HOW WE MET (Evan's Version)

It was Friday, April 1st, 2011. Cassie was invited by her friend and a colleague of mine to an impromptu 'wrap party' after he and I spent a week filming a feature for HBO. When I was introduced to Cassie at the bar I assumed she was his girlfriend, but we had a polite conversation discussing documentary filming and I brought up a great documentary I had just watched which happened to be the film that inspired her career. We talked for a bit and I realized that I was imposing on my work friend and excused myself to dance with the production assistants (their idea to get me out of that situation). I didn't see her the rest of the night and on the following Monday, as we were in the pass van going to work, Cassie's friend said that she wanted me to have her number and to call her. Needless to say I called Cassie that night and we made plans for our first date.

HOW WE MET (Cassie's Version)

It was April Fools Day 2011 and my friend Jordan insisted that I come to a small 'wrap party' in San Francisco for a HBO film he'd been working on called "Hemingway & Gellhorn". I hated driving to the city (still hate it), but Jordan said the wrap party was at a bar called 'Smuggler's Cove' and I happened to know the manager there, so I decided to go. As I was parking, Jordan texted me saying Smuggler's Cove was too full so the wrap party was moved to a bar called 'Sugar Lounge'. My introversion was telling me to turn around, but thankfully I made the impulse decision to go. I walked into Sugar Lounge, Jordan greeted me and then started introducing me to the dozen-or-so people sitting there. The 4th person's hand I shook was Evan's and instantly everything around him went blurry and turned slow-motion. I was taken by his beautiful bright blue eyes and long curly surfer hair. His smile and energy was so warm and inviting; I just wanted to be around him. Soon into the night, I made sure to sit near him and he started asking me questions about what I did. I explained I was a documentary filmmaker and then he brought up how much he liked this one film which was actually the film that inspired my whole filmmaking career (a documentary called 'Jesus Camp'). We had a great conversation dissecting documentary filmmaking techniques and then he was whisked away by a group of rambunctious lesbians insisting he dance with them, which made me adore him even more. I saw he had a good, fun spirit and attitude to dance silly with all the girls, and from our conversation I could tell he was also very thoughtful and intelligent. As the night was ending and everyone was leaving, I placed myself next to the door hoping Evan would say 'good night' to me, but he walked right past me. I was so disappointed. I felt like we had an instant connection that I had never experienced before and I didn't want to let that slip away. The next day I saw Jordan and I figured I had nothing to lose since I may never see Evan again, so I asked Jordan to give Evan my phone number but to make it sound like I didn't ask Jordan to do that (because I didn't want to seem weird and desperate). I told Jordan to act like he was a guy helping a guy out by giving him my number, because "Cassie would be too shy to make the first move". Well, apparently Jordan didn't go with the plan, he just flat-out told Evan "Cassie wanted me to give you her number". Luckily Evan wasn't put off by the forwardness. He called right away and we made plans for our first date which was a motorcycle ride to Tomales Bay.