About this Vendor

Designing Your Soulful Ceremony

Your wedding, just the way you want it -- tasteful, meaningful and personal. Let me design and create the exclusively customized ceremony you have always dreamed about. I will provide a distinctively profound celebration that honors your individual personalities and your marriage.


Ceremony Types

Civil Union, Commitment Ceremony, Elopement, Interfaith Ceremony, Non-Religious Ceremony, Religious Ceremony, Second Wedding , Vow Renewal Ceremony

Religious Affiliations


Wedding Activities

Ceremony, Wedding

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Contact Info

Reviewed on 6/13/2017 Carly B

Joan was an amazing officiant. She was always very timely in her responses and provided several selections (both traditional and contemporary) for us to choose from. She provided guidance and advice that was much appreciated as we put together our ceremony. She was willing to... Read More meet with us several times to get to know us and to answer any and all questions. I would highly recommend Joan as a wedding ceremony officiant!! -Carly & David Mendelsohn

Reviewed on 9/15/2016 Kari M

Look no further for the perfect ceremony! Rev. Joan has made our wedding absolutely perfect! She helped us customize the most beautiful ceremony. We have received so many compliments from guests on how personal and unique our ceremony was. She has so much wedding knowledge,... Read More and was such a calming presence for me. Talking to Rev. Joan made me feel at ease, and trust that everything would turn out right. She was always easy to reach and responded quickly. We loved designing our ceremony together. Before meeting Rev. Joan I was not excited about the ceremony. I felt like it was something I had to get through to get to the party. Talking to her immediately changed that. Now it is truly the best part of the whole day. I was more excited for our ceremony than anything else on the day, and it was perfect. She helped incorporate so much sentiment and personality. I recommend Ceremonies by Design to every couple!


Reviewed on 8/07/2013 Erin C

Joan made planning our ceremony stress free and fun! She provided structure to planning our ceremony but also let us personalize it as much as we wanted. She also helped us obtain a marriage license and change my name. I would highly recommend Joan!

Reviewed on 1/13/2018 Emily H

Rev. Joan did an amazing job with our ceremony. It was personalized, touching, and perfect for us. We got to know Joan over the phone, as we live out of state, and she managed to highlight our lives and relationship perfectly. It was as if she'd known us our whole lives.... Read More Highly recommend!

Reviewed on 11/14/2017 Lauren A

We had a truly wonderful experience working with Joan! While she did not perform our actual ceremony, she did all of the work putting together our draft and creating a beautiful flow that fit all of our needs. She referred us to Gayla Ruby, who performed our ceremony, and did a... Read More truly, truly wonderful job. We could not have asked for more, and the compliments we received following our wedding were the most heartfelt and loving. Joan and Gay captured what makes my husband and I “us”, and helped us to incorporate our story and our own vows into our personalized ceremony. We were looking for a non-religious ceremony that would speak to both our religious and non-religious guests, and Joan worked with us until we were completely satisfied with the final draft. On the day of the wedding, Gay was there early and was on top of making sure everything was perfect and ready to go. And it really was! I would highly recommend either Joan or Gay to anyone looking for an officiant.

Reviewed on 10/22/2017 Ashley R

Joan created a very personalized and heartfelt ceremony that had our entire family talking about how it was the best ceremony they had ever been to. On top of making our ceremony so special, she was responsive, professional, helped us understand the steps of the... Read More license/certificate/etc., and had a lot of fantastic ideas to add into the ceremony to make it that much more meaningful. We couldn't imagine our ceremony being any more perfect than it was. We were so happy to have Joan as our officiant!

Reviewed on 10/20/2017 Jason C

Joan gave us the ability to customize our wedding ceremony from the ground up. She helped us perform a traditional Celtic handfasting, and allowed us to be outside of the "typical Wisconsin wedding" stereotypes. She holds no judgements regarding who you are, or what type of... Read More church/religion you attend. She's there to make your day the best day you want it to be.

Reviewed on 9/28/2017 Ashley M

The moment we met Joan, we knew she would be the perfect fit for us. We met her at Panera for our first meeting and she provided a detailed menu of all her available services and we discussed what options would be best suited for our wedding ceremony. She made sure she got to... Read More know my husband and I and sent us detailed questionnaires so she could write a personal ceremony script. When she sent the first proof, she truly captured exactly what my husband and I were after for our personalized ceremony. Her words were so accurate and true that they made us cry when reading them. Throughout the entire process, she communicated and responded quickly and efficiently and made sure we loved our ceremony experience. For the rehearsal ceremony and wedding day, Joan was consistently available for us and answered any and all questions we had. She was organized, calm, and made me feel very comfortable with the whole process. I would definitely recommend Joan Pape to anyone looking for a ceremony that is personal, unique, and custom. It definitely is evident that this is her passion and I am honored to have had her as our officiant on our wedding day! Thank you, Joan! -Jarrod & Ashley Mayes

Reviewed on 9/07/2017 Nicole B

Ceremonies by Design made creating a personalized and faith based ceremony a breeze. With a variety of options and expert guidance, we were able to add personal touches and use wording that best suited our taste. We worked with Rev. Joan Pape and she was so organized and... Read More professional to work with. Her presentation style is beautiful and we received so many compliments throughout the evening about how beautiful our ceremony was. She was great at giving us guidance for how to make sure things run smoothly before, during, and after the ceremony. It was perfect! 😍

Reviewed on 8/29/2017 Hannah A

Joan is a fantastic officiant! She offers a wide variety of wedding styles and takes the time to get to know you and your partner, in order to ensure everything is personalized. She was super helpful with all our questions, helping us meet deadlines along the wedding process.... Read More She took care of so much and we were so grateful for all her hard work!

Reviewed on 8/10/2017 Stephanie E

After much research I came upon Reverend Joan M Pape. I wanted to find an officiant that we felt comfortable with and someone who would make our ceremony unique and personal. She replied fairly quickly to all of our emails and was very accommodating to scheduling a skype meeting... Read More since we live in a different state. Once we had our skype meeting we knew that she was the one whom we wanted to marry us and we just had to book her. She shortly sent us a questionnaire for us to fill out to help make the ceremony more personal, which I loved. She gave us samples of readings and a guide ceremony draft for some guidance. we were able to go through a couple of drafts perfecting it until it was the ceremony we wanted and she helped us through it all. On the day of the wedding she was beyond nice and professional. She did a great job and truly helped make our ceremony special. Thank you Reverend Joan M Pape!

Reviewed on 7/04/2017 Devon G

We are so happy we hired reverend Joan for our ceremony. Even though we were planning our wedding from across the country she still took the time to give us a phone call to get to know us and was very easy to communicate with through email. Also, Joan was very helpful when my... Read More husband and I were writing our vows giving wonderful suggestions and edits. We received so many compliments on our ceremony and how beautiful it was and that is because of her. Any bride would be lucky to have Reverend Joan.

Reviewed on 1/03/2017 Nicole M

Rev. Joan was amazing!! She was extremely kind, caring, and warm-hearted and made the process stress free. She created the perfect ceremony for us! She was extremely easy to work with, detailed oriented, and thoughtful. Not only did we think we had an amazing ceremony, we... Read More received many compliments from the guests saying it was the BEST ceremony they had attended! If you are looking for a stress free, personalized ceremony, Ceremonies by Design is the way to go! Highly Recommended!!

Reviewed on 11/04/2016 Melissa B

Joan was referred to me by a co-worker. After our first meeting at Panera Bread in Feburary of 2016 it was love at first sight! She has an amazing energy about her, wonderful sense of humor and much appreciated experience that will help you feel confident and secure in knowing... Read More your wedding ceremony is going to be everything you ever wanted it to be. Through scheduled phone chats Joan helped me piece together our beautiful ceremony and provided a much needed counsel for this stressed bride-to-be :) No matter what style of ceremony you desire Joan will accommodate you and your vision while providing top notch guidance. Look no further for professional, prompt, kind hearted service! Joan is your top choice for a wedding officiant!

Reviewed on 10/24/2016 Sarah R

Rev Joan was absolutely amazing. She was so helpful in the planning process and always answered our questions so promptly. She made our ceremony absolutely perfect.

Reviewed on 10/17/2016 Melanie S

Joan was awesome to work with. She helped us create just the ceremony we had envisioned and was accommodating and flexible in meeting with us to make sure we got it just right. We got to know her during the process and felt she took a personal interest in making sure we had the... Read More ceremony we wanted. She's so easy to work with and has so much experience we found here invaluable to our wedding day.

Reviewed on 10/03/2016 Michaela W

Joan and Karen were amazing throughout our entire wedding process. They both took a very personal interest in the vision we had for our personalized ceremony. Living in a different state, communication through e-mail and phone was essential to ensure everything was on track.... Read More I never had to worry that things were not being done, and that itself was a gift. Karen also made sure that things ran efficiently and smoothly for the rehearsal and actual wedding. We received so many compliments on our ceremony and would recommend them highly to anyone!

Reviewed on 9/21/2016 Sara W

Rev Joan was very easy to work with and helped us create the perfect ceremony. We received several compliments on our ceremony. She walked us through each step and even allowed us to make last minute changes. We would highly recommend her!

Reviewed on 8/17/2016 Haley M

I cannot say enough good things about both Joan and Karen. They both did everything to make our wedding day PERFECT! would highly, highly recommend!

Reviewed on 8/15/2016 Courtney E

Joan helped us to create the perfect ceremony that was uniquely ours, and that drew many compliments- and tears- from guests. She was so responsive to all of our concerns, and I am so glad we had her marry us!!

Reviewed on 6/10/2016 Suraya M

Rev. Joan was phenomenal! My husband and I chose the personalized ceremony Joan offers and wouldn't have had it any other way. Our guests commented and continue to tell us how original and inspiring our ceremony was. We loved it and so did everyone else. The process was easy and... Read More relaxed. I would highly recommend Rev. Joan to anyone who is looking for a unique and personalized ceremony. She also provided us with a very nice booklet of our ceremony, which I absolutely love because I didn't remember to have anyone record our ceremony. So at least we still have the words :)

Reviewed on 11/23/2015 Kim

Joan is the absolute best. We were so lucky to have found her! My husband and I live in Chicago, and we planned our Mt Horeb, WI wedding through emails and phone calls. Joan was so easy to talk to and was always responsive and available. She knew exactly what we were looking... Read More for in our ceremony and even gave us sample readings and prayers to select for our customized ceremony. We finally met Joan in person a couple of weeks before our wedding, and it felt like we had known her for forever. On the day of the wedding, Joan helped guide everything and everyone along - including our wedding party and vendors. She was so helpful and organized. The ceremony was absolutely beautiful, and we really felt the love in the air that day. After the ceremony, she gave us a bound copy of our ceremony and a little gift. She is such a kind and wonderful person! We absolutely loved working with Joan and would highly recommend her!

Reviewed on 11/16/2015 Gracie P

Joan was wonderful to us every step of the way! At first we thought she was a little expensive but she was extremely experienced and made everything so easy on us- which is definitely worth the little extra! Her assistant was also wonderful and very prepared.

Reviewed on 10/28/2015 Alex D

Reverend Joan was WONDERFUL! She was willing to meet us 1/2 way between our place and hers for our first meeting and was completely prepared and very knowledgeable from the start. She provided us with drafts of "traditional" and "contemporary" wedding ceremonies; each of which... Read More had multiple examples for each section of the ceremony. From there she let us completely customize our ceremony so that it was exactly what we wanted. We picked our favorite pieces from the examples she provided and added in some of our own ideas. In the end, we had our dream ceremony. We got so many compliments from our guests on the ceremony. They loved how personal and unique it was. We couldn't be happier!

Reviewed on 9/28/2015 Jesse R

Rev Joan created the perfect personalized ceremony for my wife and I. Only speaking with her over the phone prior to the ceremony, she put us at ease immediately with her knowledge, and ability to give us a unique ceremony to our day. After we chose to have her marry us, she... Read More took the time to get to know us through questionnaires, and phone calls, so that she could provide us a day that would truly fit our style and relationship. She was very open to working through multiple drafts and revisions of our day until it was exactly what we wanted. I would highly recommend Ceremonies by Design to anyone who wants an incredibly moving and personal ceremony.


Meet The Owner

Rev. Joan Pape

I have been creating and conducting custom-designed wedding ceremonies since 2002. No matter what your preferences are, I will make sure your ceremony meets your wishes and is exactly how you want it.