Sikhism is a religion from north India and closely connected to the state of Punjab. Therefore, you may see “Sikh ceremony”, "Punjabi ceremony", or the actual name “Anand Karaj” used.
For the ceremony, guests will be asked to take off their shoes and put on a head scarf (similar to a bandana) or shawl that covers their head (no hats or caps). For any guests that need one, there will be clean head scarves by the entrance for you to use and a subsequent discard pile upon exit.
After entering the hall, women will sit on the right side and men on the left. Family close to the bride and groom will sit towards the front and sit on the floor. Other guests are welcome to sit on the floor behind them or in the chairs. While it is traditional and encouraged to sit on the floor, there will be ample chairs for anyone with physical needs or who is uncomfortable sitting on the floor.
The Sikh minister, known as a Bhaiji, will be on a stage at the front of the hall with the Sikh holy scripture, known as the Guru Granth Sahib, on a raised pedestal. The Bhaiji will lead the procession in prayer and song. The core of the ceremony, almost like the equivalent of vows or exchanging rings, is known as the Lavan. At this point, the bride and groom will circle the stage four times with the Bhaiji leading four verses of marriage-specific prayers. And boom! We’re married!
After this, the Bhaiji or family will conclude the ceremony and dismiss the guests for lunch.
If you have been to any Protestant or church wedding, this will be really similar! The ceremony should be about 45 minutes (there will not be communion), and will include some readings from the Bible, some songs, and probably a fair amount of organ music. There will be programs available at the church that explain the parts of the ceremony and what's going on. The tradition is that Raj's family will be sitting on one side of the aisle, and Cass's on the other, but we're not really a traditional couple, so please feel free to sit where you feel most comfortable. Also don't be shy about sitting closer to the front--the organ is loud, but the voices in the church are....not as loud. Raj and Cass will make promises to each other, there will be an exchange of rings, a cute little kiss, and then we are married (again!) and ready to start the party!