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Bonafide Life is a San Francisco based non-profit whose mission is to ensure that people affected by incarceration have the material, emotional and advocacy support they need to both integrate into society and build healthy, productive lives going forward. That includes assisting in rent payments and providing basic furniture and home good necessities for returning citizens. Please consider donating, so that a traditional wedding "registry" can go to those who are trying to rebuild from the trauma and isolation of decades of incarceration.
https://give.bonafidelife.org/give/525541/#!/donation/checkout
GiveDirectly is a nonprofit that provides cash with no strings attached to families living in extreme poverty across the world. What might be a small amount of money for us can be truly life-changing for a family in extreme poverty, allowing them to invest in a business, or education, or nutrition--however they see fit. Not only does this dignity-first approach align with our values, it's backed by rigorous effectiveness research.