Q&A: Invitations: Addressing One to a Married Couple?

Q:

What is the appropriate way of addressing an envelope to married couples? I have always thought that using, “Mr. & Mrs. John Doe" was correct. Can you address the envelope as, “Mr. & Mrs. John & Jane Doe", or is this tacky? And shouldn't people over 18 get their own invitation even if they're living at home with parents?

A:

You're right that the traditional address wording is “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe", only using the husband's first name. It's completely appropriate to include the wife's first name as well -- it's not tacky, it's gracious. “John and Jane Doe" reads a bit more smoothly than “Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe", but it's true that the titles make it more formal. And you're right: Traditionally, a guest 18 or older who still lives at home should get his own invitation.