Summer semi-formal. If you need inspiration, Google images "summer semi-formal men/women." Feel free to bring shoes you can dance in if you need to swap. Blazers with dress shirts/polos and pants, summer suits. Dress shoes. Dresses, pant-suits, skirts, and blouses. Please do not feel the need to purchase a new outfit! Unless, of course, you want to, then by all means... It's June in Oklahoma, and the ceremony will be outside (weather permitting ), so plan for it to be HOT! We will hold the ceremony indoors if it becomes too hot or if we get a summer thunderstorm. Please do not wear tuxedos, you will out-dress us! Don't worry about dressing up your kids under 5... it's a fuss and hassle. Unless you want to, of course. Lastly, neither of us will be wearing white. Feel free to wear white if that will help you stay cool!

We would ask that you try and RSVP as soon as you know your plans. Ideally, please RSVP by April 30th, 2025. However, the absolute latest date we can accommodate RSVPs is May 15th, 2025. If you RSVP after April 30th, please email us in addition to your RSVP on the website (kerrbirnhamwedding@gmail.com) so that we don't miss it. We will also be doing assigned tables for the reception. This is to both encourage mingling between our varied families and also to make sure that everyone is able to sit with their partners and children. As such, the sooner you RSVP, the easier it is for us to plan our seating arrangements

Absolutely yes! However, please manage your children and clean up after them during the reception, we do not want to get charged additional fees from our venue or caterer for destructive children. We would also ask that loud or crying children be swiftly quieted or removed from the ceremony. Don't feel embarrassed if it happens; we expect it may, children are children. We will have kid friendly food options. Under no circumstances should you provide alcohol to your child under 21. Please see the FAQ on the bar for more information. If you need a highchair, please let us know in your RSVP, as these are quite limited.

Please reach out to us via email (Kerrbirnhamwedding@gmail.com) Note: We did not list the names of children on the invites due to space. You can assume children under 18 are invited.

We have gotten discounted rates for a few hotels in Oklahoma City, however it's not blocked off so that there is no pressure to stay at one of the hotels we've chosen, especially in the age of Airbnb and VRBO. More information is available under the hotels section.

No. We haven't booked with any travel agents or set anything with flights. Will Roger's International Airport in Oklahoma City should be your destination.

We will be serving a selection of alcohol at an open bar at the wedding, including standard drinks and signature drinks. While you do not need to bring cash for drinks, it is always courteous to leave a cash tip for the bartenders at the end of the night. Alcohol will only be served to adults over the age of 21, and individuals should bring ID. There is a ZERO tolerance policy for providing alcohol to minors. It endangers the license of our caterers and venue and will result in immediate expulsion from the venue regardless of relation or connection to the grooms. The venue reserves the right to report this to local authorities. This is being monitored by staff as well as our hired security. Do not consider this. Individuals who are highly intoxicated will also be cut off, regardless of relation or connection to the grooms. This is at the full disclosure of the catering company and bartending staff. Providing alcohol to guests who have been cut off may also lead to individuals being asked to leave by security. To our friends who want to party late, there are venues after the wedding you can go, who knows, we may even go somewhere with you. There is also a no shot policy.

Great question, complicated answer. We will not be serving any pork, beef, or shellfish at the wedding. However, we will be serving both chicken and fish, as well as dairy. All items with dairy will be marked. This way, individuals can determine what they can and can not eat to accommodate their own level of observance.

Of course! Please tell us personally what restrictions you may have. We will be serving fish for those who don't eat chicken. If you have issues with gluten, are vegetarian or vegan, please send us an email (Kerrbirnhamwedding@gmail.com). Sorry Dad, mushrooms don't count as a dietary restriction...

Of course! However, it may be best to check with us (kerrbirnhamwedding@gmail.com) or our parents to make sure it's not something we already have or something someone else is giving us. We have selected the items on the registry to be pieces that we hope to keep for our lifetime. Of course, we would love anything that is personal and has meaning to you. While we encourage those who want to get us a gift but don't know what to get to use the registry, it is non-exhaustive.

Yes, unfortunately Williams Sonoma items do have shipping fees. We’ve created a few ways around this. There is a cash fund option where you can give the amount of the item you’d like to purchase for us and we can make the purchase for ourselves as we have prepaid for free shipping on our personal account. Alternatively, the new Williams Sonoma store is open at OAK in OKC, items can be purchased to pick up at the store and brought to the wedding. Just make sure that you order the item through the registry so that it updates, or make sure to tell our families or us so that we can manually adjust it.

Ideally yes. We will let guests know as soon as possible, but it is our intention to have a live-stream for guests who can't travel.