Tom Hams Lighthouse

ckdrop of downtown and the bay. The staff was very responsive and helpful throughout the entire planning process. Their Harbor View reception room comfortably fitted our 65 guests. We loved the buffet and highly recommend the Sirloin and Sesonal Fish. The guests were raving about the Creamy Green Beans & Mushrooms. The value and cost were truly unbeatable compared to every other wedding venue in San Diego. The only drawback was the end time. Our wedding went from 4-10 pm, but the music and drinks had to end at 9:30 pm. Overall, highly recommend Tom Ham's Lighthouse, especially if you're having a smaller wedding.

pricing was very reasonable considering the location and the amazing view, the food was delicious (which we found to be pretty uncommon for weddings), and the staff were great. They have a beautiful ceremony space right on site with minimal deco needed (if any) and provide all the furniture, linens and other basic necessities, so you don't need to worry about rentals. Laugan and Lisa (event coordinators) were very responsive and easy to work with. The venue has plenty of free parking and is located at the very end of Harbor Island, which was perfect for us. We could not be more happier to have had our ceremony and reception at Tom Ham's.

absolutely beautiful! The outdoor ceremony area on site near the ocean made it magical. The convenience of having a beautiful ceremony location and reception at the same venue was convenient for guests. Laugan and Lisa with the events staff were great and responsive in communicating and easy to work with. We had a great experience with our food tasting prior to the wedding. All of the food choices were phenomenal and the entire venue looked amazing! Highly recommend for a wedding venue!

ood was delicious! It was a perfect wedding location and absolutely gorgeous. I have only received compliments from guests about the venue and the food. It was wonderful (and also an amazing place just to have dinner), highly recommend. I can’t imagine having had my wedding anywhere else

ully Tom Ham's Lighthouse made a few logistical changes and we were still able to have a small October wedding. Perla was so organized, professional, and helpful throughout the whole process. We were able to have our reception outdoors and our guests absolutely loved the view and the food. The wedding ran perfectly and all of the staff was so kind and professional. I highly recommend Tom Ham's Lighthouse for the most beautiful wedding day!

ges are perfect. Thank you Tom Ham's Lighthouse!

our date after touring the venue. You cannot beat the location and view. Wow, I am now so glad I chose TH. With all of the regulations put in place there was a time I was worried we would have to postpone or cancel entirely. TH stepped up to the plate and was as cautiously optimistic as I wise that we could pull off a safe and beautiful wedding! Perla is truly incredible! From the beginning, she was organized and detail oriented. We were able to truly have the wedding of our dreams because Perla and TH were able to work with us to create it. Due to COVID, we had a smaller guest list and the biggest change we made was having our reception on the ceremony site. TH did a beautiful job, guests were seated at their reception tables upon arrival. Then after the ceremony, they set up a king's table under the arch. We were able to decorate the outdoor space with papel picado and string lights. We also set up AMOR marquee letters. The wedding was absolutely stunning and I think it was because we were able to have it all on the ceremony site! Perla was a wonderful coordinator! She made my dream wedding happen safely for us and our guests. Thank you!!

to spare, we had a venue for our intimate ceremony and lunch. They really felt for us and were able to work some magic around another event that day just to help us out (shout out to the coordinator Perla - PRAISE)! By the time we got there, ur story had circulated the staff and they could not have been more accommodating. One of the owners (Andy) was there and stepped right in there, didn't even realize who he was at the time. Tom Ham's offer such gorgeous views, great food, and amazing service! They helped make our day SO special and for that we are forever grateful. If you are looking for a San Diego venue, don't leave this place off the list!

as soon as I viewed the ceremony site and California Room as a bride, I knew I wanted to get married there. It was the best idea we made. We had our wedding of 104 people in the California Room on 11/16/2019. Throughout the planning process Perla and Brooke were amazingly responsive, which eased my anxious mind. As soon as I would email, they would respond within an hour or two! They were extremely professional and you could tell right away they knew what they were doing. My husband and I were extremely grateful to have worked with such professionals. There were many times I would email them to ask if we could do something for our reception, and they were always so warm and accommodating! They allowed us to bring in our own homebrewed beer as wedding favors (as long as they weren't opened at the wedding). The building and beautiful view added so much to our wedding photos and videography! It was the perfect setting to get married. The wedding day itself went PERFECTLY. I had heard so many venue horror stories from friends who had gotten married, and we had NONE. The ceremony site was perfect and the view was gorgeous! All of our local and particularly our out of town guests could not get over how beautiful the view of the harbor is. They all loved having cocktails out on the patio and enjoying the view through sundown into the night time. The food was delicious, the open bar we paid for was extremely affordable and WORTH IT. So many guests commented on the great choice of beers, and the availability of tray passed alcohol at the cocktail hour so there were no annoying long bar lines! The waitstaff was amazing and polite. I felt like they really valued taking care of us and our guests. There was another wedding going on in the room next door the same day, which I was worried about, but honestly you couldn't even tell! I seriously loved it so much, my only wish is that our wedding day could have been longer! So many friends were texting me up to two weeks after saying ours was one of the best weddings they have been to and I think a large part of that was the venue! Tom Ham's Lighthouse had the perfect mix of great food, service, and classiness, while still being one of the more affordable places we looked at. If you're still looking for a venue, you should definitely go to Tom Ham's Lighthouse.

ound even after the sun went down. Our ceremony photos look beautiful under the icon arch they have onsite, and it felt very private and secluded despite the restaurant being steps away. With a guest count of 140 people, we opted for both the Harbor View Room for Cocktail Hour and the California Room for the reception. The flow worked really well. We received several compliments on our food; their staff even accommodated a unique off-menu late night food request which our guests loved! The staff was super easy to work with throughout the planning process, answering many questions and working with us on the different packages offered. We have a go-to spot for our anniversary now, not something you can say for every wedding venue!

saying it’s the best wedding food they’ve ever had. But the wedding coordinators Brooke and Perla truly made planning our wedding seamless. Most wedding venues you have to get your own coordinator. These two women helped me with every detail and made our wedding day the best day ever. Hands down the best venue to get married at in San Diego!

d in a very timely manner and with high levels of customer service. They were invaluable at the rehearsal and day off. We even had a few folks show up without RSVP-ing and they helped take care of it immediately with no stress. Day of the set up staff as well as wait staff were extremely professional and efficient. We have received so many compliments on the venue as well as how great the food was. 100% recommend to any future brides. They made planning a wedding stress free! Additionally the view is unreal and the facilities are very updated.

with. I sent emails over the past year asking questions, making requests, and trying to get my details all in order. Brooke was always on top of emailing me back very quickly, giving answers, offering great options, and being so very helpful! The venue is one of a kind. It is on the water and offers spectacular views, especially as the sun sets over the cityscape. Tom Ham's staff made the atmosphere of our wedding one of a kind. The food was incredible. I am still having people reach out to me about it being the best wedding food they have ever had. We had the short-ribs and salmon. The team had a solution for guests with allergies, allowed us to work out different options with the meal and drink packages, and make changes throughout the process. The service was amazing, the servers were very kind, efficient, and attentive. I also still have guests reaching out about Tom Ham's being the most beautiful wedding location they have ever seen. Their ceremony site and reception allow for a great all-inclusive wedding venue. And surprisingly enough, despite Tom Ham's being incredible all the way around, it is still an affordable option for a wedding! If I was asked one aspect I could change about the venue and the service they provided, I would not be able to come up with a single thing. I highly recommend Tom Ham's Lighthouse for a delicious dinner and beautiful view, but more than that for a wedding or big event in your life, because you will not be disappointed. I am seriously blown away by this place! My husband and I cannot wait to go back!

the ceremony site and the reception views! Many people told my parents it was the nicest wedding they had ever been to.

s all the way until we paid the tab at the end of the night was perfect, easy, smooth and I would do it all again. Thank you guys for making our night perfect and unforgettable and thank you for the amazing service!! Becki M

entive, and of course, the views were spectacular. If you're considering having your ceremony and/or reception at Tom Ham's, don't think twice!

ered my many questions via email almost immediately. Come the day of the wedding I knew I would have nothing to worry about. Everything turned out amazing and the venue was a hit with all our out of town guests. Thank you Tom Hams for helping to make our day perfect!

the whole process the staff were extremely helpful. Beth, the catering manager, ensured that we got food during the cocktail hour and during our meal. Brooke and Perla were also on hand during the rehearsal and the ceremony to ensure everything went off without a hitch. The views of downtown San Diego and the harbor were fantastic and we can't wait to see how our photos turned out! Overall, we were very pleased with the entire event.

lanning of our big day and these ladies are fantastic! I wish I knew everyone's names to thank them personally. Seriously best venue in San Diego!!

y when we were planning, and the staff did an incredible job the whole night, especially when we were thrown a curveball and had to move the ceremony inside at the last minute due to rain. We definitely made the right choice, Tom Ham's was great!

erfectly framed by the ceremony area arch), it was an ideal place to have a wedding in San Diego. Here’s the highlights: The good: +Food tasted great and was beautifully presented +Waiters/waitresses and bartenders provided fantastic service +If you get both rooms, the entire bottom floor is dedicated to your event so it feels pretty private +The view is breathtaking! +They provide the following so you don’t have to rent: Nice white chairs for the ceremony, nice gold chairs for the reception, tables, napkins, plates, utensils, and glasses. They also provide tablecloths, however they are NOT floor length, so we rented these. The bad: -The air conditioning was either not working or not functioning so people didn’t want to get on the dance floor because it was so hot. The few people who were on the dance floor would literally run outside to gasp for drenched in sweat. We had a late August wedding, so it was about 75 degrees as a ‘high’ for the day, and by night fall it was about 69 degrees. With 150 people, the temperature inside was unbearable. My wedding coordinator and I both asked the Tom Hams event coordinator and the manager multiple times to cool down the room, but supposedly there was nothing else they could do, despite the fact that not one vent had cold air coming out of it. I’m not sure what the reason was for the lack of A/C, but it really put a damper on the night since no one was dancing. -The entire bottom floor is comprised of 2 rooms. If you only book one room, the venue doesn’t give you first right of refusal if there are other interested parties for the other room. The rooms are not soundproof at all and you’d be sharing a balcony (they would just put fake walls to separate the balcony -The ‘beef’ options are either sirloin steak or short-rib. We wanted to go with the ‘steak’ option, but ‘sirloin’ doesn’t necessarily sound that great on a menu/RSVP card. So we had to pay an extra $28pp+ 20% service fee + 8% tax to upgrade to New Yorks -We had booked the venue 14 months in advance of our wedding date and we had been working with Stephanie, their events coordinator. One month before our wedding, Stephanie no longer worked at there. One month before our wedding, and the person we had been working with for 13 months just vanished! No ‘transition’ email, no ‘FYI’, we had to figure it out by asking the question ourselves! Very unprofessional. -The set up time is extremely tight. You are only guaranteed 1 hour before your event start time to set-up. When we signed the contract, we didn’t realize how unreasonable this was. If there isn’t another event before yours, then you can set up earlier, but they only guarantee more time if you buy more time ($600/hr) or if a week out they don’t have another event. They even tried to get out of guaranteeing the extra time a week before our event date, even though no one else had an event on our day. -If you buy the ceremony package (an extra $700 fee), just know this only pays for the set up fees; this doesn’t give you extra time in the contract, so you only have 6 hours for the entire event (ceremony, cocktail hour, reception) and you have to shut off the music 30 minutes before your event ending time. Everything felt rushed, even with only a 30 minute ceremony and 1 hour cocktail hour.

that this is where we would get married. You just cannot beat the view!! Working with Brooke was wonderful. I was a very organized Bride but even the most organized Bride's forget things. Brooke was relaxed and accommodating to all the last minute changes. I had a separate day-of coordinator who was a family friend and Brooke worked so well with her. Had I not had my family friend, I completely would have been fulfilled as a bride to have her run the show the day-of. In addition to Brooke, was our dinner captain Beth. Beth was amazing. During our one on one photos during the cocktail hour she brought my husband and I drinks and plates of food. She checked on us throughout dinner. At one point, one of our guests noticed a guy lurking at the gift table. Beth, within seconds had her staff move the table into the reception room (from the cocktail room). Our bartender, Eljae, was also great. He was fun and chatted with us before the wedding began. He took great care of my guests! In addition to the staff, the venue itself, I believe, is a great deal. I was definitely on a budget and their packages were a great fit for my needs. I had a few things brought in by Concepts such as pipe and drape to cover the server doors, market lights, chargers and full-length table linens. Tom Hams provided the napkins and they have a great runner for the ceremony. My favorite part about Tom Hams is that the gold chiavari chairs are INCLUDED! With 50% of the guest being from or of town Tom Hams was perfect. They received a great view of San Diego, had a hotel (The Hilton) at walking distance and the airport next door. Thank you Brooke and your entire team!! I cannot wait to have my anniversary dinners here in the future.

ly. There were sail boats floating behind us during the ceremony and it was so epic haha. We had a total of 60 guests and we selected the Harbor View Room. The size was perfect for our needs. Our head table was served first and everyone else was served minutes later. The food came out hot and the servers were all attentive. Our guests enjoyed the patio overlooking Downtown San Diego and the Coronado Bridge. I don't think you can get a better view. There was also plenty of parking, being that the location is tucked away from any major roads. I would highly recommend this venue!

that too was achieved by having our ceremony and reception here! Kelsey got us started and both she and Stephany made sure our day was as stress free as possible! Our wedding became "destination" as we moved after placing the deposit- but I had ZERO worries thanks to the venue we chose! Our guests (and photographer!) raved about the food and the view! I'd rave about the excellent customer service too!

both rooms, the California Room and the Harbor View room for our 185 guests. Everyone keeps raving about the wedding because of this venue. The service far exceeded our expectation. While my husband and I were taking photos, a server, Beth, brought us drinks and made sure that we got a plate of appetizers for just the two of us. This was so kind and made us feel special. For the incredible view, amazing food, fantastic service, and amazing staff, we feel like Tom Ham's is a great deal compared to other venues in San Diego. Thank you for helping us have the best wedding day ever!

eat by itself. The best part is working with Stephany she is truly wonderful. She made everything so easy. I didnt have a wedding coordinator but I didn't need one with Stephany there. She planned the whole thing and made sure everything ran so smooth. Would highly recommend this venue and its wonderful staff.

(especially the coconut shrimp appetizer). We utilized the California Room for a wedding of about 120 people and had plenty of room with tables, a DJ, dance floor, and photo booth. Cocktail hour and buffet were set up on the outdoor patio which was beautiful. It is a bit expensive, ~10,000 for our 120 people before we added an open bar.

ing and organized. I would recommend Tom Ham's 100%.

at my mom's table and other tables did not get cake. My mom never left the table and was not served. My sister asked a server where the rest of the cake was and he pointed to the cake table with a slice left saying that's what's left. When we were leaving the head caterer asked us what we wanted to do with the half sheet of cake that was left over. I'm disappointed that a restaurant of this class has flaws like this. This is unacceptable lack of communication among the staff. The mother of the bride's table should be one of the first tables to be served not a table thats skipped.

out hot and absolutely delicious. The bartenders were awesome, professional, and never kept anyone waiting. Stephany and Chelsea were always flexible and able to answer all of my questions and accommodate all of our needs throughout the planning process. The ceremony location it stunning, they have done an excellent job! I HIGHLY recommend this venue to anyone looking. They were one of the only wedding venues that actually seemed to enjoy the process of a wedding. We never felt like they were trying to upsell us on anything, they included all the bells and whistles that you would want and expect, and the food is WELL above average. Perfect wedding, thanks to them!

ly the dance floor, but it was just right for the intimate feel we were going for. We did long banquet style tables, which were narrower than we expected but worked fine. We wanted linens that were floor length so we had to rent them, as the venue linens are short. We also rented outdoor lounge furniture to take advantage of the patio and the gorgeous views! The wedding coordinator Stephany was great and very accommodating. I would highly recommend this venue to anyone looking for an affordable but elegant experience.

was delicious! You definitely cannot beat the view of downtown from the California Room! Tom Ham's event team was also great to work with and made sure that our wedding reception was a success!!

he coordinator, Stephany was amazing and attentive and very accommodating.

spond to any questions, and we were happy with the service provided during the reception.

o. I chose a buffet and the food selection & presentation is still being complimented a month after our wedding. Our hardest decision was selecting our food choices during our tasting appointment because everything was spectacular! The staff was truly top notch assisting our guest and any special needs graciously during the buffet process. The very last dish served was as hot & well presented as the first. (which was a concern) Nicely done! Stephany who is the Special Event Coordinator was a pleasure & dream to work with. Stephany was available before, during and after the wedding. I choose not to hire a wedding coordinator after my first meeting with Stephany and the Owner Larry. I was reassured Stephany could handle the time line the day of our wedding and she did so in a very professional manner. Our wedding ran smoothly and exactly the way I planned if not better. All in all, I would give Tom Hams Lighthouse a higher score if I could. My wedding was absolutely perfect in large part to Tom Hams Lighthouse and it's spectacular staff!

y. During the dinner, the staff did a perfect job. Our every need was taken care of while at the same time we barely noticed the staff was there (the perfect staffing for an event). And you can't beat the view for the 4th! All of my guests were so impressed with the venue and service.

e staff, the food, the service were all incredible. TH definitely knows what they're doing when it comes to weddings and it shows. It's also close to 2 hotels which our wedding guests all stayed in. The banquet menu and all-inclusiveness of their pricing can't be beat. And with the recent renovation it looks phenomenal. Thank-you Tom Ham's!!!

will get a surprise fireworks show. The food is great, the view is awesome and Judy, the banquet mgr is wonderful to work with. She took away all of my worries. The service was great as well. I give Beth a lot of credit for her hard work. The price is reasonable and we picked the buffet. I highly recommend the food they serve at Tom Ham's. The view is a plus, especially when you have people from out of town attending your wedding.

ding coordinators went out for their way to make sure everything was perfect. The food was supreme and the one on one time we had with the chef at the tasting was a great feature. The service of the all the staff the day of wedding was excellent! Thank you too them all for making my day so mememorable.

ink it's a bargain for the price

rything was great.

package but do it all individually), and excellent service!! I want to re-live this night over and over again!!