Carson and Dan Wedding Celebration

Ceremony

Cocktail and Pupus (Appetizers) Hour

Dillingham Ranch

Reception

Send-Off

Location of all Day-of-Wedding Events: Dillingham Ranch 68-434 Farrington Hwy, Waialua, HI 96791

Our Wedding

The Saga of Daniel James and Carson Arianna Maring

Carson and Dan met on a Wednesday morning around 8:30 am on August 24, 2016. They were attending their first day of class for their doctoral degrees in clinical psychology at Wheaton College in Wheaton, Illinois. Although destined to eventually get to know each other, Dan and Carson truly became acquainted that morning during a “first day of graduate school” icebreaker activity of a life-sized Rock-Paper-Scissors Tournament initiated by the man who would later become their respective doctoral dissertation advisor and trusted friend. Time has a funny way of distorting memories, but Carson consistently claims that she won that rock-paper-scissors face-off. And since Dan cannot remember how things played out, chances are she is probably right.

Although Carson and Dan met that day, any aspirations for romance did not begin until later during spring of 2017. Dan had suffered a string of dead-end relationship attempts and, being friends with Carson, decided to confide in her about his lack of success in the relational arena. Throughout the process of confiding in Carson as a friend and relational advisor, he fell for her in the process. Specifically, Dan remembered looking at Carson dancing one night while out for their classmate Christina Hollman’s birthday and thinking, “Wait…. What about her [Carson]? She’s hot and super fun!” Around this time Dan went out and bought a used longboard so that Carson, an avid longboarder, could “teach him how to longboard.” Real smooth. After all, she totally fell for it! In fact, Carson remembers that after one such “teaching Dan to longboard” session, she and Dan decided to go to Jimmy John’s for some dinner off Roosevelt Road in Wheaton. While driving there, Carson remembers Dan casually asking, “Would you ever date someone in the [Wheaton College PsyD] program?” To which her answer was “Heck no! If things went south, it would be social and professional suicide!” Thank God Almighty that Carson’s fear-drenched answer did not deter Dan from pursuing her.

Over the next month, Dan asked trusted friends and family for their wisdom about whether he should pursue Carson. Meanwhile, Carson was finding herself wanting to spend increasing time with Dan but could not understand why; “What is this feeling? I want to be around him all the time. Weird.” Classic Carson. This culminated in Dan taking a leap of faith and finally asking Carson out for a date in late spring of 2017. Carson remembers Dan, not “asking,” but stating, “I’d like to take you out… to dinner.”&nbsp;After that, Carson’s face must have reflected some strong emotions as her classmate Christina, whom she was with, kept mouthing, “What’s he saying?!” as she sat in her car with Carson outside of the Marshalls in St. Louis, Missouri.

Carson was speechless, which is a feat in and of itself, and was understandably shocked, as approximately one month prior they had discussed how dating anyone in the program would be foolish and extremely faux pas. Carson thoroughly considered Dan’s offer to take her out to dinner. In fact, she promptly waited three days before seeing Dan for an entire evening at a formal function before denying his dinner offer because “she already knew how she felt about [him]” and “didn’t want to waste a meal.” How seemingly efficient, right? However, other feelings prevailed and two weeks later, Carson’s fear of vulnerability was overcome by her mom and one of her best friends’ (Alina Cartwright) advice to “Go for it!” as she accepted Dan’s offer for dinner.

Three extremely amazing dates (And yes, some of Dan and Carson’s favorite things were involved: Sushi, Navy Pier, Star Wars, and Italian cuisine), Carson’s traumatic car wreck, another rejection by Carson, a summer of contemplation by Dan, and a collectively wild weekend in Washington, D.C. (thank you Madam’s Organ!) later, Carson and Dan found themselves discussing the potential for a romantic relationship during fall of 2017. In retrospect, this conversation may not have even happened if a dear friend and classmate, *cough cough* Luke Vander Wal, had not poured Carson a strong “night mix” at a classmate bonfire. Carson, having (finally) gotten honest with herself and much improved in her bravery during their summer apart, told Dan that she had been thinking about him all summer and wanted to give “talking” a try. Dan immediately translated her fear-based speech “talking” into “dating,” which brought him great joy. This began Carson and Dan’s relationship, which they officially decided started on October 15th, 2017; the day Carson was able to demonstrate her ability to use “boyfriend” in reference to Dan without visible cringing or noticeable changes in her speech rate, tone, or volume. It took Carson a while to come to the realization that she could be a strong, self-sufficient, confident woman and have a significant other. In retrospect, Carson recognizes that these difficulties were centered on identity hang-ups. She realized over time that the resolution of these sorts of things took patience, wise counsel, authentic self-reflection, and the help of a therapist. Additionally, Carson has continuously challenged Dan in unique and profound ways; specifically, she calls him to greater depths of humility, admission of normal human weakness, and the potential to grow in one’s ability to be emotionally expressive and comfortable in his masculine identity. All in all, Carson and Dan clearly make each other better people.

Nearly three years later, Dan and Carson have become experienced bushmasters as they have waded into uncharted relational territories. Guided by their sincere love of Jesus Christ and devotion to God, they have fallen deeply in love as they have traversed vast swaths of relational landscape. Many of you have witnessed firsthand or heard about Dan and Carson’s relational failures and triumphs. And they have realized just how blessed they are to be surrounded by people who will continue to help them in their journey towards God and each other. For this, Dan and Carson are eternally grateful and thankful.&nbsp;Now, nearly released by their academic tasks and degree requirements, they are happily announcing their plans to become of one flesh on September 24, 2022 at Dillingham Ranch on the island of O’ahu (Hawai’i). Therefore, it is with delight that we (Carson and Dan) extend our warmest invitation to witness our marriage and celebrate with us!

Our Story

Engagement Photos

The Wedding Party - The Ladies

Fall 2006, I met Carson mid-conditioning circuit on the stall bars doing another brutal set of leg lifts at gymnastics practice. Shortly after, the depth of our pain was thankfully surpassed by that of our friendship. We grew not only as teammates, but also as sisters (oreo-siblings), becoming almost an extension of one another, attached at the hip, and a part of each other’s family’s. Throughout middle school, high school, infinite hours of blood, sweat, and tears at practice, laughter-filled sleepovers, wakeboard Wednesdays, sunburnt beach days, and countless trips to the mainland for competitions, we became increasingly aware of our underlying similarities, at first often overlooked by the volume of our apparent differences. We understand each other often before we truly know ourselves, and I marvel at the honest, genuine, rooted in faith, vulnerable, and filter-free characteristics of our friendship.
The years since moving away from Hawaii have only strengthened our friendship and sisterhood in Christ, and shown us the importance of intentionally loving one another despite the distance. We’ve gone through every stage of life thus far together - either in person, flying across the country to visit each other in college or crashing each other’s family vacations, through emoji-coded text messages, or hundreds of hours of FaceTime. She’s the one that every friend in college and grad school knew because I always talked about her. Carson this, Carson that… and when I also visited her I felt I already knew her world, her friends, her triumphs, and her struggles. She’s bold and courageous in how she loves others, even at 2am when I mess up the time zone calculation yet again calling over FaceTime.
Each summer, on our last day on island before leaving for another year of college, we would hike the pillboxes together to watch the sunrise between the Mokuluas - jointly delighting in the joys and uncertainties of the start of yet another chapter of life unfolding before us (pictured above). I am honored and filled with overflowing happiness to be by Carson’s side as the sun rises on this next wonderful step in life for her. One word to describe Dan and Carson's relationship: Introspective

 Jenna Frowein

Carson was my first best friend! (Don't tell Erik) She acted as my teacher and guardian since the day I was born, and I'm such a compassionate person because of it. She made sure to set the bar high when we were growing up, challenging me to be the best version of myself I could. And, of course, I wanted to be just like her, a gymnast, a scholar. Carson was my example and guide, and then, when I finally chose my own path, my #1 supporter and I owe her everything because of it. 
One word to describe Carson and Dan's relationship? Caring. 

Camryn Tabiolo

Loyal. Kindhearted. Spunky! Enough about me...this is supposed to be about how I kind of know Carson. And trust me, you would know if she was in the room.  It is not hard to miss. If it’s not her loud “inside voice,” then it may be her good nature to connect, laugh and stealthily psychoanalyze with you.  But that’s just it, she has the spirit of having an open heart and willing mind as she tackles through life. And you know this chick, she’s a Tabiolo.  As her older cousin/sister, with the help of her siblings, she has the ability to handle a “playful” punch to the arm or a “painless” football tackle to the ground. She may be in tears at times, but she is also laughing.  In spite of it all, she still has the ability to find the joy and goodness in life, even though she is still dusting the dirt and possible blood off her knees.  I am overjoyed that she has found her life-partner, with Dan, who can handle this tough carabao (filipino water buffalo).  She may be, at times, an untamed buck-wild carabao, but there is no doubt that she has the grace, compassion and love to share a beautiful marriage with Dan and all that they both bring together.  Congratulations Carson and Dan.  Much aloha to you two and all the extended `ohana.


Carsy! Here is my word…
Ho`oponopono. Everything in its place and everything has a place.  
That’s how my kumu taught us how for live.  

Mahalo nui, Lil Cuz. 

Kayla "Manu" Ponce

Dang.

Too many memories to really describe. On the one hand, we’ve had our shares of wild nights out and crazy memories, complete with our unique dance moves (can’t forget the pommel horse routine! LOL). On the other hand, I can always count on you to talk about life’s issues with, from work to relationships to coaching to the psychology of life. We’ve really had a well-rounded, well-built friendship. As I always tell you, I am forever thankful that God brought you to Oahu and brought you to HITs (Hawaiian Island Twisters), and made you like gymnastics more than soccer so that you’d come back even after being out of the gym for a few months. What started as you being inspired by all of us “HITs gymnasts” turned in to you becoming one as well, and being a huge inspiration for me both through the rest of our gymnastics careers and then into college and adult life. Reminiscing the times of our clubbing days, remembering August 16, 2016 when you left Oahu for Chicago to begin your doctoral journey to become a psychologist, and seeing you now, not only less than a year out from graduating with your doctorate degree, but also about to say “I do” to the perfect man for you, I am just so glad and honored to be by your side, and continue being by your side through this next chapter in yours and Dan’s lives.

If I had to pick one word to describe yours and Dan’s relationship, it would be RESILIENT. I think both of you as individuals are very resilient, and I know from what you’ve told me both about yours and Dan’s personal struggles in the relationship, you’ve had to be resilient in approaching the relationship from a very rational and logical point of view, and to that, I definitely think you guys have succeeded. I know starting out with him wasn’t easy for you, calling someone a boyfriend and all LOL, but I think you’ve become resilient in moving past your fears and doubts and learning how to wholeheartedly trust and love him in a way that not only makes you feel loved and supported, but also helps nurture you and grow you as a human being.


Tracie "Ace" Tamashiro

On paper, Carson and I should never have become friends. She was loud, outgoing, cool, and athletic. I was quiet, introverted, nerdy, and…I like to cook. But as we both started off the first year of our graduate program, Carson set to doing what she does best, making friends. In those first months she befriended me and another nerdy introvert who comes into the story later. In that first year we solidified our friendship on a foundation of countless hours spent sitting in the common area of her apartment building, reading, writing papers, and studying together. In the second year of the program, we both went through some dark times and our friendship deepened to one of mutual care and support. Also in that year, she pulled me aside in a literal outhouse on a camping trip to tell me that the introverted guy from earlier had asked her out and she didn’t know what to do about it.

At the beginning of our third year in the program we moved into a little basement apartment together where we survived a week without running water, three floods, and three bug infestations along with all of the other natural disasters inherent in the process of getting a doctoral degree. During these years I bore witness to all of the ups and down, laughter, tears, fights, and making up of Dan and Carson’s growing relationship. I also got to watch as Carson challenged herself daily to grow in her faith, love, confidence, and self-understanding. Carson was a witness and faithful friend to me as well through all of my ups and downs. We have seen the best and worst of each other and stuck together through it all. She is also a true woman of God and her friendship has strengthened my faith many times. I trust her more than almost anyone. She is a sister to me.

Not only did I gain a sister in Carson, but through my relationship with her I gained a brother in Dan. My friendship with him developed from an acquaintance through Carson to a real family bond that can stand on its own legs. I always told Carson, especially during rockier moments in their relationship, “You know if I ever had to choose between you and Dan I would always pick you.” But secretly, I’m really glad I will never have to choose. They both mean the world to me, and I couldn’t be more proud of them or grateful to get to be a part of their wedding day!

My word to describe Dan and Carson’s relationship: Passionate

Amy "Aims" Smith

Carson is not only one of my dearest friends, but she’s also become a sister to me.  From the moment we met during our first year of graduate school at Wheaton, we instantly became friends.  Carson embodies the abundance of life – radiating the fullness of joy and love. She has an infectious laugh and always cracks me up with her jokes. From rock climbing to my first-motorcycle ride to hip-hop dance classes, late nights at Slippery Slope, and endless sleepovers, there is never a dull moment when we’re together.  I am amazed by her depth, vulnerability, and courage. Carson has walked with me through some of my most challenging seasons. With compassion, trust, and encouragement, she shows up with honesty and transparency. She is a REAL one and always made me feel right at home. I’m so grateful to stand by her side on her wedding day! Most importantly, with moves like ours, we will be the first and last ones on the dance floor at the reception ;)
A word to describe you and Dan's relationship: 
*The first things that came to my mind* 
1) If it can be a phrase then: "built to last" 
2) If its only one word then: "intentional" 

Sotonye (So-tone-yay) Hart

 Carson and I became friends quickly. Or to be more precise, I was invited to become her friend quickly and I accepted the offer. Perpetually friending, Carson soon expanded the relationship beyond myself to include my children and spouse, embracing them in the form of post-bedtime hangouts as well as the occasional babysitting role. And throughout the time I have known her, she has always been that person: inviting others to connect, to play, to grow together. Quick to laugh, and to cry, I have grown to appreciate her zest for life in both serious and hilarious moments. Whether it be spontaneously serious conversations about the latest wrestlings that come with being spiritually reformatted in a PsyD program, or taking the night off from being a professional conference attendee and enjoying the opportunity to explore a new city, Carson was there ready to journey and explore. Through these experiences I have grown to admire her heart for justice, her boldness in choosing to speak up even when tactically unsound, comfort with perpetually learning and growing, and commitment to listen and speak with rather than for others. Although being friends with me is pretty great, I am so happy that her friendship with Dan has blossomed into something deeper and more enduring. The random phone-calls with Carson have always been a delight, however the one that transitioned from racially-discriminating housing legacies to wedding discussion was especially memorable. I am overjoyed to have the opportunity to be there for my friend, and humbled to be asked to stand alongside of her during this moment. To paraphrase a brilliant musical, life being friends with Carson is not just changed for the better, it is changed for good. 

I wanted to choose a word that was true in three senses: for you, for him, and for y'all. One of the improvements of Texan on the English Language is providing a term for multi-person units, that can double as the "third" in the relationship that is usually awkwardly named and described by psychodynamic types. So the word I chose is:

Anchoring.

I think you two have given each-other the gift of acceptance, of a firm foundation, unconditional positive regard, challenge, companionship, encouragement, etc. And it has been so great to watch you both move from simultaneously being (a) terrified of relationships and (b)  attracted to each other, to growing comfortable accepting the love of the other and transforming that mutual approach-avoidance into a central truth of life that has been visibly transformational in both of you.

Michael  Scholtz

I met Carson when we both began grad school at Wheaton.  Almost literally from day one of the program, Carson has been a sister.  Whether it's giving each other a hard time, bickering over college sports, locating free food on campus, finding good trouble, or processing life and talking about Dan, the last few years have been a blast!  Though Dan also began grad school in our same cohort, he chose to be a bit distant and mysterious for the first few months.  This made it rather difficult to get to know him at first, but once more opportunities arose, I quickly found out what an incredibly high quality man Dan is.  I happily recall the conversations when both Dan and Carson were trying to figure out how they felt about each other.  By that time, I had well-established friendships with both of them, and got to talk at length with both parties.  While I would like to think I offered a small nudge in the right direction, I don't think much could stop them from being drawn to each other.  Whether it's racing each other on the front lawn in between classes to settle an argument, or constantly joking with one another, they just fit.  I would describe their relationship as "emotive" as both of them have strong feelings that can lead to their greatest moments as well as their challenges.  All in all, they are two of the greatest people I know, and are made even better by being together.

Luke Vander Wal

Carson and I met our freshman year of college at Michigan State University, where we became instant friends, teammates, suite-mates and partners in crime. *GO GREEN!* We bonded over the similarities of having the “gymnast life” and the new adventures we would soon endure together, but our bond was strengthened through our differences. Carson being from Hawaii and myself from Metro Detroit, you could say we had a lot to learn about each other and the cultures we were brought up in and exposed to. 


The more I learned about Carson, the more I knew we were meant to be life long friends. Our   friendship throughout our time at Michigan State was more than I could have ever asked for. If I were to describe all of Carson’s qualities as a best friend, I might need another page or two, so I will just list a few. Carson is my sunshine on a bad day, an active listening ear when I need to vent, my boss babe role model I look up to, a shoulder to cry on, the bravest person I know, a future Doctor (so describing her as “smart” just doesn’t cut it), and the best belly laugh when I need it. 


We complimented each other in so many aspects of our lives and it became the foundation of our friendship. Friendship is also putting it lightly, too, because I would consider Carson more of my sister. Carson lights up my life like no other friend has ever done. Her smile is infectious and it is dang near impossible not to be happy around her. I am grateful that our paths crossed at the time that they did, and for the connection we’ve had ever since. I am beyond honored to be one of Carson’s bridesmaid (especially because Carson has the ability to make friends with everyone and anyone, so it means a lot that she chose me to stand by her side)! 

 

So many memories were created through our time at MSU and I can’t wait to create more. From fall tailgates at the stadium, study sessions at “Club Smith”, our trip to Hawaii, and all of the struggles we endured - thank you for being the lychee to my pineapple, the sour belts to our movie nights, and the Shaka to all of our pictures together. Cheers to you and Dan, I love you guys! 

One word to describe Dan and Carson: Evolving 

Alexandra "Ellie" Gosselin

The Wedding Party - The Gents

Daniel and I met when I was sixteen and he was a newborn. He was the youngest brother in my family, and we all quickly adjusted to having a new gunslinger in town. Though he couldn’t yet form words, he had a lot of opinions and was not reluctant to share them. Over the years he solidified his role as the boisterous talker of the family, with his pronouncements and near-endless list of questions. But he also developed a more thoughtful, introspective side, and it was on that level that Daniel and I connected the most. By the time Dan was in junior high and high school, I had moved away from home and our time together fell over vacations and holidays. We spent many late nights playing video games and talking, or taking walks along the lake and talking, or sitting over a fire and talking. Talking—and more importantly listening—became the thread that bound us together, and it holds to this day. One word to describe Carson and Dan’s relationship: “Daring”


Ben Barnhart

Dan and I met the day I moved into Fischer Dorm for football training camp our freshman year at Wheaton. He was one of my suitemates. I remember his shaggy long hair and carefree demeanor. He didn’t seem like a typical football player. As I got to know him my initial judgments would be confirmed over and over again. I had never met anyone that played the tuba at halftime while also playing in the actual football game. I didn’t  know people still played the accordion and I definitely wasn’t ever friends with anyone who was the lead role in their high school musical. Dan is one of the most interesting persons I have ever met. He has a unique ability to connect with many different types of people, and he is intentional at turning those momentary acquaintances into lasting friendships. We were also roommates our senior year in college. We definitely had some spats but our friendship grew deeper because of them. With 5 years passing since graduation and many more hours of conversation about life, love, and Jesus, I still consider Dan one of my closest friends and confidantes. He has and will continue to be a major influence in my life. I am very grateful to know him.

One word to describe Carson and Dan’s relationship: “Proven" 


Spencer Clark


I met Dan at Wheaton College where we enjoyed rooming together, being a part of the football team, and eating dumpster doughnuts. Dan has been one of my closest friends and confidantes ever since college. We have shared countless meals, arguments, adventures, drinks, bonfires, motorcycle rides, frustrations, and plenty of celebrations. One of my favorite things about Dan is how intentional he is; Dan does not do things half way. One word to describe Carson and Dan’s relationship: “Spicy”


Sam Cote

Daniel was the very first person that I met freshman year at Wheaton College.  We were roommates and played football together.  Through the years, Daniel and I have had many absurd and fantastic memories together ranging from urban exploring and climbing through castles in Macedonia, to hiking in the mountains in Washington, to spending hours playing strategy games.  I always love our in-depth conversations about life and a wide range of other topics, usually involving some combination of coffee, pipe smoking, and/or bourbon.  

One word to describe Carson and Dan’s relationship: “Lively”


Derek Simpson

Dan and I started our relationship with Dan not liking me, so that's interesting all things considered. As you can guess, that changed when Dan decided to grace me with his friendship and we've spent the last 9 years trying to navigate life together. Dan and I played Wheaton football together until some injuries stopped me from playing and I became a trainer on the team. I believe that our real friendship began through me helping him do deep groin stretches Tuesdays and Wednesdays before practice. We developed a deep bond in those years, and it was through that bond that we got each other to do a lot of dumb things and have spent the majority of our time together laughing. Whether it is New Year’s trips or quick calls on the way to work, Dan and I have stayed close and I cherish our friendship as deeply as I cherished those groin stretching sessions. One word to describe Carson and Dan’s relationship: “Thoughtful” 


Hunter Schiltz

Daniel and I met at church and have been friends for as long as I can remember. As kids, we stuck together at church and went over to each other’s houses to play outside and play video games. As we grew older and matured, we never did outgrow our friendship—rather, our friendship grew right along with us. Our conversations became deeper as we were challenged by the circumstances of life, and thankfully we have always been able to share freely with each other—even the unsavory parts of ourselves. Despite the geographical distance that our paths have put between us since college, we have remained in touch and—though it necessarily looks different than when we were kids—we continue to have each other’s back and ear. One word to describe Carson and Dan’s relationship: “Honest” 


Tim Honick

Dan and I grew up in the same church.  We knew of each other’s existence for much of our childhood, but didn’t really become friends until high school.  Since then, the farther we have moved away from one another, the closer our friendship has grown, and that has a lot to do with how intentional Dan is with his proximity.  I’m grateful for his kind heart, loyalty, and well-attuned ears, which have made it easy for us to pick up where we’ve left off, ultimately setting a precedent for other meaningful relationships in my life. One word to describe Carson and Dan's relationship: "Advocate"

Jade Kroening

I met Daniel shortly after he was born at the Hackley Hospital in Muskegon.  It was a convenient excuse to get away from school next door where I was finishing up in the 8th grade.  I've known him ever since - first as a brother, then increasingly as a friend.  I remember quickly realizing how much Daniel rounded out our family as the youngest and most exuberant of us (hey Bub!).  It's been a blessing to watch him grow in stature, strength, spirit, and wisdom and to think about how much is yet in store.  Over the years, we've shared an affinity for fine foods from bologna to Ethiopian to Army rations, enjoyment of outdoor adventure, and the sometimes passion of photography. One word to describe Carson and Dan’s relationship: “Strong”


Steve Barnhart 

I am the youngest of Daniel's older brothers. Daniel was a pretty bad brother for much of his youth. Then I moved back home after college and found that he wasn't so bad. In fact, we bonded over playing a lot of Nintendo64 Mariokart. Daniel is now a great little brother and I'm very proud of him. I've watched him grow in maturity, confidence, and in his ability to gracefully lose at Mariokart. One word to describe Carson and Dan’s relationship: “Vibrant"


David Barnhart

For one to understand Dan and I's relationship, to truly grasp the deep complexities of it, historical context must be given. Dan and I met during summer of 2011; The United States had just shuttered the doors of the space shuttle program, Japan was celebrating it's hard fought victory in the Women's World Cup, and Reeths-Puffer High School was reeling from the loss of a player who had brought their program four wins in four mighty years. That player was Daniel James Barnhart, who decided in the midst of the worldly chaos he was placed to take his talents to Wheaton College. It was there that I first noticed this behemoth of a man. Although we played on different sides of the ball, Dan and I quickly became friends through a wealth of shared interests, including Star Wars, strange musical sounds from the 80's, anything made before 1940, fried meats, fried breads, fried cheeses, books, fried books (?), nature, but ironically not football. Thankfully friendships do not last because of interests, but because of what I like to think of as God-given brotherly love. Dan has been a great friend to me for the last nine years. Throughout college we got to walk with one another, challenge and encourage one another, and celebrate each other’s successes. In the years since, although the physical distance has changed I have been greatly blessed by his friendship that has only grown through the many life experiences we have been able to walk thorough together. 

One word to describe Carson and Dan’s relationship: “Extroverted” 


Sam Caldwell

Dan and I met as freshman at Wheaton College where we both played football. I remember meeting Dan on the football field at 6am for extra running because we both failed our conditioning test. Although I hated running that morning, I would do it all over again to become friends with a guy like Dan. Aside from being one of the funniest people I know, Dan is one deeply relational dude. While his leadership tactics are a bit dated (see one of my favorite pics) his questions, intentionality, and candor are truly one of a kind. Carson, you are marrying a man who is gonna work harder every day to be a better husband to you. 

Through good times and bad, Dan has been a true friend that I am forever grateful for.

One word to describe Carson and Dan’s relationship: “Passionate”


Nick Scheske

Daniel James and I met playing football together at Wheaton College. We were both hopeful and clueless freshmen on the Defensive Line getting pummeled every day at practice by the upperclassmen. Our relationship truly blossomed during our first offseason when we were paired up together to be "weightlifting partners" for the entirety of the spring semester. Dan basically taught me how to not be "soft" since he was a physical specimen, and I was an undersized and weak Defensive End. This was just the start of a beautiful friendship.

For the remainder of our time together at Wheaton, I played an integral role in our house as the "Instigator", and Daniel was typically the receiving end of these practical jokes. For example... I had the brilliant idea of waking the sleeping giant with a bright light and loud music after a long day of classes and practice since he was the first asleep in the house. He preceded to thunder after me around our small house where I ended up barricading myself in my room before I felt the force of the angry and recently awakened giant.

Life is a bit different now for both of us, but we continue our friendship with thought provoking long conversations over the phone and seeing each other whenever possible. 

Dan is one of the most thoughtful and inquisitive human beings I have ever met. He is going to be an incredible husband, and my life would definitely not be the same without him!

One word to describe Carson and Dan’s relationship: “Passion”


Jared Todd

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Aloha! People have asked where they can send a card or gift to us. If you would like to do so, please send them to our new address: Dan Barnhart and Carson Tabiolo99-585 Aiea Heights DriveApt AAiea, HI 96701United States Thank you so much - we look forward to opening them together!

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North Shore (within </= 40 minutes of venue)

NOTE: Dan and Carson would like to encourage their guests to stay either in locally-owned lodging (i.e., campgrounds or hotels) or do their "visitor's due diligence" and ask their Airbnb/VRBO/vacation rental landlord if their rental complies with state and county laws regarding vacation rentals (See https://blog.turnkeyvr.com/a-guide-to-hawaiis-short-term-rental-regulations/). Although a seemingly odd request, we ask that each of you partner with us in helping our local economy become more sustainable. Hawaiʻi is facing an enormous affordable housing crisis that is worsened by illegally managed "short-term housing rentals" (i.e., Airbnbs/VRBOs) and the fact that almost 70% of housing rentals are owned by nonresidents of Hawaiʻi.&nbsp;See this article to learn more about how locals are "priced out of paradise." https://hiappleseed.org/publications/priced-out-of-paradise/ "Just the Basics" (~$100/night)* Camping all over the island (https://camping.honolulu.gov/)* Malaekahana Beach Campground (https://www.malaekahana.net/)* Homelani Camp and Conference Center (http://camphomelani.org/)* Camp Erdman (info@YMCAhonolulu.org)* Camp Mokuleia (https://www.campmokuleia.org/)* Owen's Retreat (https://www.owensretreat.com/) "Quality Comfort" (~$150-$200/night)*Courtyard by Mariott Oahu North Shore* Live Haleiwa Houses * Ke Iki Beach Bungalows *Tiki Moon Villas* Heeia Fishpond Estate *Air BNB - Waialua, HI*VRBO - Waialua, HI "Top Service" (&gt;~$300/night)*Turtle Bay Resort

South Shore (within 50 minutes of venue)

"Just the Basics" (~$100/night)* Holiday Inn Express Waikiki * Hawaiian Monarch Hotel* Ilima Hotel*Ohia Waikiki Studio Suites*Ewa Hotel Waikiki* Vive Hotel "Quality Comfort" (~$150-$200 night)* Queen Kapiʻolani Hotel Waikīkī Beach* Double Tree by Hilton Alana - Waikiki Beach* Sheraton Princess Kaiulani* Ala Moana Honolulu by Mantra* Waikiki Resort Hotel* Hilton Garden Inn Waikiki Beach* The Laylow, Autograph Collection* The Modern Honolulu "Lots of Extras" (~$250-$350/night)* Embassy Suites by Hilton Waikiki Beach Walk* Hilton Hawaiian Village Waikiki Beach Resort* Hilton Waikiki Beach* Moana Surfrider, A Westin Resort and Spa, Waikiki Beach* Prince Waikiki* Sheraton Waikiki* Waikiki Beach Marriott Resort and Spa* Outrigger Waikiki Beach Resort

East Shore (within 50-60 minutes of venue)

* Paradise Bay Resort (https://www.paradisebayresort.com/)* Hawaii's Hidden Hideaway Bed &amp; Breakfast (https://www.ahawaiibnb.com/)* Manu Mele Bed and Breakfast (https://manumele.com/)* Sheffield House Bed and Breakfast (https://www.hawaiisheffieldhouse.com/)* Papaya Paradise Bed and Breakfast (http://windward-oahu.com/)*Paradise Palms Bed and Breakfast (https://www.paradisepalmsbandb.com/)* Waimanalo Beach Cottages (https://www.waimanalobeachcottages.com/)

West Shore (40-60 minutes of venue)

"Just the Basics" (~$100/night)* Kahumana Retreat Center (can sleep up to 15) "Quality Comfort" (~$150-$200/night) * Hawaiian Princess Resort * Hampton Inn &amp; Suites Oahu/Kapolei* Embassy Suites by Hilton Oahu Kapolei* Barber's Point and ITT and Beach Cottages "Lots of Extras" (~$250-$350/night)* Residence Inn by Marriott Oahu Kapolei

Lodging

Opportunities to Honor the Land You Are Visiting: Mālama (Care for) ʻĀina (the Land)

Carson, who was born and raised for a majority of her life in the Hawaiian Islands, was privy to an educational course that a majority of 7th graders of the U.S. do not have access to: Modern Hawaiian History. At 12 years old in Mr. Au's classroom at Lokelani Middle School in Kihei, Maui, Carson first learned the history of Hawai'i-the good, the bad, and the ugly. For example, Carson learned that prior to first contact with the Western World in 1778, Kanaka Maoli (or Native Hawaiians) thrived in complex, mountain to ocean, sustainable communities called ahupua'as. She learned about the near obliteration of the Kanaka Maoli population due to imported diseases and habits. She also learned that Hawai'i had the highest literacy rates in the world in the mid-1800s and that 'Iolani Palace was the first royal residence in the world to have electricity in 1886. And arguably the most difficult thing Carson (and now Dan along with countless others in the world who are willing to listen) learned was the coup d'état, or Overthrow of the Hawaiian constitutional monarchy, in 1893.Since Carson's first exposure to the history of Hawai'i and her continued exposure to Hawai'i's past, present, and potential future as a result of that history, it has become increasingly important to her that she pass along what she's learned to those around her. And so, if there is one thing that Carson would like each and every one of her and Dan's guests to know is this: Hawai'i is more than "paradise." It is more than using words like, "brah," "aloha," and "da kine." It's more than flowered leis and alcoholic beverages with sugar cane sticks and umbrellas. And although your time in the islands is limited, it is Carson and Dan's wish that you experience Hawai'i they way they do: authentically and respectfully. To help you accomplish this, below is a link to a Vimeo video about the history of Hawai'i as told by Hawaiians. It is family friendly (i.e., cartoon and narrated by an owl;)). Additionally, there are the names and websites of several organizations were you can volunteer and simultaneously learn about what Hawai'i is all about and contribute to her revival. *https://vimeo.com/129186930* Ho'oulu ʻĀina (https://www.hoouluaina.com/volunteer)* Paepae o He'eia (https://paepaeoheeia.org/volunteer/* Papahana Kuaola (https://papahanakuaola.com/volunteer/)* Ka'ala Farm (https://kaalafarm.org/volunteer/)* Kākoʻo ʻŌiwi (https://kakoooiwi.org/communityworkdays/)

Charge Large: Beach-related Activities

DISCLAIMER: BEACHES IN HAWAI'I CAN MEAN A STONG RIP CURRENT (OR UNDERTOW) AND CAN THEREFORE BE DANGEROUS. PLEASE DO YOUR RESEARCH IN ADDITION TO READING THE FOLLOWING ARTICLE ABOUT WATER SAFETY IN HAWAI'I: https://hioceansafety.com/ AND http://hawaiibeachsafety.com/AND DO NOT HESITATE TO REACH OUT TO THE BRIDE AND GROOM SO THAT THEY CAN HELP YOU DECIDE IF A BEACH IS APPROPRIATE FOR YOU AND YOUR OHANA (FAMILY) * Ocean kayak (or walk during low tide) to Popoiʻa&nbsp;Island, whose nickname is "Flat Island" (http://hawaiibeachsafety.com/oahu/flat-island#:~:text=Popoi%CA%BBa%20Island%2C%20popularly%20known%20as,seaward%20of%20the%20boat%20ramp.&amp;text=Landing%20is%20permitted%20on%20the,on%20the%20island's%20south%20side.) *Ocean kayak to the Mokulua Islands (http://hawaiibeachsafety.com/oahu/mokulua-islands *Swim with wild dolphins (https://www.eowaianaetours.com/ouradventure) *Kiteboarding, wave riding, strapless kitesurfing, hydrofoiling, wing surfing, wing foiling, tow foil surfing, wakeboarding, surfing (http://kiteboardingparadisehawaii.com/) *Play at the Sandbar in Kaneohe Bay with jet skis, KBOS SeaWalker, windsurfing, turtle watching, banana boat, and bumper tubes (https://www.kboshawaii.com/) * Surf in Waikiki (https://www.sparkyssurfschool.com/about-sparky/ OR https://www.hawaiisurfguru.com/) *Surf in Kailua (https://kimossurfhut.com/ OR https://www.kailuabeachadventures.com/) *Watch the pros surf the world-famous break called "Banzai Pipeline" at Ehukai Beach Park (http://hawaiibeachsafety.com/oahu/ehukai-beach) *Swim in the crystal clear tidepools off Makapu'u Lighthouse Trail *Watch locals bodyboard the (unfortunately accurate; just ask Carson's cousin Kaeo Ponce) neck-breaking waves at Sandy Beach (http://hawaiibeachsafety.com/oahu/sandy-beach) *Watch bodysurfers charge the infamous waves at Makapu'u (Bulging Eyes) Beach * Snorkel at Pupukea (also known as the beaches "Sharks Cove" and "Three Tables")(http://dlnr.hawaii.gov/dar/marine-managed-areas/hawaii-marine-life-conservation-districts/oahu-pupukea/)(http://hawaiibeachsafety.com/oahu/makapuu-beach) *Visit Carson's (and her three siblings') favorite beach, Keawa'ula (Yokahama) Bay (http://hawaiibeachsafety.com/oahu/keawaula-beach) *Visit Carson's 2nd favorite beach, Waimea Bay (http://hawaiibeachsafety.com/oahu/waimea-bay)*Snorkel and learn about the importance of reefs in Hawai'i's waters at Hanauma Bay (https://hanaumabaystatepark.com/) * Horseback riding on the beach (https://oahuhorsebackrides.com/ OR https://www.kualoa.com/toursactivities/horseback-rides/)

Touch the Sky and the Occasional Waterfall: Hiking Trails

DISCLAIMER: HIKING IN HAWAI'I USUALLY MEANS VERY NARROW, STEEP, HIGH, AND ROCKY TERRAIN AND CAN THEREFORE BE DANGEROUS. PLEASE DO YOUR RESEARCH IN ADDITION TO READING THE FOLLOWING ARTICLE ABOUT HIKING SAFETY IN HAWAI'I: https://dlnr.hawaii.gov/recreation/nah/trail-safety/AND DO NOT HESITATE TO REACH OUT TO THE BRIDE AND GROOM SO THAT THEY CAN HELP YOU DECIDE IF A HIKE IS APPROPRIATE FOR YOU AND YOUR OHANA (FAMILY) NOTE: HIKES ARE LISTED FROM EASIEST TO HARDEST. PAVED HIKES ARE INDICATED. EASY PAVED: Diamond Head (https://dlnr.hawaii.gov/dsp/parks/oahu/diamond-head-state-monument/) * PAVED: Makapu'u Lighthouse (https://dlnr.hawaii.gov/dsp/hiking/oahu/makapuu-point-lighthouse-trail/) * PARTIALLY PAVED/GRAVEL/DIRT: Mānoa Falls (https://www.hawaii.com/oahu/things-to-do/hiking/manoa-falls-trail/) MODERATE * Koko (Head) Crater (https://www.alltrails.com/trail/hawaii/oahu/koko-head-crater-trail?u=i)

Take a Trip Through Time: Historical Monuments and Activities

* 'Iolani Palace (https://www.iolanipalace.org/) * Queen Emma's Summer Palace (https://daughtersofhawaii.org/) * USS Arizona Memorial/Pearl Harbor National Memorial (https://www.nps.gov/valr/index.htm) * Missouri Battleship Memorial (https://ussmissouri.org/plan-your-visit/tours#) * National Memorial Cemetery of the Pacific (https://visitpearlharbor.org/facts-punchbowl-national-cemetery/) * Byodo-In Temple (https://byodo-in.com/) * Sharngri La (https://www.shangrilahawaii.org/)

Mangan tayon! ("Let's eat!" in Ilocano Filipino)! 

A large part of Dan and Carson's relationship is ono (or "delicious" in Hawaiian) food! They describe themselves as ammeter foodies meaning they love a variety of cuisines and seek out new food-devouring experiences. Please enjoy the following recommendations! POKE (diced, raw Ahi tuna):* Foodland (grocery store; https://www.foodland.com/our-stores-poke-0)* Tamura Super Market (http://www.tamurasupermarket.com/daily-poke-menu/)* Nico's Pier 38 (sit down; https://nicospier38.com/poke-selections/) SHRIMP TRUCKS* Famous Kahuku Shrimp (https://www.facebook.com/FamousKahukuShrimp/)* Fumis Kahuku Shrimp (https://www.facebook.com/Fumis- Kahuku-Shrimp-163293257105870/?rf=152786958070999) LOCAL GRINDS (Island Fusion Food)* Side Street Inn (https://sidestreetinn.com/)* Uncle Bo's Pupu Bar and Grill (https://www.unclebosrestaurant.com/)* Duke's Waikiki (https://www.dukeswaikiki.com/)* Monkeypod Kitchen (https://www.monkeypodkitchen.com/)* Big City Diner (https://bigcitydinerhawaii.com/) RAMEN* Carson and her older brother, Evan's, Favorite - Tenkaippin Ramen (https://www.facebook.com/tenkaippinhawaii/about/?ref=page_internal)* Carson's younger brother, Erik's favorite - Ichiriki: Japanese Nabe Resturant (http://ichirikinabe.com/)* Hokkaido Ramen Santouka (https://www.yelp.com/biz/hokkaido-ramen-santouka-honolulu) JAPANESE BBQ* Gyu-Kaku ( https://www.gyu-kaku.com/)* Hibachi in Kailua KOREAN BBQ* Soon's Kal Bi BBQ (https://www.facebook.com/Soons-Kal-Bi-BBQ-165722262375/)* Willow Tree Korean Restaurant (https://aikahiparkshoppingcenter.com/product/willow-tree-korean-restaurant/) SANDWHICHES* Stortos Deli &amp; Sandwich Shoppe (https://www.stortoshaleiwa.com/) DESSERT* Lenard's Bakery (Malasadas; https://www.leonardshawaii.com/home/)* Liliha Bakery (http://www.lilihabakery.com/)* Bubbies Hawai'i (https://bubbiesicecream.com/)* Black Sheep Cream Co. (https://www.instagram.com/blacksheepcreamco/)* Double Three (https://www.instagram.com/double.three_33/) BUBBLE TEA* Rainbow Tea House* Taste Tea ASAI BOWLS/SMOOTHIES* Bogart's Cafe (Carson likes their acai bowls, but they have an extensive menu, too; https://www.bogartscafe.com/)* Lanikai Juice SPAM MUSUBI (Eh! No judge before you try 'em Hawaiian style!)* Any 7/11* Tabiolo Hale (house;))

If You're Not Too Tired after the Beach and Mountains: Nightlife

If you know Carson, then you know that she LOVES to dance. And if you know Dan, then you know he is an alcohol connoisseur in the making. Please see some of Carson and Dan's favorite places to bust a move and let loose! BREWERIES* Honolulu Beerworks (https://www.honolulubeerworks.com/)* Paradise Ciders (http://www.paradiseciders.com/)* Chart House (https://charthousewaikiki.com/)* Aloha Beer Company (<a href="https://www.alohabeer.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.alohabeer.com/</a>)* Brew’d (<a href="http://brewdcraftpub.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://brewdcraftpub.com/</a>)* Hana Koa Brewing Company (<a href="https://www.hanakoabrewing.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.hanakoabrewing.com/</a>)* Kona Brewing Company (<a href="https://konabrewingco.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://konabrewingco.com/</a>)* Maui Brewing Company (<a href="https://mauibrewingco.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://mauibrewingco.com/</a>)* Waikiki Brewing Company (<a href="https://waikikibrewing.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://waikikibrewing.com/</a>)TIKI BARS* Skull and Crown (https://www.skullandcrowntrading.com/)* DaveBuster’s(<a href="https://www.daveandbusters.com/locations/honolulu" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.daveandbusters.com/locations/honolulu</a>)* La Marina Sailing Club (https://www.lamarianasailingclub.com/)* The Myna Bird Tiki Bar (https://www.yelp.com/biz/the-myna-bird-tiki-bar-honolulu- LOCAL SPOTS* Champ’s Sports Bar &amp; Grill (<a href="http://champssportsbarhawaii.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://champssportsbarhawaii.com/</a>)* Duke’s Waikiki (<a href="https://www.dukeswaikiki.com/menus/dining-room/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">dukeswaikiki.com</a>)*Makai Bar (If you Google “Mai Tai Bar Ala Moana”, it’s the same place with a different name)* Pitch Sports Bar (<a href="https://www.pitchsportsbar.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.pitchsportsbar.com/</a>)* ALERT! Dancing later at night;) Rumfire (<a href="http://www.rumfirewaikiki.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.rumfirewaikiki.com</a>)* Surfer, The Bar (<a href="https://surferthebar.com/locations/turtle-bay-hawaii/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://surferthebar.com/locations/turtle-bay-hawaii/</a>) CLUBS*Addiction Night Club (<a href="https://www.themodernhonolulu.com/addiction-waikiki-club" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.themodernhonolulu.com/addiction-waikiki-club</a>)* Sky Waikiki (<a href="http://www.skywaikiki.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://www.skywaikiki.com/</a>)* Bar 35 (<a href="https://www.bar35hawaii.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.bar35hawaii.com/</a>)* District Night Club (<a href="http://www.thedistrictnightclub.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://www.thedistrictnightclub.com/</a>)* Haus Supper Club (<a href="https://www.haussupperclub.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.haussupperclub.com/</a>)* Lulu’s Waikiki (<a href="http://www.luluswaikiki.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://www.luluswaikiki.com/</a>)* Manifest (<a href="https://www.manifesthawaii.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.manifesthawaii.com/</a>)* Playbar Waikiki (<a href="https://www.yelp.com/biz/playbar-waikiki-nightclub-honolulu-2" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.yelp.com/biz/playbar-waikiki-nightclub-honolulu-2</a>)* Scarlet Honolulu (<a href="https://scarlethonolulu.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://scarlethonolulu.com/</a>)

Things to Do

February 23, 2022 Bottom line and up front: we have decided not to have a Midwest wedding celebration and will only be having out wedding celebration in Hawai'i in September 2022. Big change: to attend out wedding celebration and gain entrance to the event, we will be requiring either a) proof of full vaccination status OR b) proof of a negative COVID-19 test performed within the last 48 hours (these include NAAT or rapid antigen tests completed at a testing site; at-home tests will not be accepted). No need to upload these digitally; they will be checked at the door. Please RSVP for the wedding celebration no later than May 1, 2022. If you have not responded by then, we will assume you have regretfully declined. We are beyond excited and cannot wait to celebrate with you all, finally. Week of the wedding celebration events calendar to be posted later in the summer on our wedding website. Thank you!!!

Wedding RSVP Message

Wedding Postponed to September 24, 2022

September 18, 2021 Dear Friends and Family, We have rescheduled our postponed wedding for September 24, 2022! Please respond and RSVP at your earliest convenience. Thanks,Carson and Dan __________________________________________________________________________ August 28, 2021 Dear Friends and Family, <a href="https://youtu.be/hr7u-9wEM8M" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Here is a video of Carson and Dan explaining all the following information!</a> If you would rather read it, then please see below. <a href="https://www.honolulu.gov/rep/site/may/may_docs/2108108-CCH_Emergency_Order_No._2021-10_certified_-_signed.pdf" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Effective August 25, 2021, the Mayor of Honolulu issued an Emergency Order prohibiting outdoor activities, and weddings of more than 25 people, until at least September 21, 2021 due to a surge in COVID-19 infections and cases on the island of Oahu.</a> Because of this, we believe it is unlikely that the situation will change enough in time for us to still have our originally planned wedding, and we wanted to give people time to change their plans and make other arrangements. However, we are planning to move the wedding to a weekend between July and September 2022. There will be more details to follow, and we will be sending out invitations (virtually) again to all who were originally invited! If you have concerns about making it to Hawai'i for the wedding celebration, please know that we are also planning a Michigan wedding celebration sometime during summer 2022. For both of these celebrations, to keep everyone as safe as possible, we will be requiring everyone to be fully vaccinated against COVID-19. Although Carson and I are dismayed that our wedding is being postponed, there is a silver lining to all of this and a very important piece of news to share with you all. We got married!!!! We have been married in a civil ceremony and are not going to wait to let COVID-19 tell us when we can begin living our married lives together. We regret the logistical inconveniences we know this situation is inevitably causing, and ask for grace as the COVID-19 situation on Oahu rapidly evolves. At the same time, we want to assure everyone we are at peace with this decision and so thankful for your love and support. We are still very excited to share in our celebration of marriage with everyone when COVID-19 has died down and we can reschedule the wedding for summer 2022. With all the love we have,Carson &amp; Dan __________________________________________________________________________ May 13, 2021 Dear Friends and Family, We are looking forward to celebrating with you at our wedding on October 9 th at Dillingham Ranch in Waialua, Hawaiʻi! There are only 148 days to go! Given the times we are living in, we wanted to share an important update with you. We are asking that all guests and vendors who are attending our wedding to please be fully vaccinated before arriving on island. <a href="https://www.fda.gov/emergency-preparedness-and-response/coronavirus-disease-2019-covid-19/covid-19-vaccines" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">This includes anyone eligible to receive the vaccine according to current FDA guidelines.</a> If you are unable to accomplish this for any reason, we regretfully ask you to not attend any of our October wedding festivities. Out of our deep-seated love of others, we want to create an atmosphere of hospitality within the confines of this global pandemic. At the risk of overstating the obvious, we take the responsibility of caring for the health and well-being of our guests and vendors seriously. As healthcare professionals, we have been on the front lines of the pandemic and witnessed the devastation that COVID-19 has caused. On a more personal note, Dan had a friend die after contracting COVID-19 and we do not want to take any unnecessary chances. Furthermore, we want to be able to enjoy our wedding to the fullest and worry as little as possible about the pandemic. We also want to remind all of you that we are planning a secondary wedding reception in summer of 2022 in Michigan. Whether you feel ambivalent about receiving the vaccine or you would rather celebrate with us in Michigan, we hope conveying this information makes your decision easier. We apologize for any inconvenience this may cause you and we look forward to hearing your response regardless. Moving forward, we will send out wedding invitations again via our wedding website The Knot. This time, please take into consideration our COVID-19 protocol before RSVPing. If you are RSVPing “yes,” we are asking you to confirm your vaccination status. <a href="https://forms.gle/Ky2Fju7ct2LnKer4A" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">To do so, please fill out this form by July 9th.</a> We understand that the situation above may make attending our October festivities impossible. This deeply saddens us because we love and will miss you, but as much as we want to start our marriage with you present, we want you, our guests, and our vendors to stay safe more. Thank you for your love and support. This has been—and remains—an extremely difficult time. We value all of the empathy and grace you have given us as we do our best to start our marriage in a way that does not endanger the lives of those we love most in the world. Thank you and we look forward to hearing from you. With all our love,Carson and Dan

Wedding Postponed

Come hang out with us!

Please keep in mind: 1. Anyone who is invited to the wedding is encouraged to come to these events to come hang out with Dan and I. After all, you guys flew all this way! If you traveled with individuals who will not be attending the wedding, then they are also welcome to these events. 2. If you and your family or friends plan on attending a “potluck” event, then please bring a cooked entrée that will feed at least 4 adults to share amongst attendees. Don't forget to bring your own drinks and snacks! 3. At each location, look for a flag with pumpkins on a black background on a 25 ft. bamboo poll. That's where Dan and I will be!

Tuesday, 9/20/22

10:00am-1:00pm: Hike at Ka'ena Point Trail (3.5 miles; meet at the very end of the road--literally until you cannot drive any further) 2:00pm-5:00pm: Potluck at Keawaula Beach/Yokohama Bay (On the beach in front of the bathrooms)

Wednesday, 9/21/22

10:00am-12:00pm: Hike Makapu'u Point Lighthouse (2.0 miles)

Thursday, 9/22/22

12:00pm-2:00pm Hangout at Kaimana Beach

Friday, 9/23/22

11:00am-2:00pm: Potluck at Waimea Bay Beach Park (On the grass and under the trees near the life guard stand)

Saturday, 9/24/22

WEDDING BABY. DILLINGHAM RANCH. 4:30PM. BE THERE.

Week-of-the-Wedding Events

Some traveling tips from a frequent transpacific and transcontinental traveler

1. Every couple hours (if not sooner because of your bladder) get up and stretch whether it is in the aisle or back in the galley (where the flight attendants hang out) OR do the ABCs with your feet to keep the circulation going. 2. Stay hydrated. 3. NEVER feel guilty for requesting to get up for any reason (if you’re in a window or middle seat). 4. Bring at least 4 things to do that you like or love that so it require a charge to keep you busy (coloring books, books, puzzle books, etc.). Switch off between watching a movie and reading to keep from getting bored. 5. Make sure to download your flight’s app because some of the planes don’t have screens anymore; they expect their passengers to have smart phones and their movies, TV shows, etc. are accessible through their app. 6. Bring headphones with a phone/audio jack cable (not just an iPhone cable). Don’t worry if you forget one, most airlines offer them to you. 7. Pack homemade sandwiches, breakfast bars, meal replacement bars, dried fruit, nuts, etc. to eat on your journey because airplane and airport food is expensive. 8. Carry an empty water bottle with you to fill up at stations in the airport. 9. Layer your clothing. You can always strip down if you get hot but the air can get pretty cold, especially if you’re flying on a red-eye flight. I always wear closed toed shoes, long socks, long pants, tank top, and sweatshirt no matter what time of year. 10. If you're not going to be in a rush when you land at your final destination (Honolulu), then check your second carry-on (usually your roller bag) if/when the gate attendants are offering to do it for free. The boarding process is so much more relaxed and you're not fighting other people for overhead space, especially when your boarding group is called near the end of the boarding process (like mine usually is because I fly CHEAP:D) Hopefully these tips help make your travel experience at the very least more comfortable and at the most enjoyable!

C & D