For those who may be unaware, we will be entering into a mixed faith marriage. As a result, we get the gift of being able to celebrate using traditions from both Judaism and Christianity. Below you will see a list of what to expect as some of our exciting plans may be new to you!

Who is the officiant? Officiating the wedding will be Reverend Nii Addo Abrahams (Christian - Presbyterian). We have known Nii since the beginning of our relationship and he has played a large role in both of our lives from the moment we first attended our collegiate ministry, Pres House. Today, we have the privilege of calling Nii a dear friend and feel honored he will be the one marrying us. A note from Matt: ask Nii what his favorite Star Wars prequel is. The answer may surprise you.

What is a Unity Candle? In Christian worship, the tradition of lighting candles has many spiritual meanings. The light of the candle represents the light of a person's life, and the light shining forth represents God's truth shining forth upon the world, reminding us of our connection to Him. A candle melts until its flame is extinguished in the physical realm, but a soul’s spark is eternal. Collectively, believers lighting a candle represents the sharing and fellowship of faith. Lighting candles at a wedding ceremony is a symbolic representation of joining of a couple within the covenant of marriage.

What is the hora? The hora is a traditional Jewish dance performed at celebratory events. During the hora, all attendees dance in a circle, with the newlyweds dancing in the middle. During the hora, both the bride and groom (as well as the parents and siblings of each) are lifted into the air in the center of the congregation. When the bride and groom are lifted, the couple each holds one end of a handkerchief or napkin to signify their union. No matter your experience - you could be Matt's grandpa Marty that has danced many a hora, or Hailey's maid of honor Autumn who (to our knowledge) has never partaken - all are encouraged to dance and experience the fun!

What is the breaking of the glass? The breaking of the glass is a Jewish custom that has a number of interpretations. Some say it is a symbol of the love that will remain forever, in both good times and bad. The permanence of the broken glass represents a permanent change in the lives of the couple as well. Just as glasses are broken and can never be fully repaired, the lives of the newlyweds will never be quite the same. Once the couple breaks the glass, guests are encouraged to shout "Mazel Tov!".

We're thrilled that you're coming to celebrate with us – and your presence is a gift in itself! If you would like to honor us with a gift, you can find our registry below.