Secular officiant services/premarital counseling
Durham, Raleigh, Chapel Hill; travel within 75 mile radius
Travel area: Within 50 miles See details
Laney Margolis
OWNER
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AWARD WINNER (4X)
Thanks to recommendations from couples on The Knot
Humanist celebrants are approved by the American Humanist Society to legally perform marriages in all 50 states. I am willing to travel within a 75 mile radius of Durham, NC. My services work well for non-religious couples, interfaith couples who do not wish to have a religious ceremony, religious couples who prefer to have secular ceremonies and couples who have their own unique sense of spirituality. I specialize in officiating secular (non-religious) weddings, unions, elopements, vow renewals, and engagement ceremonies. Whether you’re looking for something quick in your own living room, garden, or park or something traditional in a wedding venue, I will help you create a beautiful, warm and intimate ceremony that reflects who you and your partner are as a couple. I am based in Durham and serve the Raleigh, Durham and Chapel Hill areas and surrounding counties within a 75 mile radius of Durham. (If you are having a destination wedding at the beach or mountains and wish to bring your own officiant, please contact me to discuss pricing).
I am a psychologist, professional writer and experienced public speaker who is warm, funny, flexible, easy to work with and well-organized; I am also deeply committed to inclusion and diversity and open to all types of unions. As a licensed Clinical Psychologist, I am also available to do expert pre-marital counseling to help ensure that your marriage starts off on the best footing.
Services:
Standard (though unique) wedding ceremonies
Customized wedding ceremonies
Rehearsal attendance
Premarital counseling
Certified secular officiant (North Carolina is picky about this; Humanist celebrants are fully certified and recognized as clergy in NC)
Details
Ceremony Types
Civil Union
Commitment Ceremony
Elopement
Interfaith Ceremony
Non-Religious Ceremony
Second Wedding
Vow Renewal Ceremony
Religious Affiliations
Interfaith
Pagan
Secular
Spiritual
Unitarian
Wedding Activities
Premarital Counseling
Wedding
Ceremony
Awards and Affiliations
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Laney Margolis
Owner
I am a writer and a Ph.D. Clinical Psychologist who has had a fascinating career as a professor, clinician and program administrator. I believe that couples who are not religious or who are in complicated religious situations that make them want to have a nonreligious wedding should have the option of a beautiful, heartfelt and meaningful ceremony performed by a skillful officiant who loves what she does. As a 45-year LGBQT+ and POC ally, it is important to me that EVERYONE who wishes to be married has an officiant who embraces diversity and treats every couple with the same respect.
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5.0
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Laney Margolis is highly praised by multiple couples for her exceptional officiating services at weddings. She is commended for her personalized, non-religious ceremonies that beautifully capture the essence of the couples’ relationships. Laney’s attention to detail, professionalism, and ability to incorporate diverse cultural elements into ceremonies are highlighted positively. Couples appreciate her collaborative and organized approach, as well as her assistance with legal aspects of marriage. The guests were moved by the heartfelt ceremonies, making Laney a highly recommended wedding officiant.Review photos
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Kelly K
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5.0
12/08/2025
My partner and I loved having Laney Margolis as our wedding officiant! The two of us are so appreciative of her dedication and thoughtful attention to our big day, and in particula...
r to helping us design our non-religious wedding ceremony. Through a couple of pre-event meetings and a questionnaire about our story as a couple, Laney carefully collected information about our relationship that made it feel like we had known her for much longer than we actually had. She used these details to craft a beautiful script for the ceremony, dedicating time to describing what we each loved about the other and our vision for married life together, and providing a set of vows that felt meaningful and true to us (we were not interested in writing personal vows). We had several family members tell us how special and profound the ceremony was, and we couldn't agree more!
Laney was also very helpful with the non-romantic elements of getting legally married, reminding us about the deadlines for applying for a marriage license and purchasing a certificate, and making sure our witnesses signed on the line immediately after the ceremony ended. She also took care of mailing in the signed license for us so we had one fewer thing on our to-do list after the wedding. Laney is a warm, organized professional with a talent for her work as an officiant, and we would wholeheartedly recommend her to anyone.
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 12/10/2025
Kelly - thank you so much for your kind words. I wish you and Austin a lifetime of happin...
ess.
Ian K
5.0
3/07/2026
We found working with Laney absolutely wonderful! We couldn't have asked for a better officiant after our first plans fell through. She was able to give us a beautiful non religiou...
s/personalized ceremony! She uses a questionnaire to get a full picture of couples' and uses that to bring the couple's story into the ceremony. The vows she has prewritten were exactly what we were looking for and she offers a hybrid version of the ceremony where you can include your own personal vows too.
Any questions?
Maddy R
5.0
12/27/2025
We found Laney pretty quickly after getting engaged, knowing that we were interested in a secular officiant for our wedding ceremony. Our initial meeting went so well we decided to...
hire her immediately. She was responsive throughout the whole process and understood exactly what we were looking for. We are really happy with how our ceremony turned out. It was very beautiful. She even stayed beyond her allotted time for the rehearsal because she could tell that I was too flustered to pay attention on the first go round! Everything went very well and I got many comments from guests on how beautiful our ceremony was!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 01/21/2026
Maddy - it was so great to be part of your wedding. Thanks so much for your kind words.
Chapin N
5.0
12/17/2025
We couldn't be happier with our decision to choose Laney as our wedding officiant. Laney's approach is extremely collaborative; from understanding our needs and allowing us to work...
together to craft the perfect wedding narrative, all with a story-based, humanist approach. We had so many guests afterwards tell us that the ceremony was their favorite event of the evening, and so much of that is a direct reflection of the care Laney took to make sure we had the best possible wedding day. We can't recommend Laney enough!
Sarah H
5.0
12/11/2025
Laney was amazing to work with. She got to know us and our story. The ceremony was beautiful and well executed. It was a non-religious ceremony. Our multicultural guests were moved...
by Laney's words.
Lauren T
5.0
12/08/2025
Laney was an amazing officiant for our wedding day! My partner is nonbinary and we are both not religious so we were looking for someone that was inclusive and affirming of both of...
us and Laney absolutely hit that mark. She was extremely professional and wrote an incredible speech about both of us after getting to know us through our meeting and questionnaire. We also hired her to do a few premartial counseling sessions which were extremely helpful in identifying some areas to discuss that we will definitely use moving forward in our marriage. Those sessions also helped us get to know each other so that on the wedding day she was another familiar face. I really appreciated that she has a clinical psychology background (as I'm a therapist myself) because I think it really helped her understand us and facilitate both counseling and our wedding. I would absolutely recommend her for any engaged couple!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 12/10/2025
Thank you, Lauren. I wish you and RIchard every happiness.
Cassidy .
5.0
12/08/2025
It was a delight to work with Laney! She made the entire ceremony process as straightforward as possible.
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 01/21/2026
Thanks so much Cassidy. Wishing you so much happiness.
Natalie S
5.0
12/08/2025
We are so happy that we went with Laney as our officiant for our wedding! After just our initial meeting with her, we knew her approach to the ceremony and just who she is as a per...
son would totally jive with us as a couple. Laney offered multiple options for the ceremony and really listened to what we wanted. She allowed us to provide feedback and modified elements of the ceremony based on exactly what we wanted. It was important to us that the ceremony was non-religious and inclusive of everyone. She wrote a beautiful ceremony that included elements of our story, elements that she created, and traditions that were important to us. The ceremony was simple but meaningful and we just loved it! We are so thankful to Laney for her responsiveness, organization, and calm demeanor.
Arielle C
5.0
12/08/2025
Laney was incredible! We loved our ceremony. She created a thoughtful individualized script for us, and was so helpful with organizing all our family. She was very experienced, pr...
ofessional, and easy to communicate with. Her speaking voice is excellent. She was able to weave different cultural traditions into a ceremony that felt like us.
Poppy Q
5.0
12/16/2024
Laney was a wonderful officiant, she was communicative, timely, and extremely professional. She helped us tell our story in an eloquent way and was an excellent speaker, making our...
ceremony so beautiful and memorable. She truly made the whole experience easy as well! Would absolutely recommend her!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 12/30/2024
Thanks so much for your kind words. Your wedding was an absolute joy to officiate. I wis...
h nothing but the best to you and Christopher.
Ashley W
5.0
10/18/2024
Laney was so amazing and did such a good job for our wedding. Her story made it seem like she knew us for much longer than she did and she had great suggestions during the rehearsa...
l to make sure the day went smoothly. Would highly recommend!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 10/19/2024
Thanks so much Ashley. It was delightful working with you and Christian and your wedding ...
was beautiful. Wishing. You all the best!
Jamie R
5.0
8/03/2024
Laney was great. She listened to everything we wanted and didn’t want included in our wedding and tailored our wedding ceremony to be exactly how we wanted it. She was communicativ...
e the whole way through, and a true professional. I would recommend Laney to anyone.
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 10/19/2024
Jamie - thank you for the kind words. Your wedding was quite lovely. Thank you for letti...
ng me be part of it. Wishing you all the best.
Micah B
5.0
6/07/2024
Laney Margolis did a fabulous job performing our wedding ceremony. She made it feel perfectly tailored to us from start to finish. Many of our guests commented that it was the most...
beautiful ceremony they had ever heard. Laney's warmth, professionalism, and attention to detail made our special day truly unforgettable. Thank you, Laney, for making our ceremony so meaningful and memorable!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 06/07/2024
Micah,
Thank you for the kind words. It was a pleasure to work with you and Taylor and yo...
ur wedding was magnificent. Wishing you every happiness.
Laney
Allyson L
5.0
12/17/2023
We had an excellent experience with Laney. She was recommended to us by our wedding planner, Premier Party Planners. I really appreciated how great of a listener she was while also...
making great recommendations for how to make the ceremony as impactful as possible. She asked us thought-provoking questions to have us reflect on our relationship and love and was able to seamlessly integrate our answers into her speech. So many of our guests came up to us after the ceremony to tell us how much they loved the format and how personal/sentimental it was. Logistically, Laney was very responsive and professional. Overall, she was wonderful to work with and I would recommend her to anybody in the area.
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 06/07/2024
Allyson,
Thanks so much for your kind words. I wish you every happiness.
Abigail B
5.0
12/12/2023
From our first meeting, we knew Laney was going to make our wedding day special! If you're looking for someone who can tell your love story in a thoughtful, captivating way, Laney ...
is for you. She helped make our ceremony embody who we are as people. We received many compliments from our guests too!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 06/07/2024
Abigail,
It was wonderful to be your officiant. Thank you for the kind words. Best of e...
verything to both of you.
Sarah A
5.0
12/10/2023
Laney did a great job officiating our secular lesbian wedding. We liked that she used a script personalized to our story, which she let us proof in advance. She was also very respo...
nsive when answering questions.
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 06/07/2024
Sarah,
It was my pleasure to officiate your wedding. Thank you so much for the lovely wor...
ds.
Laney
Abby M
5.0
11/05/2023
Laney is kind, professional, and funny. We really did not know what to expect from a wedding officiant, and could not be happier. She told our story beautifully and gave us creativ...
e license to make some changes so that it felt authentically "us". Several people said that it was one of the most beautiful ceremonies they'd attended - and that came all down to her writing/storytelling.
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 06/07/2024
Abby,
I so appreciate your kind words. Best to both of you.
Laney
Elizabeth M
5.0
11/03/2022
We hired Laney to officiate our wedding this past October, and she was an absolute joy to work with. Neither my husband nor I are very religious, so we wanted an officiant who woul...
d focus the ceremony more around our love and commitment to each other, rather than religion. Laney is an American Humanist, and she did an incredible job catering to exactly what we wanted. She took so much time to talk to us on several occasions before the wedding, and she sent us an extensive questionnaire about our marriage and why we wanted to be married. She put so much time and care into crafting an incredibly personal script based on our questionnaire responses to read at the ceremony, and it was more beautiful and touching than we could’ve imagined. Several of our guests also said that it was one of the most heartfelt ceremonies they have ever seen.
On a personal level, Laney is incredible to work with. She is professional, speedy at replying to emails, very organized, and always on time. She’s a delightful person with a wonderful sense of humor, and we couldn’t imagine anyone better to work with for such an important aspect of our wedding day. We couldn’t recommend Laney more highly!
Tara H
5.0
10/07/2022
Laney was absolutely amazing to work with and gave us the ceremony of our dreams! She wrote a personalized story that detailed our journey as a couple and it felt so magical and in...
timate. I highly recommend her & couldn’t have asked for a better officiant.
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 11/01/2022
Tara - it was so much fun working with you and Riley. Thank you so much for the kind word...
s. Wishing you all the happiness in the world.
Chloe M
5.0
10/06/2022
Book her now!!! We were looking for a non-religious officiant who would focus on love and life. Laney did this AND MORE! She shared our personal story and truly made the ceremony o...
ur own. She is professional, kind and calm. We couldn’t have asked for a better ceremony and overall experience!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 11/01/2022
Chloe - thank you so much! I loved working with you and Nick in that beautiful setting. ...
Wishing you all the best.
Rachel O
5.0
7/27/2022
Laney was a joy to work with and wrote a BEAUTIFUL ceremony for us. I wish I could give her more than 5 stars. She kept everything running on time and everyone came up to me after ...
the wedding to tell me how perfect her words were. We are so grateful we had the opportunity to book her services for our special day!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 11/01/2022
Thank you so much, Rachel. You and Levi were so great to work with. Wishing you a life t...
ime of happiness.
Clarice F
5.0
6/10/2022
My husband and I were married last week in a beautiful ceremony given by Laney. She was very helpful and responsive during the planning process, and she ran our rehearsal the day b...
efore with the poise of a true expert. The ceremony was wonderfully personalized, and we continue to get compliments about how beautiful our service was. If you're looking for a beautiful, meaningful ceremony that focuses on the intertwining of two lives and zero mention of religion- look no further!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 06/20/2022
Clarice - thank you for the kind comments. I wish the two of you the best of everything. ...
Laney
Mary Beth C
5.0
12/12/2021
Laney was very helpful and receptive to any concerns we had and did an excellent job in ensuring that our wedding was personalized. My father-in-law joked that her script during th...
e ceremony was his wedding speech because she said exactly what most people say when talking about us as a couple. She also provided us with great advice prior to the ceremony to ensure that we were comfortable and that our ceremony went as perfect as possible. We truly appreciate having her involved!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 12/30/2021
Thanks so much for your kind words, Mary Beth. You and David were so easy to work with. ...
I wish you all the best.
Laney
Benjamin C
5.0
12/02/2021
TLDR: Hire Laney. You won't regret it.
Getting married is huge. The Day is full of huge details and even bigger decisions that can impact the whole event. The person who marries y...
ou and your partner really makes a difference: they're the voice of your ceremony; they're in your pictures; they're the center of the biggest moment, even if for a brief time. Laney Margolis bring warmth, character, and that personal touch you cannot find except from an old friend. She crafts an intimate story that portrays your relationship in a beautiful narrative, reminding you of every step of the journey that lead you to this moment.
Now I get to return the kindness with a small narrative about her:
My wife and I have the pleasure of being married by Laney not once but twice. As many weddings nowadays go, we were impacted by the early throngs of COVID. We canceled our first ceremony for June 2020, but as the days turned into weeks and into months, my former fiancée and I decided to have a small, intimate gathering to fill the void left by the wedding cancelation and the distance from friends and family. We organized a 15 person, outdoor, distanced wedding at Greensboro's Gateway Garden Fairy Tale Stage. My wife and I spoke to several people, but when we Zoomed with Laney, it just clicked immediately. Her warm smile, comforting demeanor, and kind laugh sold us instantly, even over video.
And on a hot day in late June, 2020, Laney married my wife and I for the first time in what I can only describe as one of the sweetest, most touching ceremonies one could ask for on two week's notice. Laney rolled with all of the ups and downs of a somewhat impromptu moment, and she wasn't bothered by us having our dog there either (as an aside, Laney has a pretty cute one herself, if you see it on Zoom calls).
After the wedding, my wife and I changed our plans again. We were going to have my friend marry us, but we knew in our hearts that Laney was going to be the one. As they say, when you know, you know. My wife and I came to this conclusion independently of one another, both thinking it was going to upset the other. And the rest is history. Laney married us AGAIN on Halloween Eve, 2021. This time, with the proper planning, she interviewed us, had us answer questions independently, and crafted a beautiful summation of our lives together. I kid you not when I say she made me both howl with laughter and cry at memories forgotten.
After the ceremony, our guests were blown away by the narrative threads that Laney wove. Many details will fade, in my mind, over time, about my wedding days. Laney will not be one of them. My wife and I joke that when we get married a third time (HA!), Laney Margolis will be our first phone call. And she should be yours, too.
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 12/30/2021
Thank you Ben. You and Claire were so much fun to work with. Wishing you all the best.
...
Laney
Ashley N
5.0
11/03/2021
Laney was fantastic. I couldn't have asked for anyone better. She made my dream ceremony happen with little to no guidance. I would HIGHLY recommend.
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 12/30/2021
Ashley,
Thank you for your kind words. I loved officiating your Halloween-themed wedding...
.
Best,
Llaney
Meghan P
5.0
6/11/2021
Laney was very organized and professional throughout our experience. Due to Covid, we met through Zoom and she was diligent about getting every detail about our ceremony and making...
sure we were comfortable. The ceremony was short, sweet, and beautiful, just as we wanted it. Her words put many guests to tears. Thank you Laney!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 12/30/2021
Thanks so much Meghan. It was a joy to officiate your wedding. Wishing you and Joe all t...
he best.
Laney
Molly M
5.0
5/02/2021
You were amazing and I cannot tell you how many people complimented you with how you spoke and the words you spoke. They found it moving and beautiful. Literally they were just blo...
wn away!!!
Thank you for being part of our day. We loved loved loved having you officiate!!!!!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 12/30/2021
Thanks so much Molly. Wishing you and Damian all the best!
Laney
Tara S
5.0
10/14/2020
After one phone call I knew that Laney was the perfect person to officiate my wedding. My husband and I wanted a personal and unique ceremony that blended our different religious v...
iews and Laney delivered! She was so sweet and easy to work with. As a local Wedding Planner myself, I was so impressed with how Laney handled my own wedding that I started referring her to my couples and working with her as a fellow vendor has been just as enjoyable. She is quick to respond, professional, and always on time. I can't wait to work with her again and again!
Alison K
5.0
9/21/2020
Laney made our big day so special, and we are so incredibly happy that we hired her as our officiant. In meeting with her, she took the time to really get to know us and our love s...
tory in order to create a script that felt true to us as a couple! The ceremony was perfect, and we had so many guests tell us how perfect Laney was for our wedding! Thank you so much, Laney — we couldn't have done it without you. ❤️ Love, Alison & Greg
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 09/21/2020
Alison,
Thank you for your kind words. I loved working with you and Greg - we all partne...
red so well on that script! You made a beautiful bride and a beautiful couple. Congratulations and best of everything to the both of you.
Rachel T
5.0
9/14/2020
Laney, was excellent for our small, outdoor ceremony. Despite all the craziness with COVID-19, she made sure the ceremony was still special and unique to our situation. She was gre...
at at communicating every step of the way and I would 100% recommend her to anyone looking for a great officiant at a competitive price.
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 09/15/2020
Rachel, thanks so much for the kind words. Your beautiful backyard was the perfect place ...
for a wedding ceremony and it was my pleasure to officiate your wedding. Wishing you and Matt all the best.
Taylor C
5.0
8/06/2020
My husband and I eloped with just two witnesses in our friend's backyard. That's the wedding reality in a pandemic - and for us, it was absolutely perfect. Laney truly leaned into ...
the intimacy and privacy of our tiny ceremony. She gets to what marriage is really about, stripping away all the trappings of what we think of as a wedding. Her script is beautiful and meaningful, no pomp and circumstance, just reverent commitment. That's exactly what we wanted. We opted to use the vows Laney wrote because they spoke to exactly what we wanted to promise each other. We added a section before the vows where we said some remarks to each other that we wrote. Laney was extremely helpful and responsive as we finalized the script together.
Her presence is very calming and centering. As Laney spoke, the world melted away and it was just my husband and I locking eyes, listening to Laney's voice. That's a powerful thing -- and Laney's vibe helps foster that magic.
If you, too, care about a meaningful, personal ceremony more than anything else, I highly recommend Laney. She'd be a fabulous choice for any secular commitment, but I think her superpowers really shine in the context of an intimate ceremony or elopement.
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 08/06/2020
Taylor,
Thank you for the lovely review. I have felt so privileged to do these small wed...
dings recently - they are a moment of joy during a hard time. You and Austin wrote such beautiful words to each other, too.
Wishing you every happiness,
Laney
Tina C
5.0
7/17/2020
Laney married my partner and I for our backyard wedding ceremony. Our plans had changed due to covid-19 and it worked out in our favor because Laney was available for this wedding ...
date! Laney was very easy to communicate with over Wedding Wire messaging. She incorporated aspects into our ceremony that were meaningful to us as a couple. My partner and I are a mix of non-religious and spiritual and the vows she offered during our ceremony fit our needs perfectly! Our ceremony was short and sweet and she filed the marriage paperwork for us afterwards. I highly recommend hiring Laney as your officiant!
Response from Laney Margolis, Humanist Celebrant on 08/06/2020
Tina,
Thank you for your kind review. It was such a joy to officiate your small wedding....
I love these tiny weddings - they are truly lovely and heartfelt. Your beautiful back yard made the perfect setting. I wish you and Zack every happiness.
Laney
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