Wedding Day

Ceremony

SunHawk Farms

Reception

Summer

Thank you

We’re extraordinarily lucky to pull this off with the support of our immensely skilled and generous loved ones Photography: Tiana at <a href="https://tianahunterweddings.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Tiana Hunter Wedding Photography</a>Venue: Sara and John at <a href="https://sunhawkfarms.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Sunhawk Farms</a>Catering: Ashleigh and Fernando at <a href="https://www.cultivorestaurant.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Cultivo</a> (with coordination help from Charlie and Shannon at <a href="https://bendcateringcompany.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Core Catering</a>)Floral: <a href="http://www.earthspokefarms.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">EarthSpoke Farms</a>Officiants: Reverend Dr. J. Holden, PhD and The Honorable Mrs Deborah Moore

Contact

You can reach Jesse at (707) 318-9295 / contact@jesseholden.com with any questions!

Our Wedding

Colors and Inspiration

We’re inspired by the watercolor works of Tove Jansson, the beautiful SunHawk Farm venue, and the various blues, greens, and golds of the wild landscapes which have nourished us throughout our lives. We’d love to invite you to participate in our theme and color palette however you wish!

Tove Jansson

<a href="https://tovejansson.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Tove Jansson</a> (pronounced Toe-vay Yawn-sun) was a queer artist whose all-ages <a href="https://www.moomin.com/en/history/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Moomin</a> stories have inspired countless feelers of feelings and lovers of love through her comics, paintings, short stories, interactive exhibits, novels, animations, plays, and pop-up books! An antifascist anarcha-feminist, Jansson’s work is both private and political, steeped in indigenous Finnish nature worship. Her voice is joyful and silly, fierce and rebellious, much like us. We hope you will join us in bringing Moomin Valley to life for our wedding!

<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SAsGD9YLT50" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Learn more about Tove and her love Tuulikki in this marvelous 1-hour BBC documentary</a>

A Brief Pictorial History of Robin & Jesse

Story and Theme

Photos

Wedding Party

<a href="https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/19hpFvony6hc1VFI-j1lvO-oKMXeMI3BW9dWlkC658D8/edit?usp=sharing" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Sign-up sheet for helpers</a>

Q & A

Travel

Staying in Hopland, CA

We're privileged to be able to host a very small number of previously-arranged guests camping overnight on Saturday or Sunday at the Sunhawk Farm venue (details below). Unfortunately we're at that limit already and additional camping on-site is not available. Friends and Family needing accommodation outside the venue can go deluxe with the nearby <a href="https://www.thatcherhotel.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Thatcher Hotel</a> or <a href="https://www.stockfarmhopland.com/inn" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Stock Farm Inn</a>, or opt for one of the many <a href="https://www.tripadvisor.com/Hotels-g32508-Hopland_Mendocino_County_California-Hotels.html" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">budget-friendlier</a> options!

About SunHawk Farm

<a href="https://maps.app.goo.gl/sx1hykhFsrALUZfS9" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Directions via Google Maps</a> ↗️<a href="https://maps.apple.com/?ll=38.939497,-123.113019&amp;q=Marked%20Location&amp;t=m" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Directions via Apple Maps</a> ↗️

Situated on the unceded land of the Pomo Tribe, <a href="https://sunhawkfarms.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">SunHawk Farm</a> is a small family-owned biodynamic farm and homestead overlooking the lush Hopland valley in Mendocino County, California. SunHawk Farm was built as a model of sustainability and regenerative practices; surrounded by untamed forests, lush with fresh spring water, and held in the abundance of a biodynamic farm, the natural beauty of SunHawk offers the perfect landscape for celebration. The property is entirely off the grid with zero fossil fuels used. For energy, SunHawk is powered by a 25 kW solar system providing electricity during the summer months, and a hydroelectric system providing energy whenever the seasonal creek is flowing.&nbsp;&nbsp;<a href="https://sunhawkfarms.com/videos/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Videos of the property at their website</a>.

Staying at Sunhawk Farm

The property&nbsp;<a href="https://sunhawkfarms.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/New-map.jpg" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">(map here!)</a>&nbsp;includes the SunHawk Suite, Cottage, Bunk House, Glamping Tents, Camping Area, Lake, Water Toys, Hot Tub, Water Slide, Island Access, Outdoor Kitchen, and all Amenities listed below.&nbsp;- Lodging for limited guests (note: all spots are spoken for -- please see more local options above!) - Outdoor Kitchen stocked with cooking and dining accessories for up to 30- Large Refrigerator and Small Freezer; Dining tables, bar tables&nbsp;- 2 Full Bathrooms, 3 Half Bathrooms, 2 Private Outdoor Showers- Towels and Linens Provided- High Speed WiFi&nbsp;- Hiking Trails:&nbsp;<a href="https://sunhawkfarms.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/SunHawk_Hiking_Map.pdf" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">See this map!</a>- Lavender Labyrinth- Ping Pong Table, Corn Hole, Lawn Games- Canoes, Kayaks, Stand Up Paddle Boards, Lake Noodles- Electric Floatie Pumps provided

<a href="https://sunhawkfarms.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/New-map.jpg" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Larger view of property map</a> <a href="https://sunhawkfarms.com/lodging/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Learn more about the individual accommodations</a>

Please help us show our appreciation for our hosts by following their guidelines for the property. All guests must drive slowly (10mph maximum) by the houses on the road leading to the venue. The entire event will need to be packed out and everybody gone before 10am Monday morning. The umbrellas on the dock will fly into the pond in windy conditions and can be damaged: keep umbrellas rolled down at night and if the wind picks up. Venue is off-the-grid powered by solar: conserve energy by closing the hot tub cover whenever hot tub is not in use. Clean up as you go, and leave as best you can, being good stewards of the property.&nbsp; On departure:&nbsp;Place dirty sheets, pillowcases, and dry used towels in the provided laundry bag, and leave at the front of SunHawk main house, alongside house near driveway. Ensure Glamping Tents are zipped up. Ensure all lights are turned off. Ensure no items are left on the island on the lake. Ensure all doors and windows are closed. Return floaties/SUP/boats and pond toys to outdoor bathroom area. Return any mattresses on the lawn to the outdoor bathroom porch.

Venue & Accommodations

🦢 Lakeport 🦆

Owned by Jesse’s mom Cheri, Watershed Books in Lakeport transports you back to a time when the local bookstore was a cherished community center. You may receive a small gift card as a guest of our wedding to get you started, but spend abundantly!

Watershed Books

When you get peckish from all the time you spent at Watershed Books, head next door to the lovely Angelina’s for an espresso and a fresh pastry — or pick something up for our Dessert Potluck on your way to the wedding!

Angelina's Bakery & Espresso

🦬 Ukiah 🦚

Join Robin for beautification at this cute local salon, owned by beloved Ukiah native Curtis Looney

Studio C Salon

As perfect for a pint and a pub snack as it is for a full-blown dinner date, the Brewing Company in the very center of town is a must-stop if you’re in Ukiah, owned by local friend & excellent drummer Keith Feigin.

Ukiah Brewing Company

Along with the Ukiah Brewing Company, Black Oak Coffee Roasters was an old haunt of Jesse’s that’s been brought into the current day by a modern revamp from (recent) owner Keith Feigin.

Black Oak Coffee Roasters

Vegan, vegetarian, and carnivore-friendly lunch (or brunch!) must-visit for Jesse every time he’s back in his hometown; everything on the menu is good, but you don’t have to foreswear meat just to get rocked by their Tofu Dog.

Ellie's Mutt Hut

Great flavors and solid vegan options at this newer Ukiah summer stop.

The Nook Artisan Gelato

If you want the inside track on local Mexican food — this is it.

Antojitos Mary

Named “a sacred site” by National Geographic, the City’s 700 acres of meadows and woodlands are home to countless critters big and small, as well as a Buddhist monastery, boys’ and girls’ K-12 schools, and an organic farm. The largest Buddhist monastery in Northern California, it also houses the Jyun Kang Vegetarian Restaurant, possibly the best-kept culinary secret in the area.

City of Ten Thousand Buddhas

🐇 Hopland 🦌

It’s a safe bet this is the only place to get an Ostrich burger in Hopland, and a reliable spot for more traditional greasy-spoon fare as well. A cornerstone of the area for decades.

Bluebird Cafe

Cute spot for coffee and tea near the venue (and across from the Bluebird Cafe), co-owned by local punk scene stalwart Mike Fenton.

STEEP Organic Coffee and Tea

Every local knows about The Rock Shop. Whether you're a bonafide geologist or just love iconoclastic small businesses passed down through generations of loving stewards, you'll be hard-pressed to leave without a sweet new fossil or a ready-to-crack geode in-hand. This is an easy stop right on Highway 101 as you come up on Hopland.

Elena’s Rock Shop

🐋 ...and Beyond 🦊

An hour from Hopland on Highway 128 but just might be worth the trip, Gowan’s Oak Tree has the most delicious apples and orchard products in the world — Jesse and Robin bonded over our mutual love of their award-sweeping gravenstein juice on our first date, and their cider is without equal the world over.

Gowan's Oak Tree

Explore further around beautiful Mendocino County with Visit Mendocino, showing places to stay, adventures to have, and events to attend.

Visit Mendocino County

Local Flavor

Gift Registry

Situated on the unceded land of the Pomo Tribe, SunHawk Farm is a small family-owned biodynamic farm and homestead overlooking the lush Hopland valley in Mendocino County, California. SunHawk Farm was built as a model of sustainability and regenerative practices; surrounded by untamed forests, lush with fresh spring water, and held in the abundance of a biodynamic farm, the natural beauty of SunHawk offers the perfect landscape for celebration. The property is entirely off the grid with zero fossil fuels used. For energy, SunHawk is powered by a 25 kW solar system providing electricity during the summer months, and a hydroelectric system providing energy whenever the seasonal creek is flowing. <a href="https://sunhawkfarms.com/videos/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">You can see videos of the property at their website</a>.

Amenities

The property <a href="https://sunhawkfarms.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/Sunhawk_Accommodations-Amenities-Map.pdf" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">(map here!)</a> includes the SunHawk Suite, Cottage, Bunk House, Glamping Tents, Camping Area, Lake, Water Toys, Hot Tub, Water Slide, Island Access, Outdoor Kitchen, and all Amenities listed below.&nbsp;

- Lodging for limited guests (note: all spots are spoken for -- please see more local options in the "Overnight Stays" section!) Van / RV camping to be self-contained: no hookups are offered&nbsp;

- 2 Full Bathrooms, 3 Half Bathrooms, 2 Private Outdoor Showers

- Hiking Trails: <a href="https://sunhawkfarms.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/SunHawk_Hiking_Map.pdf" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">See this map!</a>

- Ping Pong Table, Corn Hole, Lawn Games

- Electric Floatie Pumps provided

- Canoes, Kayaks, Stand Up Paddle Boards, Lake Noodles

- Outdoor Kitchen stocked with cooking and dining accessories for up to 30

- Large Refrigerator and Small Freezer; Dining tables, bar tables

Staying the night? Wonderful! Please head to the <a href="https://www.theknot.com/us/robin-tarter-and-jesse-holden-aug-2025/overnight-stays" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Overnight Stays</a> section for all the details. (Unfortunately we've already reached our limit of overnight guests, but there are other local options at that page too!)

Sunhawk Farm

At the size we’re working with, it wasn’t possible to gather every one of our lovelies together in person. We hope you’ll all join us virtually for a live-stream of the ceremony! 🖤💍🎉Note updated link here! 🖤💍🎉

LiveStream

Attend Remotely

Event Updates

8/3: The <a href="https://youtube.com/live/GSaj29ZGTts" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">livestream link</a> has been updated due to some extremely stupid YouTube limitations! Make sure you go to the new link if you're attending remotely!

7/16:Updated <a href="https://www.theknot.com/us/robin-tarter-and-jesse-holden-aug-2025/q-a?preview=true" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Q &amp; A section</a> with a little more information about amenities, <a href="https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/19hpFvony6hc1VFI-j1lvO-oKMXeMI3BW9dWlkC658D8/edit?gid=1157226252#gid=1157226252" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">menu</a>, and <a href="https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/19hpFvony6hc1VFI-j1lvO-oKMXeMI3BW9dWlkC658D8/edit?usp=sharing" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">volunteering to help</a>!

5/15: Updated timeline for the day of the event!- Arrive: 2:00-3:00- Snacking and Socializing: 2:00-4:00- Ceremony: 4:00-4:30- Appetizers: 4:30-5:00- Dinner: 5:00-6:30- Whatever you want! 6:30-10:00

5/1: ﻿Fixed the time at the <a href="https://www.theknot.com/us/robin-tarter-and-jesse-holden-aug-2025/attend-remotely" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Attend Remotely</a> page

4/7:We've added some of our 'neighborhood' favorites to a new <a href="https://www.theknot.com/us/robin-tarter-and-jesse-holden-aug-2025/things-to-do" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Local Flavor</a> section of the site; they're worth the trip!

3/31: As the big day approaches, late breaking updates may appear here. Hope we will see you there!