** The Knot does not text about an inquiry. For faster response, please write me here and let me know about yourselves (Jewish, interfaith, secular) -- but also send a text. TY! 267-902-7752. "How is this officiant different from all other officiants?" I can offer an answer in one sentence. In the words of Rabbi Mordechai Kaplan: "I believe the past has a vote, but not a veto." (i.e. While the traditions of any religion or culture are a great place to BEGIN the process of (anything), they do not dictate it -- esp. when they don’t reflect YOUR beliefs.) It completely applies to weddings. I NEVER officiate the same ceremony twice (as s0 many "budget" officiants do.) I don't hand you a few pre-scripted ceremonies and ask you to pick. Worse, I don't do a ceremony written in the Middle Ages and which has been done for every couple, the exact same way, ever since! [As if every couple is the same; as if human values have not evolved; as if the scientific method has not affected our theological beliefs from the men who wrote the texts that form the foundation of our traditions!?!] I take great care to learn about you, YOUR values, and create a ceremony that celebrates YOUR unique love story. Probably 80% of the couples I marry are Catholic-Jewish partners, but I've married Quakers, Hindus, Baptists -- you name it! My non-Jewish couples usually self-define as "spiritual but not religious"; I can create a ceremony with SO much more heart and soul than a "justice of the peace" would because I've seen them! I'm officially ordained as a rabbi and have I've studied or worked in all non-Orthodox Jewish groups for 30 years: Reconstructionist, Secular Humanist, Reform, Conservative, Renewal. My first career was journalism, and I've written a wealth of resources to help you weigh your ceremony options. I'm also a certified facilitator with Prepare&Enrich, an optional (free) program that measures how you compare in 9 key areas scientifically shown to affect marital happiness . Here is how the process works: FIRST, we have a phone call to "meet" (no obligation!) SECOND, I invite you to my home to brainstorm the MANY options you have for your ceremony; it takes ,2 hours (still no obligation!) THIRD, I write a ceremony based on your decisions for readings, rituals, etc. You make a 50% deposit to reserve your date whenever you're ready. The most popular (and unique) element of my ceremonies is "The Love Story.” Here, I ask you each to answer questions about how you met, your first date, what qualities you fell in love with, etc. You email me the answers privately – the surprise is half the fun! I hope you can find time to read reviews other couples have left, as they really are the best testimony to my work. Also, don't miss the 5-minute video posted here showing highlights of a co-officiated ceremony I conducted with an Episcopalian. I am HONORED to work with LGBTQ couples. Congratulations on this exciting leap in your life! -- Rabbi Joysa