Tom was the officiant for our wedding. At rehearsal, Tom was very assertive, which was helpful, but also very opinionated and TOLD us what we were doing and what we weren’t doing for the ceremony. We were hoping to rehearse the ceremony with th...e music to figure out timing, but Tom was so rushed to leave. During rehearsal, Tom also made unprofessional comments regarding men that were chosen as bride’s men. Tom made a rude comment, asking “are the guys holding bouquets too and linking arms?” Due to lack of actual rehearsing, when he arrived on day of ceremony, we had changed a few things and bridal party (all very capable adults) knew exactly what they needed to do, but Tom was openly complaining to bridal party about the changes, which had no effect on Tom’s role. We told our ushers to usher guests to their seats, but, without our permission, Tom told them not to, which caused confusion and left our guests still standing 10 minutes prior to ceremony. This also had no impact on Tom’s role, but he still proceeded to instruct them to do what he wanted them to do, without asking what we wanted. Tom pulled me (bride) aside prior to grandparents photos and complained to me about the changes that were made, stating “that’s not how we rehearsed it. Are you aware of this?” He then made rude comments on the changes that were made and stated to me “why can’t we just keep it the way we rehearsed it?” These changes had ZERO impact on Tom’s role. Tom then attempted to pull me aside again(during photos)to discuss how the ushers would be handling reserved seating for immediate family and Tom was told that the ushers (very capable adults) knew what to do, but continued to question me and make rude comments “do you know how embarrassing it is if someone has to be moved if they are seated in reserved seating?” During rehearsal, it was decided that we (bride and groom) would usher guests out, instead of having a receiving line, but during the wedding ceremony, Tom announced to the guests that we would be greeting guests during reception instead, which was not the plan. During ceremony, Tom made loud announcements about where we needed to move to for photos. During rehearsal, he said that he would quietly gesture these things. It didn’t feel natural. He also made awkward comments during ceremony. After the ceremony, we were visiting with guests and Tom interrupted us to say “you can’t do this right now. You will be stuck here for 20 minutes. This is going to take too long. You need to sign the marriage license.” Tom was very rude and opinionated on many other occasions with multiple people. I was very shocked to see how different Tom acted and behaved in person versus his very polite and accommodating correspondence prior to meeting him. If you are looking for an opinionated and rude officiant, Tom is your guy. We even had several guests comment on his unprofessionalism. Tom will probably refute this, but this 100% accurate. We will not be asking for a refund, as that is not the intent of this. We read all of his 5 star reviews, and there is no way, judging by his behavior on our wedding day, that he is deserving of a 5 star rating. We just want to warn future couples who are in search of an officiant for their big day.