Desi & Alex
Desi & Alex
Our intention for the wedding ceremony day is to have a small and intimate gathering of our closest family and friends.
When thinking about our ceremony, we realized that rather than having the focus be solely on us, it was important to us to include all of you, since you all have shaped us into the people we are today. One of the main goals of our wedding is to bring the people that we love together and foster a sense of community and connection between everyone there. So, we have decided to modify the ceremony to reflect this.
Here's how it will work: we will all be seated in a circle. After we say a few words, we will then open up the floor for anyone to say a few words to us if they want to. There is absolutely no requirement to say anything; no one has to talk if they don’t want to. But for those that do, the idea is that they can share something, whether that’s a memory with one of us or both of us, a piece of advice or words of wisdom, or anything else that comes to mind. It doesn’t have to be long, in fact we ask that if you do choose to speak you limit it to less than 2 minutes.
We will be doing this instead of formal speeches, and we hope that this activity will not only strengthen our connection with each of you, but also strengthen your connections to each other.
FAQ
What time should I arrive?
The event will start at 3:30pm, and we will be serving beer and wine as well as a cheese and charcuterie board. See below for a more detailed timeline.
What will the timeline look like?
3:30 PM - Light refreshments and bites served as guests arrive.
4:15 PM - Guests take their seat in preparation for the ceremony to begin.
4:30 PM - Ceremony begins. We’ve budgeted 1.5 hours for the ceremony but it’s possible it will end a bit earlier.
6:00 PM - Ceremony ends. Alex and Desi take pictures while the guests enjoy appetizers and an open bar.
7:00 PM - Dinner
10:00 PM - FIN
Will there be an after party?
We won’t have an after party, but please join us for a nightcap at The Lafayette Hotel.
Am I allowed to bring a plus one?
If you are allowed a plus one, it will be indicated when you RSVP on our website.
What is the dress code?
Anywhere from semi-formal to business casual (for men: slacks, dress pants, button ups, blazers, suits all OK. For women: knee length dresses, sleeveless dresses, open toed shoes all OK).
Will the event be outdoors or indoors?
The entire event will be outdoors.
What will the weather be like?
In early August, San Diego typically enjoys a pleasant heat. We recommend avoiding super thick clothing.
How do I get to the wedding venue? Is there parking?
Please use a rideshare service or have a designated driver if you are planning to drink alcohol. There will be limited parking available, but if you need a parking spot, please reach out to us ahead of time so we can reserve one for you.
What kind of food and drink will be served during the event? Will you have vegan/gluten-free/etc options?
We will be serving mainly Italian cuisine (pasta, flatbread, etc) and there will be plenty of vegetarian options. Please let us know in the RSVP if you have any dietary restrictions and we will make sure to get you a special plate.
Will there be an open bar?
You better believe it.
Have you booked hotel room block for guests?
We have not booked any hotel room blocks, but please look at the Travel tab on the website for recommendations of where to stay.
Can I take pictures during the ceremony to post on social media? What is your wedding hashtag?
During the ceremony, please refrain from taking pictures so we can focus on being present together. Before and after, feel free to take as many pictures and videos as you like and share them on social media. Use #Balus&ChuSayIDo. We will share virtual copies of the wedding album after the event.
How do I RSVP? When is the deadline?
Please digitally RSVP through the RSVP tab on our website by July 1st.
Will there be a virtual component to the wedding?
No.
What is there to do in San Diego? Where are good places to eat or drink?
Please visit our “Things to Do” tab for a list of our favorite spots in San Diego!
Do you have a registry?
No, we are not accepting gifts. Your presence on our special day already means a lot to us 🙂
How can I contact you if I have more questions?
Please reach out to us via email:
Will there be any health and safety measures I need to be aware of?
We will not be enforcing any specific measures but please reach out to us if you have any concerns. We encourage everyone to let us know if they need special accommodations to make them feel safe and secure at our event.
Where can I find wedding updates?
We will be sending updates via email.