A Landmark Day in Your Life
The Alexander is a restaurant and social club in Rochester, NY, where New American cuisine and craft cocktails make wedding days instantly memorable. Deep inside this historic 1800s mansion, you and your loved ones will experience hospitality at its finest, whether it's a rehearsal dinner, bridal shower, or the main event wedding reception. Authentic, warm, and true, every moment at The Alexander is unforgettable, so bring your closest family and friends on a journey you will talk about for many years to come.
Exclusive Access Throughout
Depending on the layout and your overall plans for the big day, The Alexander has a flexible capacity of 50 to 100 people. When you book your wedding here, you can speak to Jonathan Swan or another member of the team about your ideas for the decor, theme, cuisine, and more. They will be with you throughout the planning stage and especially on the wedding day itself to ensure everything goes to plan and follows your timeline exactly.
A Culinary Feast
As well as offering a spectacular place to say "I do," The Alexander is a thriving restaurant every other day of the week. This means you and your guests can look forward to a reception dinner designed by world-class chefs, where every course is carefully curated to match your vision. If you're ready to dine like royalty and celebrate with abandon at a venue that is instantly Instagram-worthy, get in touch with Jonathan today and start talking weddings.
Woman-owned Business
1+ year in business
Speaks English
Medium team (11-20 members)
Amenities + details
Amenities
Ceremony Area
Dressing Room
Handicap Accessible
Indoor Event Space
Liability Insurance
On-Site Accommodations
Outdoor Event Space
Reception Area
Wireless Internet
Ceremony Types
Civil Union
Commitment Ceremony
Elopement
Interfaith Ceremony
Non-Religious Ceremony
Religious Ceremony
Second Wedding
Vow Renewal Ceremony
Settings
Historic Venue
Restaurant
Venue Service Offerings
Bar & Drinks
Food & Catering
Planning
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Lee Petraglia 5.0
1/11/26
We ate at the restaurant last night for the first time and it certainly won’t be the last. Very Very pleased with our dinner. The Caesars salad and artichoke appetizers were great. For dinner we had the crab fried rice and the salmon. They wer...
e both absolutely delightful. I would strongly recommend making a reservation and exploring this restaurant.
Sonakshi Das 5.0
11/08/25
Very beautiful place. The drinks and food were pretty great and but maybe not worth the price. You’re paying more for the abeyance than the food. The staff was very kind but we definitely felt rushed. We were there to celebrate a birthday and g...
ot private seating which was awesome! Wanted to spend a little time chatting, however we kept getting asked if we wanted to box or food and get the bill. Wish they let us take our time.
Ariel Santillo 5.0
11/15/25
I had a wonderful dining experience at The Alexander. The service was polite and attentive, and the atmosphere is just beautiful with warm lighting, candles, and inviting decor. Most importantly, the food was excellent! While the menu is certai...
nly not the largest, they seem to have perfected the dishes they do offer. The crab fried rice and the Alexander burger were standouts. We will definitely return in the future!
US “RocGuy” Traveler 3.0
2/19/26
Small menu with simple dishes. Dinner room still an old fashioned ambient but nice.
Mizz VIP 2.0
3/01/26
The menu is small with not many items that pop out. I ordered the crab fried rice. It is flavorful with lots of veggies, egg and chili. The crab is lost in the recipe. It wasn't visible or tasted. The 5 Korean wings were not crispy or the flavo...
r that I expected. The 2 drinks were the star of the show. $88+tip later, I was very underwhelmed.
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