking for as well.” After a year and a half and much anticipation we finally got engaged on Pentecost Sunday in 2024 on a hill overlooking the Kakac’s 120+ year old family farmstead just southwest of Alexandria, MN. How did Benjamin get Lydia to the farm without her knowing? Through lies and deceit of course! Benjamin and Lydia were already in Ham Lake, MN visiting Lydia’s parents that weekend. So, Benjamin told Lydia and her parents that Mathew Kakac (Benjamin’s Father) was having a ceremony for his non-profit organization: Lakes Area Law Dog. This ceremony was never existed. As a result, Benjamin coerced Lydia into getting into a dress and all pretty. They made it to Dad’s property before the sun went down. Once at the Kakac farm, Benjamin told Lydia he had to “show her something”. They then started on a walk up the hill. Once on top of the hill Ben made a small speech he had prepared (which in contrast to his spectacular first-date proposal, he successfully recited), got down on one knee, and asked Lydia to be his wife. Lydia of course said yes! In the last 2 1/2 years, we have shared and endured many good times, hardships, and adventures. Mutually, our steadfast commitment to God and family has been one of the most attractive traits we find in each other. We are looking forward to creating a God centered family filled with love, respect, and life.

Our Story in Photos

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Wedding Party

Lucas Selzler is Benjamin's cousin. Consequently, he has been a built-in friend for life! Many family events were spent together playing videogames, eating copious amounts of bread, and messing with sisters. Being of the same blood, Lucas is a very special person in Benjamin's life. Despite everything that happens in life Lucas has remained steadfast in his role as friend and family–not giving way to the troubles of life and relationship. Lucas and Benjamin continue to support one another in their careers, families, and lives. We appreciate Lucas and all he has done for us. We are honored to call him Best Man!

"One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." Proverbs 18:24

Lucas Selzler

Lilly is Lydia's oldest friend! They first met in the summer of 2017 at a Civil Air Patrol camp. Lydia and Lilly were paired together for the whole week, which started off their friendship strong. They continued this friendship all the way into college, where they are only an hour drive apart instead of the usual three! This helped their relationship blossom as they both strive to serve the Lord and find their vocations. Lilly is a strong Catholic woman with the most kind and loving personality you will ever find.  She radiates the love of God to all, and truly believes in people. "Charm is deceptive and beauty fleeting;
the woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." - Proverbs 31:30

Lilliana O'Reilly

Andrew Brown was Benjamin's bunkmate at Basic Military Training and a fellow crew chief that wrenches on aircraft in the great state of West Virginia. By chance and miracle, they attended Tech School at around the same time and even attended their final class and graduated together. Andrew helped Benjamin greatly as he was trying to figure out how to be a Christian in the military and was a great model to him on how to cultivate a relationship into a marriage. Benjamin even got to be one of Andrew's groomsmen for his wedding! Andrew was supposed to be sent on deployment over the date of our wedding, but by another miracle he is now able to celebrate with us. We are very thankful that the LORD allowed this to be! "Therefore, take up the full armor of God, so that you will be able to resist in the evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm." Ephesians 6:13

Andrew Brown

Elizabeth is Lydia's cousin and confirmation sponsor. Lydia and Elizabeth grew up having many good times together playing cards, sledding and exploring the woods. Later in life, Elizabeth became a vital older role model for Lydia as a faithful catholic woman.  Elizabeth has a great personality, and always has a good joke or one liner to keep the life of the party going. "In everything set them an example by doing what is good." -Titus 2:7

Elizabeth Franich

Elijah Ness is one of Benjamins long-time hometown buddies. They grew up together attending Homeschool events and attended the same church during middle and high school. Many days were wasted playing video games, discussing firearms, and making fun of communists! We wouldn't have wanted it any other way. Despite the geographic separation, Elijah continues to be a great friend as a man of character, confidant, and theological sparring partner. "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." Proverbs 21:17

Elijah Ness

Helena is Lydia's cousin. Helena and Lydia grew up seeing each other a few times a year, as Lydia often lived far from the family. When Lydia's family moved to Minnesota, Helena and Lydia were able to build a wonderful friendship! They have had many good times together, including sledding, slip and slides, and many Texas Hold 'em games with Grandpa. Helena is a strong woman of God, with no fear and as honest as they come. She will always stand by you and isn't afraid to call you to be a better person. “She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” – Proverbs 31:25

Helena Franich

Benjamin and Martin met each other during their first year at the University of North Dakota after which they quickly learned they serve in the same Air National Guard Squadron as Crew Chiefs. After Benjamin invited him to Newman Center social events, they started hanging out regularly. Martin became a great influence in Benjamin's decision to come into communion with the Catholic Church and was even his confirmation sponsor. Martin continues to be an influential friend in the faith. Benjamin and Martin continue to foster brotherhood by attending Mass, Bible Study, and Men's group at the Newman Center. Martin is an incredible brother-in-Christ to have our backs! "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity." Proverbs 17:17

Martin Sorensen

Hannah is a former FOCUS Catholic Missionary. Hannah and Lydia met when Lydia attended the University of North Dakota. They enjoyed many fun times together traveling to Wisconsin for spring break and swing dancing at barn dances! Many Tuesday nights were spent at Hannah's house watching The Chosen, enjoying the Gospel coming to life and learning the personalities of the Apostles. Hannah has been a very strong Catholic role model and influence in Lydia's walk with the Lord, as well as an amazing friend. “She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” – Proverbs 31:26

Hannah Green

Harry Dunn has been a long time friend of Benjamin. They attended taekwondo, the Korean Art of the Sword, and Civil Air Patrol together during middle and high school. They feed off of each other's patriotism, sense of duty, and love of family. Despite living hundreds of miles apart they seem to be able to run into each other as they pursue their callings in the world whether it is simply visiting each other or running into each other at random concerts in South Dakota! Harry has been a loyal friend and virtuous man! "Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing." 1 Thessalonians 5:11

Harry Dunn

Mary is Lydia's younger sister. Lydia was so thrilled to learn she was being blessed with her first sister in 2012. Mary's fiery red hair is reflective of her personality, which may be an imitation of a certain older sister. :) Mary is developing into a wonderful young woman and more importantly a woman of God! "Let no one have contempt for your youth, but set an example for those who believe, in speech, conduct, love, faith, and purity." 1 Timothy 4:12

Mariella Wilson

Flower Girl and Ring Bearer

Felicity is Lydia's youngest sister. She is the girly girl of the family, with a special love for lipstick, dresses, and jewelry. Felicity is nine years old, but she acts like she is going on 21. :) She's very independent and loves to go off on her own adventures with her neighborhood friend. Felicity is a faithful young girl, always finding her little ways to serve others and God. "Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward." Psalm 127:3

Felicity Wilson

Banner Ochsner is Benjamin's first cousin once removed. Son of Benjamin's cousin Elle Selzler and her fiance Aaron Ochsner. Banner is one year old. Because Elle and Aaron live and go to school at the University of North Dakota, we have gotten to watch this young man grow up from pregnancy until now! He has been a joy to all of us, and we are excited to see where life takes this young man! “See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my Father in heaven.” Matthew 18:10

Banner Ochsner

Mass Assistants

EJ is Lydia's younger brother. He is fourteen, and developing his interests in many subjects! EJ is a yo-yo master, Rubix cube solver, chess lover, and always has a good joke or pun for you. Emmanuel serves the Mass every week at his home parish with his closest friends. EJ is growing into a young man of God with many talents that he uses to serve the LORD. "But it shall not be so among you. Rather, whoever wishes to be great among you will be your servant" Mark 10:43

Emmanuel (EJ) Wilson

Zane is a FOCUS Catholic Missionary. He is currently assigned as the lead at UND. Lydia and Ben met Zane at UND, and he has been an excellent example of how to live the faith. Zane has a kind heart and loves to meet new people. He always has a smile for everyone, and has great compassion for people. Zane works especially closely with new Catholics, helping answer questions they have and inviting them to go deeper in the faith.  “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:16

Zane Roberts

Josh served as a FOCUS missionary last year at the University of North Dakota and has been a pivotal figure in Benjamin's faith formation. He was one of the first people (besides Lydia, Martin, and Father Chris) to invite Benjamin into community at the Newman Center through Bible Study and later the Discipleship program mentoring Benjamin and showing him how to lead a virtuous life. He is the model of the man Benjamin wants to imitate and we are ecstatic he is making the trip to serve the Mass for us! "Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled. In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us." Titus 2:6-8

Josh Andreason

Additional Help/Thanks

Briana Wilson - Mother of the BrideAndrew Wilson - Father of the BrideCindee Kakac - Mother of the GroomMathew Kakac - Father of the GroomCamden Ness - Mass PianistSophia LeMire - Mass VocalsTherese Kulzer - Mass VocalsTyler Olsen - UsherMax Wilson - UsherKasia Sikora - GreeterTimothy O'Brien-GreeterJohn Wilson - Audio SupportCaleb Hamilton - DJRyan Schultz - DJ This wedding was made possible by contributions to your local fiancés from viewers like you. Thank you!

Benjamin & Lydia

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