Rev Sandra Bargman

imers, it was nice to have someone as informative and calming as Sandra as our celebrant both before the big day and during. Through it all, she gracious and accommodating while at the same time providing well needed guidance when we were unsure of certain things. We miss her already! Highly highly highly recommend !

search and I will say it was worth every single penny. If you are looking for a personal, thoughtful and impactful ceremony … Rev Sandra is your officiant. She listened to our love story, our weird intricacies and made us feel comfortable and safe being so vulnerable with her. She created such a memorable and personal ceremony, it felt like we had known each other for years. We wanted it to be unique, personal, romantic and most importantly FUN and she delivered! I cannot even tell you how many of our guests came up to us and complemented not only how wonderful, unique and fun our ceremony was, but also how magnificent Sandra was delivering it!

celebration. Our families absolutely LOVED Sandra and so many of our guests have repeatedly told us how beautiful and personal our ceremony was. I am not exaggerating when I say our family and friends are still telling us how amazing Sandra is. Our wedding day was going to be incredible no matter what, but Sandra helped make it beyond perfect. At first, we were a bit anxious about finding an officiant – I was a little hesitant to work with someone new to both of us. But Sandra was recommended to us by the owner of The Inn at West Settlement, and we are extremely glad that she was. We knew immediately during our first consultation that we wanted to work with Sandra because of her palpable warm, welcoming energy. Sandra took the time to get to know us as individuals and as a couple (which is not easy through a computer screen!). Sandra guided us through the process of determining what we envisioned for our ceremony to make sure it was exactly what we wanted. It was effortless and we completely trusted her guidance as we collaborated with her. Sandra was such an integral part of our day, and we are so grateful to her. I specifically was extremely touched by her grace and empathy. I experienced a tremendous amount of personal loss this year and it was important to me to acknowledge and honor my family while also celebrate the beginning of our new family. She provided such a comforting and enthusiastic presence on our special day. It was a pleasure to work with Sandra and we would give her 10 stars if we could!!!!

mony that was just what we were looknig for - a balance of funny and serious, reflected our love of nature and the mountains , and even found a way to to incoporate our dog who we sadly had to leave at home. Her presence on site was a positive vibe we very much appreciated in the midst of a rainy/icy cold day in the middle of June!

r how we wanted it to be - meaningful but still succinct, spiritual without being overly religious, humorous but still keeping with the gravity of the moment, and most of all thoughtful and personal to who we are as a couple. Rev. Sandra checked all of those boxes, and then some! She took the time to really get to know us over lengthy (and fun!) zoom calls and ended up writing us the ceremony we always wanted. She effortlessly got to the core of who we are, both individually and to each other, and turned that into a ceremony that really spoke to us and all of our guests. There wasn't a dry eye in the house! Her delivery and presence were impeccable and it was a true joy to stand up there and be married by her. We absolutely adore her.

emony which was so intimate and made guests feel involved in the couple's big day.All in all Rev Sandra was very inviting and warm.

specific wants and needs while adding a plethora of thoughtful and unique touches that only someone with years of experience could offer. Sandra was also extremely easy to work with; fun and celebratory every step of the way. She accommodated our busy schedules and when we were running behind, she kept us on track. Even when hiccups arose during our ceremony, Sandra smoothed them over with ease. Sandra truly has a way of calming and perfecting even the most chaotic moments. We would be remiss to not mention Sandra’s inherent adaptability to execute last minute changes on the fly, big or small. We are so thankful to have had Sandra officiate at our wedding, she was adored by all of our guests and as the officiant, she made our celebration an outstanding and elegant event. She truly is a step above the rest and we could not have chosen better.

and that was the most special ceremony I have witnessed". Sandra was so personable and really got to know me and my husband as a couple. We zoomed and filled out thought out questionnaires about our love story. She created such a beautiful ceremony so uniquely specific to us. It was perfect! She has so much experience and speaks so eloquently. Sandra will listen to your ideas and bring thoughtful ones of her own. I would recommend Sandra to ANY couple!!!

thing frivolous, every ritual and reading had profound meaning to the two of us. My husband is from India and I am from upstate NY. Sandra diligently explored the possibilities on how we could create a ceremony that was fun, modern, and heartfelt and simultaneously incorporate Hindu and Christian elements. After the ceremony, guests from both sides commented on how well Sandra captured and blended rituals in a way remained authentic to the diverse traditions. We loved how on top of that, she designed a ceremony that highlighted my husband and I as two unique people with our own special love story. I can't possibly imagine anyone else leading us on our happy day.

d easy experience. Sandra was very flexible and worked with us throughout the process. She was able to put into words our vision for our ceremony and make it feel intimate as we only ended up having immediate family. The ceremony was everything we could have hoped for it to be and more!

and adaptable when planning the ceremony. She shared a poem and gave us a heartfelt toast! Can’t thank her enough!

nking that we would have our small ceremony in New York City, where we live, we started doing some searching for officiants and came across Sandra. We communicated by email, set up a time to talk over Zoom, and immediately felt so comfortable and at ease in Sandra’s warm, supportive, and honest presence. A few weeks into planning our ceremony together, we decided that we actually wanted to do this upstate in the Catskills, an area that is dear to us after having spent a lot of time camping there on weekends together. We asked if Sandra would mind driving a few hours out of the city to accommodate us and, as it turns out, we all love that area and it worked out. Sandra helped us plan an intimate, special ceremony in 2020 that included beautiful readings, Sandra’s reflections on marriage, and our vows. We got married under a maple tree in Olivebridge, NY with Sandra officiating and only our siblings and parents present with us. It was beautiful and sacred and something that we will always remember. Sandra helped guide the way for us in terms of highlighting what was most important to us in this ceremony and speaking from the heart. Our families absolutely loved this ceremony and had so many wonderful things to say about how Sandra led the ceremony and married us. We wanted to celebrate with all of our friends and family as initially planned pre-pandemic and we pushed back our bigger wedding until June 2022; we had the incredible good fortune of being able to work with Sandra again during this time to craft a renewal of vows ceremony. The whole process of working together leading up to our renewal ceremony was so inspiring and rewarding. Sandra took the time to meet with us many times again over Zoom and we filled out a detailed reflection/questionnaire that Sandra has developed for her couples with so many thoughtful questions that helped us learn more about what our marriage means to us and also helped Sandra better understand us. We thought about readings, the flow of the ceremony, the tone, religious traditions, and so many other important details together. Sandra had so many creative ideas about symbolic rituals and readings to incorporate and she helped us learn about aspects of ceremonies which were new to us. Sandra was always easily reachable throughout the whole process and we always felt supported both in planning and in our pre-marital reflections. On the day of our June 2022 vow renewal and marriage celebration, our ceremony was so beautiful. From the readings that the three of us had selected together to Sandra’s thoughtful words throughout, it all felt so meaningful, true, and personal to us. Every guest who we talked to was in awe of Sandra in terms of her tone, delivery, messages, and connection with us and our friends and family. We will always remember this ceremony as it truly was so meaningful and special to us. Meeting Sandra has been a gift. Sandra crafted two beautiful wedding ceremonies for us that were moving, personal, and important to us in terms of what matters most to us in our marriage. Sandra is a wonderful person and we’re so grateful to have all met one another. Clearly, we recommend working with Sandra wholeheartedly if you ever have the opportunity to do so!

of all that attended. I have the benefit of knowing her personally before choosing her to officiate. She made our ceremony exactly as we'd imagined. I'm so thankful that she was the one to marry us!!

ecided on a simple in-person elopement, and even though it was just us and our photographer as a witness, Sandra delivered a heartfelt, meaningful ceremony for us. We even failed to fill out the ceremony license, not once, but twice! Sandra stayed calm and solved the issue for us on the spot. We are so grateful, and so happy for her officiating. She is, quite frankly, unbelievable." -FB and BB

l is. A beautiful person inside and out, she’s highly creative, deeply sensitive, wicked smart, thoughtful, kind and funny. She’s a consummate professional able to use her considerable organizational and directorial skills to make memorable events a reality. She has vision. She’s warm. She’s caring. Her’s is a calming, reassuring presence. Because of coronavirus, my partner and I wanted a simple civil/legal ceremony on ZOOM; and, of course, Rev. Sandra knew all about how to make that happen. Her advice and counsel guided us before, during and after. Once this terrible virus is beyond us, we plan to have an in-person, spiritual ceremony surrounded by family and friends. We wouldn’t dream of having anyone other than Rev. Sandra officiate. What a blessing to be in the hands of the best!

then we did it virtually, on Zoom. Our witnesses were in different homes, our parents in other states, and the groom didn’t want a ring. Did any of this stump Rev. Sandra? Not for a moment. We talked on the phone, met on zoom, exchanged ideas for the ceremony. She listened carefully to what we had to say, and even to what we didn’t say (“I didn’t hear you mention X - do you want to consider that at all?”) She sent sample ‘scripts’ and we tailored it for our tastes. Just a perfect interaction to what could have been a very stressful time. Rev. Sandra is a compassionate, non-fru-fru officiant. She works with you to make the ceremony fit your needs, in a supportive and exciting way. We highly recommend her!

the search for an officiant, we wanted someone who could create something that felt personal, was spiritual, and was flexible to working with technology and officiating our ceremony remotely/virtually. Sandra was all of those things and so much more. She took the time to understand us as a couple and what we were looking for over many calls and emails. She spent time crafting a ceremony that was exactly what we wanted - spiritual and heartfelt - with room for our families to deliver readings and space for us to deliver our own vows. She even set up a beautiful background in her home that looked great on the zoom call and was thoughtful enough to ask us what we thought she should wear. She offered her advice and expertise in thinking through how things would look to our audience and how we could adjust them for the camera. Her attention to these to details made our day seem that more special. Sandra delivered our ceremony, it’s foundation, prayers, vow and ring exchanges with emotion that was authentic and vigor that added life and momentum despite our physical separation. We are so pleased with our choice and we would recommend Sandra in a heartbeat! Thank you Sandra for making our wedding so special!

d family. As COVID-19 unfolded and we made the responsible but difficult decision to postpone our large ceremony, we felt compelled to retain some magic and celebration on our original May date. Sandra met our desire head on by designing a beautifully unique, physically-distant/virtual ceremony. Sandra in all her creative power executed a day that, despite our major shift in plans, photos with gloves and face masks, and a novel virus transmitting across the globe, simply, could not have been more perfect, precious, or us. To top it off, she incorporated multiple elements into our May ceremony that will be expanded upon when we can safely celebrate with all friends and family. Sandra is passionate, immensely creative, and a deep listener who reflects keenly on couples’ wishes to deliver exactly what she promises: ceremonies that are unique and heartfelt.

I read the one that seemed to have been written especially for us. She not only crafted an intimate, special, loving service, but hosted our small guest list as though they were her own family. If you're looking for magic and a spiritual safe haven, you found it with Rev. Sandra.

and has a great sense of humor. She brought all these qualities to bear to create a beautiful, meaningful, and memorable ceremony.

ding questionnaire. All of the questions were thoughtful and she used our answers to personalize our ceremony. The day of the wedding, she was a calming presence. She came to visit both of us and gave us confidence that she had everything under control. The ceremony was everything we could have asked for and more. All of our guests absolutely loved her and said that we had the most memorable ceremony they had ever witnessed!

nd creativity, we were pleasantly surprised by how thoughtful and prepared she was both during the planning process and on the day of our wedding. First, she helped us organize our thoughts (and feelings) with a thorough questionnaire that we reviewed all together as a group. She later helped us craft the structure of our ceremony drawing on her experience dealing with couples of different faiths and backgrounds. Ultimately, we were most grateful for how safe she made us feel throughout the day. Her presence was calming and reassuring in the midst of a lot of stimulus. We cannot recommend her more highly.

ceremony was uncanny! her suggestions for readings were perfect and catered to a diverse group of guests. We would recommend her to anyone!

really helped guide us through it all with so much patience, experience AND HUMOR! She thought of all the little things we hadn't which made the event go so smoothly and made us feel comfortable and relaxed. Everyone told us afterwards that the ceremony really captured the two of us perfectly (and Rev Sandra had so much to do with that!). Ever grateful. Thank you again!!!

ther while still acknowledging and incorporating religious traditions from our families. She really took the time to help us through that process to ensure we had the right balance, and a ceremony that felt like us. Just the number of compliments we received about the ceremony alone spoke volumes about Sandras work. The time she took to get to know each of us, and our story made the whole ceremony that much more personal. We are truly grateful to have had her as a part of our special day. - A and V

irty years that I have lived in Europe, but knowing that she is a passionate interfaith minister who presides over weddings, I turned to her for suggestions for my wedding ceremony. She took time to talk with me and then provided me with inspirational ceremony texts, which my husband-to-be and I used to craft our personal ceremony. As my husband is from Germany, and we had English-speaking and German-speaking guests, we found a lovely way to have a bilingual ceremony. Sandra was not able to be here, but my sister-in-law, Carolyn, who is an ordained Presbyterian minister, and my good friend of many years, Julia, presided over the ceremony. Carolyn had the primary role and spoke in English, while Julia spoke the same text translated into German. Our outdoor ceremony was in the sculpture garden of the park where a well-known local artist used to live and work. My uncle walked me down the path to the center of the circle where our guests among the sculptures of the park stood in a large half-circle to witness our ceremony. It was beautiful, personal, and meaningful, thanks very much to the words and ideas we began with from Sandra.

hat you hate, what inspires you, etc. Meeting Sandra truly was the very best thing about our planning process. She not only became a very fast friend, she took our vision and created a ceremony that was completely shaped around who we were, as individuals and as a couple. She is fast to make suggestions, and comfortable with incorporating your feedback. At the end of our wedding, all the rave reviews were about the ceremony - I had friends and family telling me that it was "the most beautiful, unique ceremony" they had ever attended. All couples should have the chance to work with Sandra - it's a complete dream!

sure my husband and I were well represented on every front. We both come from different spiritual and religious backgrounds, and Sandra was able to weave together a ceremony that made everyone feel honored. She brought an authenticity and intimacy to the ceremony, that I'm certain no one else could have delivered. She is respectful, kind and has a heart of gold. She is there to make certain your day is yours; beautiful ,remarkable, and something you will never forget. A true God send. Thank you for joining our two souls together in such an unforgettable way.

nce, and able to tailor a ceremony to our unique bohemian/hippy style. We loved that she had so much experience in many different types of ceremonies (religious and non), so she brought this very spiritual and commanding quality to her work that we really felt safe with. Sandra listened to ALL of our many, many... MANY needs, ideas, concerns, specific word changes, etc and was patient and kind through the whole process. She allowed us a lot of freedom to come up with wording we felt more connected to, but also helped guide us when we needed her experience to know what would work best. Many guests commented on how much they loved her and asked WHO WAS THAT WOMAN??? SHE IS AMAZING! We definitely think so too. :) Sandra: Thank you for making our ceremony so personal and special. Thank you for opening your heart to us and being so generous with your time and skills. Thank you for being the vendor (above ALL our other vendors) who was always there for us, always available, always ready to listen and guide us, always thinking ahead, always ready to jump in and make things work (even more beautifully than planned). We are SO SO grateful to have found you and will treasure the memories of planning and celebrating our wedding with you and your wonderful husband. If you're reading this and looking for an officiant who will respect YOUR views, vision, and heart - Sandra is the one.

he created a beautiful atmosphere in our apartment and enabled my partner (now husband) and me to feel free to express our deep love for each other in the most meaningful and satisfying way.

nto NYC to get to know us. From this meeting, she crafted a ceremony that was both unique and true to ourselves. Great attention was paid to choosing readings and passages that were consistent with our voice. She took the lead in constructing the ceremony and was receptive to our feedback on a few rounds of edits. On the day of the ceremony, Reverend Bargman was there early, and made sure that everything was set for a successful ceremony. And it was. The ceremony focused on our love of nature, curiosity, and adventure-- it matched the day and the venue perfectly. Our friends and family had so many good things to say about Sandra’s ceremony, style, and delivery. Thank you! -Caitlin and Spencer

gh working on our ceremony script, to our wedding day, and post-wedding follow-up. She made time to meet us in person ahead of the wedding day to walk us through what to expect during the ceremony. On the day of, Sandra arrived at our venue well ahead of time to alleviate any worries for us. As neither of us enjoy being the center of attention, Sandra’s calming presence was exactly what we needed ahead of our big moment. For our ceremony script, we chose one of Sandra’s pre-written pieces (with some customization). As Sandra assured us, these scripts were timeless and profound in their beautiful simplicity. Several of our relatives commented how true our ceremony was to our relationship even though it wasn’t written specifically for us. As for delivery, Sandra has a gift for creating intimacy in an open space and drawing in the audience. From her work in performing arts, she understands the power of stage presence through voice and body language, but also knows how to moderate it for a deeply personal spiritual event. Overall, we couldn’t be happier with our experience with Sandra and we are grateful for having met her!

ponsive as soon as I reached out and within a few days of our initial conversation we had an in-person meeting so we could get to know each other. I felt like she really took the time to understand what we wanted and didn’t push us one way or another regarding the ceremony. My husband and I are both pretty laid back people and we both wanted something short and sweet. We did not have anyone do any special readings nor did we want to write our own vows. Sandra wrote everything and let us make any edits or suggestions that we wanted. It was amazing how well she was able to understand us just by our first meeting and filling out her questionnaire. We had Sandra at our rehearsal as well and she really walked us thru everything we needed to know. The day of the wedding she took care of everything that involved her so I didn’t need to worry about anything. The ceremony itself was perfect! It was everything I could have ever imagined it to be. After the ceremony I had so many people approach me and tell me what a great job she did. It had just the right amount of love, romance, humor and included our family and friends which is exactly what we wanted. Thank you so much Sandra for making our wedding so beautiful and special!

a coffee shop in NYC with Sandra it felt more like new friends getting to know each other. We ended up meeting a few weeks later for dinner and cocktails and we continued to get to know each other. She took our stories of how we met, and and who we are and masterfully developed a custom ceremony for us with patience and grace. The ceremony that she created for us captured her performance background while enveloping our guests in a heartfelt procession that fit who we are and gave a platform for the love we have for each other to shine through, making no mistake that it was OUR wedding and that this ceremony was truly ours. Thank you Sandra for your professionalism and grace as you helped us cross into our new life together." -Peter Wolford-

our vows in Polish! Everyone at the wedding was completely surprised and very moved by this effort. Sandra was absolutely wonderful! Sandrę poleciła moja siostra. Planowaliśmy skromna ceremonie ślubna, dla każdego z nas jest to już drugie małżeństwo. Sandra zaskoczyła nas wygłaszając przysięgę w języku polskim. Kompletnie nie spodziewaliśmy się tego. Wszyscy nasi goście byli nie tylko zaskoczeni ale rownież wzruszeni faktem iż Sandra jako anglojęzyczna osoba dołożyła starań i wysiłku aby wygłosić przysięgę w języku polskim. Sandra jest poprostu wspaniała! -Sylwia & Grzegorz

ndra has a very calming presence and made us feel comfortable with the entire process. She did not just read directly from our questionnaire, she took the time to create a personalized ceremony. Sandra was able to incorporate our overall vibe and tone into a beautiful ceremony and guests raved about the ceremony. It was well written, joyous, and was spoken in a way that can captivate any audience. I highly recommend Sandra!

pondences made me feel extremely comfortable with her performing our wedding ceremony. She took the time to really get to know us and the history of our relationship. She took our ideas, and our love of the beach (where spent our first date, and where my wife asked me to marry her two years later) to create a beautiful sand ceremony that included my teenage children, and made them truly feel apart of the day. She was extremely responsive and it was obvious from our first communication that she cared about creating a unique experience for us. She considered every detail, including our opinion on which robe we would like her to wear. The day of our wedding she showed up early, walked through everything with us, and was very successful at helping us feel at ease. We had forgotten to purchase something, and she even went to the store for us so that we could great our guests. Our ceremony was “unconventional,” memorable, and heartwarming. Our family and friends truly enjoyed the day and it was a wonderful way to begin the rest of our lives together. We couldn't have asked for more. Mica and Lori England

met this need, but helped keep the content spiritual and appealing to both our families. Her professionalism, timeliness and willingness to drive long distances speaks highly of her and the work she does. If Mary and I had a 10th wedding anniversary tomorrow, we would pick Sandra to renew our vows over anyone else regardless of where we live.

it would be difficult to choose an officiant without meeting in person, but I was wrong. My husband and I were able to “meet” Sandra through video chat and it really felt as though we were sitting in the same room with her. We quickly became very comfortable speaking with her and greatly appreciated her genuine interest, compassion, and understanding. We could tell that she was committed to helping us make our vision for our wedding day become a reality. Reverend Sandra had us complete a questionnaire to help guide her in the process of creating our personalized wedding ceremony. Through video chat, telephone calls, emails, and our questionnaire responses, Sandra was able to accurately envision the experience we wanted to create for ourselves and our wedding guests. I asked that she include a brief funny poem that my teenage brother, who has special needs, could read. Without me asking, Sandra came up with a unique idea for my brother to be included during our sand ceremony. It meant so much to me and it is one of my favorite memories from our wedding. We really appreciate the amount of forethought that Sandra put into planning our wedding ceremony, including her kind and thoughtful interactions with my brother. Sandra helped us feel very comfortable and prepared for the ceremony. It is extremely helpful to know what to expect on such an important day. We received numerous compliments after the wedding about our officiant. It felt good to know that not only were we very happy with Sandra and our ceremony, but so were our guests. Input from others included that Reverend Sandra is very well-spoken, she created a very personalized and beautiful ceremony, she easily and graciously adapted to unforeseen circumstances (noisy boaters during the ceremony), and had a calming, comforting presence. Reverend Sandra exceeded our expectations and helped us create wonderful memories that will last a lifetime. We are forever grateful to her.

ime to understand us, our story, our special circumstances and our vision for the wedding. We wanted the ceremony to not be religious, but telling our story and sharing what a deep connection and special bond we have with each other. Sandra put together a wonderful story bringing us and our guests through a lot of emotions…from happiness, excitement, laughter. She captured those feeling so beautifully in her own, but also in our words. We were truly blessed to have met her, we are still having goosebumps thinking about this wonderful moment that has changed our lives forever." - Irina and Chris, NYC

sublimate it. She carved that unique and precious moment into our hearts with well chosen words, stunning presence, a vibrant voice and exceptional care. We are really happy to hold her name next to ours on our marriage certificate." - Nidal and Timothy, NYC

master of the ceremony, like a DJ. At every turn, she stepped forward and handled those tasks for us, making our wedding flow much more smoothly than it would have. She really rose to the occasion. She and her husband even took the time to light all of the many candles we had on our guest tables without being asked!! AWESOME ENERGY, ceremony and help!" - Sarah and Leslie

put together a more loving, embracing, meaningful, funny, and FUN ceremony. And the girl can SING! A million thank you's, Sandra!

into the one of your dreams (or nightmares). From the moment we contacted Sandra we could tell that she really cared about making our day special, and knew exactly the kind of gravity her position holds. She ensured that we made contact with her personally and took the time to ensure that she had a perfect grasp on exactly what we were looking for. She truly dug deep into our relationship with one another, all the way back to how we met and what transpired on our first date. Sandra was very professional and very knowledgeable on a vast amount of different ceremony rituals and even provided assistance to us in writing our wedding vows to one another. I would fell comfortable recommending Sandra’s services to any of my friends or family.